What\'s your number??

posted 3 weeks ago in Intimacy
Post # 76
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Worker bee

Haven’t counted my actual number in a while, may have lost count lol… never asked my SO and I really don’t want to know or share mine with him lol but I love this thread! 

Post # 77
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

ladymarian :  Mine is 8 and I’m 28. I have no idea what my husband’s is and I have no interest in finding out. We have discussed past relationships but neither of us have any interest in the other’s past sex life.

Post # 78
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25 posts
Newbee

Including him – my number is 1. I’m nearly 27.

Post # 79
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

“only losers count”……..

 

 

no im totally kidding, lol. i honestly use to keep track but half way through college i stopped. My feelings on it are this. As long as your getting tested regularly and always using protection, who cares about the number. 

i would say my number is in the mid 20’s if i had to guess. I know my husband has a higher number then mine simply, because he’s 6 years older then me so obviously he’s had more experiences.

Post # 80
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128 posts
Blushing bee

Me- 2 including FI (i was in a 10 year relationship before)

FI- 9..

Post # 81
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44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Me: 0

Fiance: 0

Excited to be 1’s next April 🙂

(i’m 26-years old, he’s 30-years old)

Post # 82
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75 posts
Worker bee

Super neat thread – taboo but why should it be? Since they say you are being intimate with all of your partner’s partners… I think it’s fine to know, as long as you are mature and respectful about it.

Me: 2 plus fooled around with a guy before those. I’m 28

Him: Not sure. Several dozen maybe? He’s 30

We’ve talked about it but some of his encounters have been online and I’m not sure if he counted those ‘partners’ or not. Neither of us had ANY experience in high school. He totally let loose in college (and led a very alternative sexual lifestyle) and has been settling down in the past few years. We’re both clean, healthy, and responsible. We are open and honest, respectful, blah blah blah. Mainly, we fit well initially because I actually was able to devote myself to him and he’d never been someone’s first choice like that – always a distraction, an option, a backup when their actual boyfriend was frustrating them (plus they were typically younger, less mature, more dramatic, etc). Giving myself wholly and putting him above all others was really important, and allowed him to shift towards doing the same with me. He developed higher standards of what he deserved and broke off ties with any others, and has doted on me in return. We fuss over each other and both are the sort to crave that affection, validation, and attention, so our high amount of communication and affection suit us. I came to realize my ex was rather sexist, racist, hypocritical, and just plain ‘going nowhere’ in life, so I also feel treated much better, and able to trust/depend on him. We both have been astonished with how comfortable we feel with each other.

Plus we have pretty similar family backgrounds, role models, values, religious views, etc. We just took a different detour along the way to finding each other. Past experiences absolutely play a role in you as a person, but they don’t define you. I personally like that we know each other’s sexual history so that we better understand each other, but that’s just us!

 

I do enjoy reading the responses! I had one friend in college who, at the age of 23, asked us “Am I slutty if it’s more than 20?” when at the time I was at 0. My closest friends range from 0-3 as two in particular have barely dated since high school, but I’ve certainly known individuals more around 5-20. It’s really nice to be reminded of just how much people really do vary!

Post # 83
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My husband is 2 and I am 1. 

Post # 85
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475 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

FI – 1 

Me – uhhh… mid 20s ish? I stopped counting/ honestly can’t keep track of every single person I’ve slept with. I had that phase where I slept with whoever I wanted to and I loved it, everyone needs to experience that kind of freedom IMO. 

Was I labelled a slut? Absolutely. Did I care? It bothered me at first but after a while I just didn’t give anything about it, call me whatever you want only I can judge me. 

Post # 86
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Sugar bee

desertgypsy :  I love your response and completely agree with your mindset.

Post # 87
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144 posts
Blushing bee

for me – i just can’t remember. somewhat around 15-20 or something. 

fi is probably in the same range – don’t ask, don’t tell. 

Post # 88
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75 posts
Worker bee

annili :  I can definitely understand that! For many, it’s a private and personal thing. For me, I prefer to know EVERYTHING, the good and the bad, plus I wanted to know his sexual history to understand him as a person but also better know what I might be exposing myself to! I’m also just nosy, probably.. tongue-out

Post # 89
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Blushing bee

wildflower3 :  haha, I was nosy and asked him, too. But honestly, I don’t care about any women he made love to before we were in a commited relationship. I’m pretty sure that he had lots of flings and ONS, but anyway. Moreover, practice makes perfect 😉 

Post # 90
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Worker bee

annili :  Right? My boyfriend makes me feel so comfortable with intimacy and myself thanks to the many women he has known, and I know that he will have many ideas for spicing things up in the future! XD

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