Post # 1
So it is just my husband and I here. Our family lives a 2 hour flight away. I am due in mid-April. The thing is with my husband’s job it is a set schedule. There really is no way to call in sick and he gets no vacation time. I’m trying to figure out our game plan for if he is working when I start to go into labor. I will be pissed if he misses the birth of our baby. I told him to ask his coworkers to see if they would be able to cover him for the day if needed but he says that the schedule is so tight that there really isn’t anyone extra. What I am really worried about is if I am in labor for a long time and he isn’t able to find anyone to cover his shift. He would have to leave me and I would deliver by myself. Ugh. It’s such a hard game to play because you can’t plan when it happens and there’s like a 1 month window (2 weeks before due date and 2 weeks after due date).
Post # 3
@hspw714: Geez. That sucks that he gets no vacation time. I have no idea what you guys could do. I would really, really hope his company would be more than understanding…
My DH is a teacher, and the bad thing is he has a LOT of honor choirs, concerts, and festiavsl around the time I could go into labor. He has already set it up with a co-worker to take over if something happens. He will also be driving himself to all the events in case he has to leave.
When he does need to leave, he is just leaving. Short notice. He also has paid time off he will use to do this.
Post # 4
@hspw714: Does your DH not get sick days?
Post # 5
@hspw714: His work can’t make an exception for the birth of his child?? Thats crazy!
Post # 6
Wow that’s awful. Is there anyone at his company that has had a child recently? What did they do? Has he talked to his boss?
Like @megz06: my husband is a teacher, and he will likely JUST be starting a new job (we’re due August 22). So while he won’t have much if any time off after the birth, I know he’ll just leave / get a sub or someone to cover his classroom to be with me when I go into labor. I literally couldn’t imagine not having him there, so I understand your worry. I guess the good side of teaching is that a lot of women / mothers are in the profession so will be inclined to be more understanding.
Post # 7
WHAT?!? Does he get sick days? This would definitely count! What would happen if he got hit by the proverbial bus and had to miss work?
Post # 8
Aww, that is a pretty sucky situation. We’re just TTC now, but his job is very flexible. He won’t get paid for the days he takes off, but that’s what we’ve been building an emergency fund for. He’ll probably just take like a week off, which is what our BIL (my sis’s husband, and DH’s best friend) did.
Post # 9
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Tell him to read his employee handbook/manual. It should address the situation in there. If not, and he works for a company that employs more than 50 people, he can apply for FMLA in order to get the time off for labor/delivery and some time with the baby approved ahead of time. Most people don’t realize that dads qualify for this too. He doesn’t have to take the entire 3 months off at once, he can take off here and there as necessary under intermittant FMLA.