Post # 1
FI & I are lost when it comes to selecting a song for our first dance. We just don’t have a song that feels like us & whenever we talk about it we just end up saying that we should have planned our first meeting better – so not in a climbing gym with people grunting up the walls but somewhere with romantic background music that would have been the obvious sound track to our life!
Anyway, we’re taking dance classes at the moment (really recommend it, so much fun) & our teacher keeps asking us if we’ve selected a song yet… Um, no. He tells us that we should pick a song that “speaks to both of us”… but I’m incapable of remembering lyrics except from those in ABBA songs & FI doesn’t want to start out his married life to “Dancing Queen”.
How did you end up finding/selecting a song that feels like you as a couple?
Post # 3
Our song used to be The Luckiest by Ben Folds, when we were dating I would always send him parts of the lyrics or have the song playing for him to listen to.
We ended up choosing Come Away With Me by Norah Jones as our first dance because I thought dancing to The Luckiest was weird. I get much more emotional listening to Come Away With Me now after the wedding so I’d have to say that it’s our real song.
Post # 4
@Birdee106: I had actually never heard that song by Ben Folds – it’s beautiful. Made me a little teary eyed!
Post # 5
Take Me Home Tonight by Eddie Money. We were sitting in a burger place after a movie date when this song came on, I just started laughing. I looked at him and he said, “This is our song”. He’s right, it does fit us perfectly.
Post # 6
“This is Us” by Mark Knopfler…it was the summer hit the year we met, we must have taken like a million pictures at the million weddings we went to…that song was just…us….like we were looking through all the photos of the things we did, Mr. 99 and I knew we were supposed to be together the minute we locked eyes, that song is an homage to the life we started building before we even knew what the hell the other one’s favorite color was.
Post # 7
@eocenia: We are doing “Unforgettable”, the duet version with Natalie and Nat King Cole. I know it used a lot for the father-daughter dance but I think it could be applied to a a couples dance also. We liked “Unforgettable” because of the sentiment behind it and we both like older music. 🙂 And it is easy to dance to and it is a short song! 🙂 We had a lot of trouble finding the song for us. We were originally going to do “Lucky” with Jason Mraz and Colbie Caillet. But it was about a long-distance relationship which we thought didn’t really apply to us the more we listened to it. I love “Come Away With Me” by Norah Jones, it is so romantic! But my FI thought it was too slow… 🙁 I would say sit down sometime soon with your FI and listen to a bunch of songs and see if any of them speak to the both of you! Dance lessons are the best aren’t they?! 🙂 so much fun.
Post # 8
@eocenia: We are having a hard time deciding on a song also. We have a “song” but I dont really want Pitbull singing our first dance song LOL!!!!
Post # 9
Our song is “How Do I Live” by Trisha Yearwood. First heard it on the movie Con Air, which FI introduced me to. I was very skeptical about watching it at first because I usually don’t like FI’s movies, but I loved Con Air. We both really liked the song and it has been our song ever since 🙂
Post # 10
We had an issue with this as well. “Our song” wasn’t really emotional for us or wedding appropriate.
I decided I would reasearch (and had him do the same) to come up with 3 songs we loved. If one of your songs matches up (there ya go!) If not, spend a romantic evening slow dancing to each song. You will FEEL which one is right.
Ours is Forever by Ben Harper. Instantly made me cry wheras the others didn’t
Post # 11
LOVE by Nat Kimg Cole, we were leaving a get together and he was humming the song and I started singing it and then we were goofy and danced in the parking lot lol its our song 😉
Post # 12
@MissFemmeFatale: I’m SO hoping for a moment like that! 🙂
@Nona99: Argh… once again, failure on our part – we should have spent our first summer doing something else than rock climbing in freaking quiet outdoors!
@lovelylight99: Love, love, the dance lessons! I’ve found that I get all emotional when we waltz to the sound track to the Cider House Rules – but FI don’t want to dance to something that he finds depressing (I can kind of understand that…I mean, it’s an entire movie about abortions).
@sweetchiquita12: Haha! No, I can see that! We’ve been talking about this for a while now & literally the ONLY song we’ve managed to come up with after picking our brains like crazy is “Our House” by Crosby Stills & Nash – because it’s the only song we know that mentions two cats (ours will not be able to attend the wedding)… I just don’t feel like that’s a good enough reason to pick it.
Post # 13
We have 2 songs (we danced to both of them at the first party we went to), and neither of them we used for our first dance at the reception:
#1 – ‘Angel Eyes’ – The Jeff Healey Band
#2 – ‘Heaven’ – Bryan Adams
‘Angel Eyes’ we had no idea what the song actually was, so we used ‘Heaven’ as a backup, lol.
The song we danced to at the wedding was ‘Every time I Close My Eyes’ – Babyface
The lyrics were a big part of choosing it, as we were together 11 1/2 years on our big day–the first line is, “Girl it’s been a long, long time comin’, yes it has.”
Post # 14
@eocenia: Our “First Dance” song is completely separate from “Our Song”, though both are equally important and “Our Song” will be played at some point during the reception.
FI kind of let me look through songs for our first dance, and then bounce the ideas off of him. I’m a huge country music fan, and while he is a fan, he is more into hardcore rock/metal.
“Our Song” is “Just a Kiss” by Lady A, which he actually found. It describes the first 6 months of our relationship, when we were both trying to take things slow and not mess things up like we had with previous relationships.
So it only seemed appropriate when I was browsing through some Lady A music and found “When You Got a Good Thing”, a song from both the man and woman, and talking about even though there will be good and bad times, we know we got a good thing and bring out the best in each other. He LOVED it, and it describes us both to a T. It’s a tear-jerker, but I’m ok with that 🙂
Post # 15
@sweetchiquita12: Haha, love it. When we were planning the wedding and I asked my husband what we should dance to for our first dance he was said ‘Apple Bottom Jeans’ because it’s our favorite song.
Post # 16
@brighteyedgirl: I LOVE “Angel Eyes”! It describes a side of me my parents don’t know about 😉