Post # 1
Not to be a downer, but what’s the one thing you really wish you would have done differently regarding your wedding now that it is all over?
We are both recent college grads, so we obviously don’t have a lot of money and planned our wedding accordingly. We had a very down-to-earth, relaxed wedding day and budgeted the whole thing for under $5,000. People kept remarking at how all the DIY details were so wonderful, and I’m proud of us for pulling it off for close to nothing!
While I’m really proud that we pulled it off, I’m sad we didn’t just splurge and get a nice photographer. We hired a friend of a friend who did it for three hundred bucks, and while we got a ton of shots, they just aren’t that awesome.
What do you wish you would have done differently?
Post # 3
I wish we would have chosen to not have a bridal party. It just added a ton of stress. It wouldhave been much better to have skipped those drama nuts! Plus DH isn’t even friends anymore with one of his groomsmen. I hate that he’s in our pictures.
Post # 4
@mwitter80: Yeah, one of DH’s groomsmen was a childhood friend who turned out to be a total a-hole. He got so drunk the night before our rehearsal dinner that he was still hungover by evening. He sent us an apology letter and was actually pretty cool about it, but it still would have just been much easier to not have him there…
Post # 5
Not let my BM and friend (probably wouldn’t call her a “best” friend now) make a speech. It turned into way more of a roast then a toast. I think it just reflected badly on her in the end, but it was awkward and pretty embarassing for me too.
But I guess if that’s the worst thing that happens on your day, it was a pretty good one 🙂
Post # 6
I have very mixed feelings about our invitation to let our pianist (a family friend of DH’s) bring a date. Playing at our wedding was his gift to us, and it was totally lovely and we were really grateful, so I thought it’d be a sweet gesture to invite him to bring a guest to our reception (our wedding was quite small).
Turns out his lady friend was married. To someone else. And he thought it was appropriate to tipsily wax poetic about their adulterous love affair to the bride at her reception. And make out in the corner for quite some time.
Fortunately most people didn’t notice and my DH was blissfully unaware until after the fact, but it still makes me feel icky.
Other than that, I wouldn’t change a thing. And honestly, I wouldn’t even have minded that part if he had allowed me to remain ignorant of that situation. Blech.
Post # 7
I would have had our photographer take some of the photos differently and had more photos of some out of town family and friends that were there (including at least one photo of me and my mom). I also wish I would have taken the time to actually try the food and take in the whole display.
Post # 8
The only thing I wish we had done differently is I wish we had taken the time to get fun shots of the bridal party. We have lovely photos othe two of us, but we only took a couple of formal boring shots with our bridesmaids and groomsmen. Basically I just didn’t want to deal with rounding everyone up so at the time I was like “screw it!” but now looking back I wish I had stuck to my guns and gathered everyone.
Other than that the whole day was wonderful and, although I would never ever put myself through that kind of stress again, I loved every minute of the whole day.
Post # 9
Hands down the dozen or so mimosas that I consumed throughout the day. It wasn’t the champagne that did me in (actually, I wasn’t even buzzed) but the MEGA dose of Vitamin C from the OJ. My stomach was in knots for most of our reception making it less than enjoyable.
My other regret was our DJ but we really had no way of knowing that he’d drop the ball. To our guests he probably seemed like a great DJ, and he was, but he hardly played any of our “must play list”. DH and I slaved over that list for months and a lot of the songs that were on it were special to us. At our final meeting, we gave him the list and he went through and checked off the songs that he already had. Some of the songs we listed were kind of obscure so we even offered to give him the tracks since we owned them all but he said that he would get them and not to worry. Well, the day of our wedding the only songs that he played from our list were the ones that he already owned (besides the specialty dance songs, he had/got all of those). Neither of us recall hearing any of the more obscure songs (which were also some of our favorite). At one point during our reception I asked him to play a particular song from our list. He came over to me like 10 minutes later and said that he couldn’t get a connection in the ballroom so he couldn’t download the song. Um, shouldn’t that have been done prior to our wedding?! We paid a lot of money for our DJ (roughly double what our friends and family who were recently married paid) and I didn’t think he was any better or worse than them. Looking back, I wish we would have gone with someone more affordable. I wouldn’t have been quite so annoyed about the “must play list” if we didn’t pay so much.
Post # 10
ordered invitations through vistaprint rather than make them myself
Maybe not had so many photos at the venue to allow time to chat to guests
Not had so much food in the evening (original plan but Mum took over)
Having got married on a Sunday guests who had travelled long distance especially, left quite early so perhapd would do it on a Saturday, but I just didn’t like the sound of the date.
Post # 11
@mwitter80: oh that’s crazy!
Post # 12
I was so relieved that we didn’t plan more or let things get more complicated. It was perfect, and I would have been pissed in retrospect if I had spent any more time worrying about the wedding!
We were all so glad that we didn’t do more!
Post # 13
Not too many regrets, thankfully!
a couple small things…
1) The fit of my dress – I switched dresses 3 weeks before my wedding, which I DON’T regret. I loved the dress I ended up wearing… it just felt like ME. However, I wasn’t that happy with the fit of the dress. I had it let out a tiny bit and it was super comfortable (which was important to me), but it wasn’t as fitted as it should have been. I also had the straps raised because my mom thought I was showing too much (read: any) cleavage, but I liked it better before, lol. I also had padded cups which I hated – I don’t feel like I look like myself in photos!
2) Only one makeup & hair trial a couple days before – I had to travel to the wedding and didn’t meet the makeup lady until a couple days before. I wasn’t crazy about either my makeup or hair, but they were ok. I’d probably do my makeup myself if I had to do it over.
3) Photos felt rushed – I wish we’d allowed more time
4) Maaaybe wish I’d gotten a more talented photographer – however, mine was fine and inexpensive.
5) I wish I’d made a thank you toast and visited every table – I forgot to give a thank you speech and I enjoyed my entire dinner seated with out of town guests and part of my wedding party… I love that I actually got to eat, but I wish I could have visited all the tables as well. I think I talked to most everyone at some point in the evening and I did write each person a personal message on their escort card.
6) I wish I had turned my ringer off before I went to bed the night before the wedding! The next morning, a good friend who was unable to travel to the wedding started texting/calling at 8am her time… she forgot about the time difference and it was 5am where I was. I hadn’t fallen asleep until 1 or 1:30, so I was hoping to sleep in until 7 or later… but once the calls and texts woke me up at 5am, I was too excited to go back to sleep.
All very minor things… I had no big regrets and LOVED my wedding!
Post # 14
I would have done some type of online RSVP option and even invitations…waste of money and sanity. People don’t return pre stamped envelopes 😉
Post # 15
Two quick things:
1. Put the photo booth next to the dance floor. It was far away and it took people away from dancing as they were waiting in line!
2. Not make my dress quite so tight. Just because the waist can be tighter doesn’t mean it should be.
Post # 16
@Eva Peron: I am seriously considering this!