Post # 1
If you’re married or engaged, what’s your #1 deal breaker or that one thing that will be challenging for you to work through.
Mine is having a child out of wedlock. Infidelity would be trying as it is but the child would be the straw to break the camel back.
(Please excuse any errors. I’m using my phone.)
ETA: didn’t think of physical abuse!! I think we can all agree on that one (I hope!)
Post # 3
Cheating of any kind would be pretty hard for me to get over. I would try, but I’m just not sure if I could. Lying in general is also a huge issue for me.
ETA: The post below mine, abuse is absolutely a dealbreaker for me as well. Can’t believe I didn’t think of that at first.
Post # 4
@yayimengaged: Any form of abuse is my deal breaker! I can imagine cheating would be extremely difficult, but I’d try to work through it.
Post # 5
Smoking. And of course cheating.
Post # 6
Cheating and abuse. My fiance and I are both each other’s first everything, and if he shared it with someone else while with me it would be over. I hope… I hope if put in that situation I would be strong enough to call it over.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2014 - Beach
I’d also say physical abuse and cheating but i guess with cheating depens on the situation im in but physical abuse is just the end
Post # 8
I honestly dont know. I have been in a relationship that had abuse and cheating, and it hurt but it brought me to where i am today, with an amzing man and enjoying life! So i guess it depends who its with and what happens and where it brings you.
Post # 9
@yayimengaged: I don’t have a “deal-breaker” I think those are a bizarre concept and almost at times a fearful person’s self fullfilling relationship prophecy…
Any sort of physical abuse is a game ender though….that’s just common sense
Post # 10
Abuse, and also if he wanted kids. We’re CBC and I’m surgically sterilized for a reason.
Post # 11
@yayimengaged: Drinking, doing drugs or cheating. All dealbreakers for us.
Post # 12
Not wanting children, smoking (Any substances), drinking too much/drinking is a habit, cheating of course, and abuse.
Post # 13
Physical abuse. If he ever struck me without the pure intent of saving my life/prevent me (or someone else) from harming me or myself, that’s it.
Post # 14
@LilliePad: agree, cheating is disappointing especially when you’re doing all that you can to make it work.
Post # 15
@LeSpice: I agree! Abuse didn’t cross my mind because in my mind, it goes without saying. Unfortunately, there are some women who choose to stay in such toxic relationships.
@lenabee: cheating in your situation will most definitely be devestating. Do you get negative comments of how you and your FI will want to experience other people eventually? I got those comments a lot but it’s all about appreciating who you’re with and having self control.
Post # 16
Physical abuse definitely.
Or if I found out he was abusing (sexually or physically) any of our kids or anyone else’s kids. I have NEVER been able to figure out why women stay with men who abuse kids.
There is a lot that I’m willing to forgive with the right amount of working together to overcome it, honest apologies, and therapy to help correct it.