Post # 1
We are spending a lot of money on this and my fear is that hardly anyone from my side shows up. A close friend of mine had this happen to her at her wedding (due to late notice and conflicting work schedules). But yeah my fear is most of my ‘friends’ picking another function to go to over mine or even planning a vacation instead of coming to my wedding. I guess you will find out who your true friends are.
Post # 3
I second the “no one coming” fear… but also that the amount of money we’re spending won’t be worth it. That’s really, really weighing on my mind even though it’s not my money. What if it’s not worth it? What if I totally, totally regret it? Ugh.
Post # 4
I sort of had the no one coming to my wedding fear play out. We didn’t have a lot of friends come to the wedding and I have to admit part of me hated it.
Post # 5
I’m terrified of not liking how everything looks when it all comes together. It would be so dissapointing. I know that isn’t what the day is about at all, and that I’m the only one that will notice, but after all this hard work it really would be upsetting.
Post # 6
My biggest fear is the weather! We’re having an outdoor wedding in march eeek! Also, we’re making our final payments on everything with my mans bonus which is scheduled to arrive just a few short weeks before the wedding… and that FREAKS me out! If someone/something screws up and we don’t get it in time i don’t know what we’ll do!
Post # 7
im freak about the space… im making a back yard wedding in my inlaws house… i have never see the house in person because is new and they live in puerto rico… i only have pictures and measurements… i just hope that it will be enough space… im also afraid because im doing everything and i hope i have enough time to complete everything the day of the wedding
Post # 8
I’m nervous about going over budget…It’s really early in my planning and I’m already taking money out of vendor budgets to make room for others. It’s hard to stay on track when I have a vision in my head!!
Post # 9
I think my biggest fear is one of my vendors not showing up! I’ve actually already had nightmares about the DJ not coming and my guests having to entertain themselves…
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery
My biggest fear is that a lot of people won’t come because it’s on Labor Day weekend. I thought this would enable more people to come, but I’ve read in books that holiday weekends are a no-no…oops. We have a 200 person minimum, and I’m not sure how many people to invite to ensure that we hit the minimum.
Post # 11
That people will be bored! I really want everyone to have a blast.
Post # 12
50% of people are flying in for the wedding (including us!) – so I’m afraid that someone will miss their flight/get stuck in some freak storm/be stranded because of a failed terrorist attack etc.
Post # 13
@Bean. That’s my problem as well. Ours in on Memorial Day weekend, which we chose because a lot of my family is out of town. I figured that they never have plans that weekend anyways and it would make it easier for them to travel without taking vacation time. Well I have already heard from several family members that they aren’t coming (I haven’t even mailed the invites). I guess it’s a good thing we aren’t going to be sitting people for the ceremony by bride/groom because I would have no one on my side but my parents.
Aside from my known fear of no one coming to the wedding, I keep having this reoccuring nightmare that I decide to take a nap on the day of the wedding so I don’t look sleepy in pictures and don’t wake up til it’s over.
Post # 14
I have several:
1) We’re over-inviting by what everyone tells me is a safe margin, but I”m still worried we’ll have too many yeses and have to uninvite some people. Our hall only holds 270 and we might invite as many as 330.
2) None of my friends come because they’ll have to travel and I feel so hurt I am unable to continue those friendships
3) Some small thing goes wrong, especially with the way I look, and I am so upset by it and so OFF, that I don’t feel right or even the slightest bit happy the whole day.
4) The most likely thing to cause the above situation is a giant zit.
5) I spill something on my dress.
6) the cake looks weird
7) my grandpa is even more creepy-old-man than usual
Post # 15
@passionfruit23. i’ve been trying to lower my guestlist! i want a small wedding, i don’t want people looking at me, so i’m pretty much the opposite. i’d love for people not to show… if i didn’t already pay for their meals.
@bella13. do you have a plan b? we’re doing everything outdoors too, and while of course i’d love to not have to use our plan b because it’s just not as pretty, it does help to know that it’s there if we need it.
@marjojo. did you already send out your invites? if not, you might want to have a b list, it will help you to not over invite people and then you wont have to worry about that. and if your friends can’t come because of travel, it happens. it’s hard in this economy, don’t take it personaly.
my biggest fear is something will happen to keep me from getting married, like the rabbi won’t show. because my fi has been stressing over little stuff- like our speaker system- and i keep telling him that all that matters is that we’ll be married. and than i think oh no… what if something happens with that!
Post # 16
Definitely the fear of no one coming and no one having fun. Everything else is minor 🙂