(Closed) What's your dealbreaker?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Cheating of any kind would be pretty hard for me to get over. I would try, but I’m just not sure if I could. Lying in general is also a huge issue for me.

ETA: The post below mine, abuse is absolutely a dealbreaker for me as well. Can’t believe I didn’t think of that at first.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

@yayimengaged:  Any form of abuse is my deal breaker! I can imagine cheating would be extremely difficult, but I’d try to work through it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Smoking. And of course cheating. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Cheating and abuse. My fiance and I are both each other’s first everything, and if he shared it with someone else while with me it would be over. I hope… I hope if put in that situation I would be strong enough to call it over.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Beach

I’d also say physical abuse and cheating but i guess with cheating depens on the situation im in but physical abuse is just the end 

Post # 8
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858 posts
Busy bee

I honestly dont know. I have been in a relationship that had abuse and cheating, and it hurt but it brought me to where i am today, with an amzing man and enjoying life! So i guess it depends who its with and what happens and where it brings you.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@yayimengaged:  I don’t have a “deal-breaker”  I think those are a bizarre concept and almost at times a fearful person’s self fullfilling relationship prophecy…

Any sort of physical abuse is a game ender though….that’s just common sense

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Abuse, and also if he wanted kids. We’re CBC and I’m surgically sterilized for a reason. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@yayimengaged:  Drinking, doing drugs or cheating. All dealbreakers for us.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Not wanting children, smoking (Any substances), drinking too much/drinking is a habit, cheating of course, and abuse. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Physical abuse. If he ever struck me without the pure intent of saving my life/prevent me (or someone else) from harming me or myself, that’s it.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Physical abuse definitely.  

Or if I found out he was abusing (sexually or physically) any of our kids or anyone else’s kids.   I have NEVER been able to figure out why women stay with men who abuse kids.  

 

There is a lot that I’m willing to forgive with the right amount of working together to overcome it, honest apologies, and therapy to help correct it.   

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