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I will be going to a Wedding in a couple of weeks.
My FI cant make it cuz he works that day, so Ill be going by myself, I really dont mind because Ill know a few people there since its my Coworkers Wedding.
Anywho, Im in the middle of my Wedding plans too, my Wedding is a couple weeks after his, and the next day I literally have to give the 2nd half of the deposit to my Photographer so money is tight right now.
My coworker asked for only money as gifts, so Im debating on how much I should give.
Im coming alone, so I dont want to give too much but I dont want to be too cheap.
What do you think is a good amount?
Can you put up a poll?
I've only been to weddings with dates, and then it's about $150, so maybe half that? Did you go to a shower or engagement party and give a gift to that too?
I think the "standard" amount varies by social circle, but in ours, it's $100/person for a traditional wedding (i.e. you get a full meal, drinks, dancing). I'd probably give less if it was a more casual wedding without a full dinner.
For one person in NYC I would def give a minimum of $100. Where the wedding is, what style etc would probably play into my decision as well.
@PinkMagnolia: Oh shoot! too late! I cant edit a poll. But its a good idea.
I agree that the standard amount usually varies quite a bit based on how good of a friend/how close a relative and what region you're in. In my case, I would give $100 to this couple.
Woah... asked for money!? Anywho, I could agree with PP and say 100$ because you are going single :)
As a PP said, depends on the type of wedding etc. But, since you are planning a wedding in Brooklyn, you know that a plate per person is not going to be less than $200. I wouldn't give less than $150, and I think $200 is probably more appropriate.
@Ugoob: Since you're going alone, I would do $50 especially since you're short on cash. From couples we got anywhere from $80-100+.
For family or really good friends, we give $100 from both my FI and I. We can't afford much more than that so we would never give a couple $200.
For casual acquaintances or if it's a wedding we're not actually attending, then between $50 and $100.
I also think it's silly to give a "gift" as reimbursement for whatever they spent on me. If they can't afford it, then they shouldn't have done it.
If I attend weddings alone, I usually give $50 or more - depending how close I am to the couple.
If FI is attending also, we give at least $100 and again, more depending on how close we are to them. And this is about standard where we live, but in NY I'd guess it's more!
$100 per person is my go to wedding gift. If they're really close friends or family I'll give a bit more.
$100 per person is what I normally give too. I'll probably give more to my best friend when she gets married.
I'm not sure what to say as I feel that whether you're going alone or not shouldn't matter. As long as I'm invited as a couple, I gift as a couple. As for how much to give, I think it depends on how close you are to them.
Can you give more detail on the type of wedding? If I'm not that close with the couple (like a coworker), I usually try to estimate covering the cost of my plate. Backyard BBQ would probably get $50, Black Tie Dinner Dance would probably get $150. Somewhere in between would get in between.
I guess this varies by where you are, but in my circle of family/friends $50 is pretty standard (for a couple) unless you're close to someone. Almost everyone who came to our wedding gave us somewhere between 25-75 with a handful of $100s and only 2 people over 100 (if you don't count our parents or my boss).
$100 if you're going alone. That's my standard per person unless it someone we're very close to.
You will get it back when it's your turn. My guess is that they will give you exactly what you gave them.
$100 is nice, but $50 would seem reasonable too.
It really depends on whose wedding it is and the type of wedding. Personally if they specifically requested money I would be a bit turned off by that and give a gift card or actual gift instead. I dont like being told what to give as gift. I would probably give $50
I think it depends on the plate cost. I try to cover my plate and give a little extra. If you know their plate cost is around $100, then I'd be giving $150. If the plate cost is $200, then I'd give $250, etc.
Give what you can, I think anywhere between $50-$150 is considered normal. Most people who gave us cash gifts and attended the wedding were between $100-300, but a few people gave us checks for $50.
This is why I think demanding cash only gifts makes things awkward and complicated. Otherwise you could have regifted something or bought a $25 gift without feeling bad. When it's cash it's kind of crass.
Re: plate cost...I chose to have an expensive dinner and also hosted a rehearsal dinner for everyone. If a well-off family member was inclined to give a gift that covered that cost, it was appreciated, but not expected and generally they did not. I would have felt terrible if my friends who had less tried to cover their plate.
The two stingy things that I did notice about people's gifts:
1. People who didn't even give a card. One of my good friends that I grew up w/ brought us a lovely card...one of the prettiest that we received...and that was our gift, and I loved it. Others: not even a note on the hotel stationary. I know who you are!
2. People who brought uninvited guests and gave cheap presents. I figured that if someone was going to grant themself a +1 they'd cover the costs of the +1, but them that was oblivious to the lack of etiquette when it came to tacking on a guest weren't so aware of the financial burden of their choice, i guess.
I usually do $50, and I try to make it something thoughtful. I'm a grad student; I don't think people would expect more than that from me. It's what I can afford. If/when I get a better paying job, I'll increase my gift amounts accordingly!
Wow people. $50?
Since you are in the city for just you I would say $150. You know how much everything costs and yes it is their choice but what goes around comes around.
My FI and I give $150 to everyone, $200 to family, $300 to close family/friends regardless if one or both of us attends.
I say $75 would be a safe choice. Are you a coworker or more of a friend. If this is *just* a coworker, and you dont see a friendship lasting if you were not working there, I'd just do $50. (It may be "cheap", but if its all I can afford to spare, and the relationship isnt really there, then it doenst really matter to me). If you see a friendship with this person outside of work, I'd try to do closer to $100. I think 75-100 plenty for a one person attenting a cowrokers wedding.
For here, it's about 100 to 150. For someone not so close, it might be 50.
For here, it's about 100 to 150. For someone not so close, it might be 50.
We usually spend $50-100, but that's because we're cheap lately. Wedding stuff adds up, ya know??
We found that the average gift amount was $50 per person, whether in cash, gift, or gift card. A few people less, a few people more, but most gave $50.
I think this could range from $50 to $150. I factor it on how well I know them (is he invited to your wedding), how fancy the wedding is, how much money I have to spend on travel, accomodations, etc., if any. Even though he only asked for cash - you can still get him something. I once went to a co-worker's wedding and got her $50 plus a few jars of homemade jam and pickles.
I would say because we're talking NY prices that it should be at least $100. Technically ettiquette says you have up to a year to gift after the wedding so if money is that tight, you could always mail the card and check after your wedding when the funds are a bit easier to come by.
PS. we're date twins!
I give $100 a person or more for myself only. If it is with my fiance, it will range, we'll give $150 for a casual wedding or for someone we're not as close to or $200 for us both. Usually more if I am in the bridal party.
Here its like 50 bucks per couple, so I would do 25 or 30, but it's probably a lot more in NYC because EVERYTHING costs more.
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