Post # 1
My coworker and I have a theory that directly links single-ness to the height of one’s shoes at work.
I have to admit–I’ve always been about comfort, so I’m usually in flats and pants/sweater or dress/cardi type outfits. Before I got married, I’d definitely dress up more, especially when I was crushing on someone.
ETA: Sorry, couldn’t edit the poll–single should also include people with SOs, just not married or engaged yet.
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Post # 2
I think I actually dress up more now than I did when I was single.
Post # 3
Haha – this is a funny poll! I definitely wear flats more now, which I never directly associated with relationship/engagement, but the timing is also curious…
Post # 4
My shoe height depends on what I’ve got on the agenda that day! If I’m doing a lot of walking, its low heels or flats. If I’m going to be sitting most of the day it’s heels. The rest of my outfit is usually the same level of dress everyday (we have a very strict dress code).
Post # 5
FYI, this came about because we were outside eating lunch when we saw a girl tottering by in ridiculously high boots with a short skirt. We (both married), looked down at our flats–mine were uber-comfy Crocs ballet flats–and laughed.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - Excalibur
I wear the same stuff now as I did when I was single. Dress pants, cardigans, sweater dresses, 5 in. Heels.
Post # 7
I’m bound by professional attire, so I’m kind of required to dress up a little bit every day … but in terms of really going for broke, I only do that when I have a big meeting or something. So it’s more about what I have going on that day rather than my relationship status, and always has been!
Then again, there is NOBODY at my office that I’m trying to impress. I think they only hire unattractive old fat balding men.
Post # 8
I wear heels almost every day to work (unless it’s casual friday and then I’ll wear jeans with flats or flat boots). I just think heels look more professional with my work pants, skirts, and dresses. I don’t feel professional in flats, but I think other people can look great in them! I would not go to work without makeup. I just don’t think it’s professional enough.
I’m not married (but have a boyfriend), and I don’t think my dressing style will change any time soon, even if we get married.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I always wear flat shoes to work – socks & shoes to be more specific. I have to – I work in a laboratory. I cannot have any skin showing around my feet/wear sandals/pumps/skirts etc…
My work wear is usually jeans, plain shirts, occasionally a cardigan, and comfy shoes. Our clothes get damaged and stained frequently. I’m not investing in wearing nice clothes to work only to have bleach get splashed on them or some sort of bacterial stain like crystal violet or iodine. For example my shirt today got a hole it from leaning against the lab bench.
I’m engaged now, but even when single I dressed this way to work.
Post # 10
I dress up for meetings and things, and would do that single or in a relationship I believe. I actually may dress up slightly more when in a relationship, but not too much different.
I definitely don’t believe the height of the heels bit because now flats are so trendy (and more comfortable) — lots more women wear them now.
FI teases me because I’m different too with working out. I work out more now that I did when I was single (or about the same). lol
Post # 11
I dress up just as much now as I did before I met Mr. H, and I will continue to dress up once we’re married. Honestly, I don’t know why it’s some unwritten universal rule that once a woman is married she’ll get frumpier…and then add a kid and she’s done. I will wear my high heels to work until I’m no longer physically able, or they are no longer age appropriate. I will wear makeup probably until I’m dead. I will wear jewelry, other accessories, and cute outfits forever too. Takes just as long to put on dress pants as it does yoga pants… My professional wardrobe and my outside of work wardrobe are both determined by what I find to be attractive, and what looks good on me. It is not and has never been determined by my relationship status. Genuine question for the Bees who are married/engaged and said that you don’t dress up now because you’re engaged/married: why not? I know some people just don’t enjoy dressing up ever, which is fine. Different strokes, man. But those of you that stopped once you got married, I’m curious as to why?
ETA: I definitely understand people who are in a profession that does not warrant or allow a dressy wardrobe, or calls for a uniform. My last question is more for those that are supposed to just dress up, and have started doing it less now that they’re engaged/married
Post # 12
MrsLongcoatPeacoat: Considering I have a professional job, I have to dress up 5 days a week for work.
When I get home from work, I peel my nice clothes off and immediately get into some sweats.
That being said, on the weekends, I’m usually in skinny jeans, a nice-ish top, and flats or Sperrys. It depends on the occasion, really.
I hardly ever wear heels to work, and if I do, their heel is 3″ or less. And I RARELY wear heals when not in work, unless I have to get dressed up for some fancy occasion.
Post # 13
I dressed up more before… but alot of that had to do with the area/job. When we lived in Atlanta I pretty much had to dress up to just feel like I looked presentable compared to everyone elses done up looks (city style) and my job didn’t require any walking or anything. Now I live in the boonies and the nearest city is 300 miles away so I don’t dress up as much because no-one else does & when I do I get looked at funny for being so “fancy”. Also, it rains alot and I have to walk to court & the bank once or twice a day- not fun in heels! I always wear a full-face of makeup to work, the only days I don’t wear makeup are lazy weekends…
My usual non-dressy work wear= blouse with a cardigan/jacket, black slacks, and tennis shoes (gasp! I know but I have the hardest time finding nice black shoes I cna wear with socks & in the rain with good grips on the bottom)
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
I have to dress nice at work. Even if I didn’t I would still dress up. I wear heels probably 4 out of the 5 work days and I’m engaged. Sorry, I don’t think your philosphy holds true!
Post # 15
Even when I was single I only dressed up to go out at night. I’ve always been a pants and wedges girl at work. I only wear dresses during the summer. Especially considering I live in Seattle, and commute an hour each way via bus plus walking to and from the stops. Dresses and heels? NO THANKS