Post # 1
To me, finding weddingbee.com was a way to anonymously share experiences, get feedback/advice, help others, meet new friends, and so much more. Is this place not like a wedding related ‘Dear Abby’?
I just learned Sunday evening that my FI’s sister managed to ‘coincidentally’ find me on here & read a few posts I wrote about her preposterous behavior the past year, the insensitive actions of her brother & my relationship/experiences with my FI’s mother.
Below are the links to the posts I wrote/commented on:
My FI’s sister demanded an apology from me for my posts. I sincerely apologized for her discovering my posts, but would not apologize for writing what I did. A good friend of mine confirmed my decision with this quote “Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth.” My FI’s sister may do a FABULOUS job of manipulating my Fiance, but she is not going to control me.
My purpose for blogging on here is because I find it delightful confiding my feelings/innermost thoughts to strangers versus my family & friends. And to be 110% honest, my family & friends are not the least bit thrilled with the treatment my FI’s family has displayed to me. To continue to speak of this hurtful treatment to them, I’m only causing them unnecessary pain.
My family & friends try to tell me what to do BECAUSE THEY CARE. But fellow bees are people I’ll never meet & talking with you means nothing except a listening ear. You bees will see me for what I am in that moment: a human being in a multitude of others, maybe with a story to tell or asking for advice, but that’s all.
I’m sure we all have different reasons for confiding in each other on this site
Bees what’s your reason(s)?
Post # 3
Sometimes talking to my friends about weddings becomes a competition we are all getting married and its “but that was my color” and “i got this type of dress too” and really i would rather hash out my ideas with the creative ladies of the bee then talk my friends ears off (though some are wonderful and want to listen anyway) and then no one can steal my ideas 🙂
and you get the perspective of so many other people that you would not get in your bubble of life its wonderful when its done respectfully.
My Fiance makes jokes about me and the bee because here I am at work…oh the bee…
Post # 4
@CTbride2010: I agree about the competition thing. When I was planning, I felt like I had all these great ideas (and still do 😉 ) and didn’t want to tell anyone IRL about what I was planning because there were still girls planning their own weddings.
The nice thing for me was they all got married first, so after their weddings I felt more free to let my secrets out to my friends and family, so I posted less stuff on here.
Post # 5
I post on here because most of my real-life friends are guys, and the Bees are some of the only girls I know who aren’t super catty. I know ALL girls aren’t super catty, but I work in an industry with some pretty catty girls…
Post # 6
I post on here for so many reasons..for opinions,advice, and to vent so I don’t snap on my Future Mother-In-Law 🙂 I completely agree with your decision to not apoligize for what you said. If anything she should realize how she was acting..and apoligize for it! One of my first posts was about Future Mother-In-Law drama..and a small part of me hoped she would find it..so she could realize how crazy she is acting!!
Post # 7
i originally found the bee by stumbling across some DIY thing, but i stayed when i found the waiting boards and realized i wasn’t alone! i have a lot of girlfriends, but none that would be up for talking about the woes of waiting or relationship talk because so few of them have actually been in very serious relationships. it’s nice to have somewhere to go for advice like this!
Post # 8
I’m here because I don’t want to bore everyone in RL with too much wedding talk. And I don’t want to ruin the surprises of the day for anyone, like with the dress, flowers, music, etc. And I love seeing everyone else’s rings, dresses, proposals, and problems that I can help with or be prepared for 🙂
Post # 9
I’m on here a lot right now because we just moved so I’m bored and have no friends.