Post # 1
We are debating on doing a Honeymoon Registry. We are a slightly older couple that has accumulatied a lot of things over the years and don’t really need a ton in the way of household items.
Does a Honeymoon Registry sound too cheezy? And have you had success in using a particular site?
What was the coolest thing you received?
Post # 3
absolutely not! The past 3 weddings I have gone to have all had Honeymoon registries! And, we purchased gifts from those instead of the typical gift one. My FI and I felt like we knew it would be used! Plus, they are really fun and makes your honeymoon more action packed or romantic-if you register for a snorkling trip or strawberries and champange in your room. I think Honeymoon registires are great!
Post # 4
I don’t like the fact that the honeymoon registries take a certain percentage of the contribution. I have never been invited to a wedding with a honeymoon registry as the only option; if that occurred, I would probably just write the couple a check than have the registry company deduct 15%.
Personally, I would spread the word [through your website and family and friends, not on your invitations!] that you are not registering at a store and would prefer contributions to your honeymoon instead.
If you search the weddingbee archives, I think Miss Lovebug had some posts on her honeymoon registry.
Post # 5
We’re in the same boat. A bit older and have accumulated a lot of stuff. We thought about not registering for anything, then we thought about doing a honeymoon registry and thought it would be perfect! Then we talked to some of our friends. I was SHOCKED at their reaction! They had such strong views on it. This is a sampling of responses:
"I think, if you want to go on a honeymoon, you should be able to pay for it on your own" ( I heard this from more than one person )
"People like to give stuff. They like to shop for it, and then see the stuff as you open it."
We figured, if we couldn’t get our peer group on board, then we’re in trouble.
I still think they’re brilliant!!! But for us, we decided not to do it in the end.
Post # 6
Check out http://registry.buy-our-honeymoon.com/how
They don’t take a percentage, just require that you have a paypal account. We loved that we could customize our registry, and we loved the fact that we had other options besides the "traditional" registry, since we also live together and have accumulated a lot over the years.
I don’t think they’re cheesy at all, and a lot of our friends and family love it, because they know it’s going toward something that we genuinely want, rather than a new set of dishes or a toaster.
Post # 7
We are doing one as well as registering at BBB. We were debating for the same reasons, but have a couple friends who are doing it and quite frankly would rather have that than anything else. If no one contributes anything to it, we will still be going on our honeymoon.
We didn’t like the idea of fees being taken, either. Honeyfund.com actually lets guests print out a copy of a "gift" and give you a check, but also allows for a credit card payment option through paypal with a small fee. Although the thought of paypal taking 3% doesn’t excite us, it allows for those who would choose to give a gift via credit card to have that option. That is why we chose that one, although traveler’s joy is another popular one with higher fee of 7.5%. (or 7% I may be mistaken)
Post # 8
check out "buyourhoneymoon.com" They don’t take a transaction fee and accept payments through paypal. Their main office is in London, which is a pain, but it was SO easy to put together.
Post # 9
i was recommended to go to http://www.honeyfund. i was told they don’t take fees. i’m interested in them as well. just havent looked into it yet.
Post # 10
we had one, but hardly anyone used it. we got one gift off of it and the bad thing was that the registry company [honeymoonwishes] didn’t say who sent it to us. had the gift giver not told us they got us something off of it, we would have been clueless as to who to thank!
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2009 - University of Michigan Union
As a guest, I contributed to a honeymoon registry. They live in a tiny apartment in LA, and posted that they "didn’t even have room for one more coffee cup" in their studio apartment. They did not register anywhere else. They listed things that they hoped to do and how much each would cost. I chose to give money for a nice dinner out and smores by a campfire. 🙂 I think they had something on their wedding website that would take you to paypal.
Post # 12
We used http://www.justtogether.com for our honeymoon registry and had many people use it. It was great for our family and friends that couldn’t make it to the wedding to still be able to give a gift without having to worry about it arriving on time. In addition to this we did have two registries at JcPenney and Target for those people who would rather give a gift. We just let guests know that the honeymoon registry was our main one through our website.
Post # 13
We booked through Liberty Travel, and they have their own registry. It was super easy to set up and use.
Post # 14
Thinking from a gift-givers perspective- I don’t really like giving money and feel uncomfortable when people as for money only. I don’t like walking into a wedding empty -handed or with just an envelope. It just feels wrong. I suggest that if you do a honeymoon registry that you also give your guests another registry so they can give you an actual gift.
Post # 15
On the comments about "you should be able to afford your own honeymoon", I think the potential gift-givers might be happier if you already have your flights and basic accomodation set up. That way, you’ll definately have a honeymoon no matter what– the gifts will be for extra activities (the more specific you can be the better e.g. scuba diving, bike ride, wine tasting, gonola ride), nice meals, and maybe a room upgrade.
I have heard of people putting down airfare to Japan and 10 nights accomodation in Tokyo, which seems like a lot to expect unless you’re inviting 500 guests.
Post # 16
Wow, some honeymoon registries take a percentage? I’d stay away from those. So if you had a regular registry, could you return the stuff you received for a cash refund? Just wondering. I never had to return my stuff.
There was a thread about theme showers. Could there be a vacation themed shower? Wherever you were planning on going, Mexican? Tropical? Are there honeymoon things you could register for? Do you need luggage? Lingerie? Swimsuit? Flip flops? The word could also get out by mouth that that is what you were hoping for.