wheelchair bees/ bees with other types of impairments

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

I’m not physically impaired at all, and I have had some difficulty walking when I tried on a couple of mermaid style dresses. I would hate for you to have trouble walking down the aisle, and for your first dance because your dress is too restrictive. 

Although it might be difficult, I hope you can at least try on a mermaid style before getting a gown made, so you can tell if this might be an issue for you or not.

As far as venues go, if you tell us your general area,  maybe some bees with elderly or unwell guests can recommend wheelchair accessible venues. A close family friend is in a wheelchair, as he has lost both his legs, and I found it quite difficult finding a venue with suitable accessibility.

Post # 4
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

@MrsGarrityToBe:  I am not in a wheelchair or impaired in any specific way, but I wanted to wish you the very best. Congratulations on your upcoming engagement!

Post # 5
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I should say that i don’t have any significant limitations myself, but i work with people with all sorts of genetic syndromes, so I try think about this kind of stuff.

I may not be in a chair but i hate shopping and did not look forward to the dress shopping experience. But it wasn’t as bad as I thought. I would recommmend thinking about a dress that you have that you really like the cut and how it fits you in the chair. Then you can hav a good idea where to start for teh cu of your wedding dress. Also, there was a poster on Offbeat Bride who had always wanted a train, so she had one attached to the back of her chair! It was pretty cool.

As for photography I think you just need to find someboy who is willing to put in the time and thought to organize good poses. I’m glad you’re planning on doing both in the chair and not. Variety will be good, since this is less common territory. But I definately think it can be done.

Glad to have you here on the Bee and I would also check out Offbeat Bride.  They’re both great sites. Good luck!!!

Post # 6
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry! Double post!

Post # 9
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

A close friend of mine dealt with many medical issues leading up to her wedding. She had a medical port in her chest, so she opted for a beautiful one shoulder gown that completely covered her port.

She also had hip replacement surgery on one hip (at age 27) and the other still needed to be done  at the time of her wedding which lead to her legs being a little uneven and standing and walking for long periods of time were not comfortable for her.

She made it through the ceremony, pictures, and her first dance, father-daughter dance but after that she didn’t really dance the rest of the night.That did not stop the rest of us though! She had an awesome DJ and he kept the party going! We all had a great time. It was sweet to see her and her husband sitting together all night watching their friends and family dance and have a good time. You could tell they were happy and that’s all that mattered. In between dances guests were able to sit and talk with the newlyweds.

I think your best bet is just to try on dresses and see what you end up loving. I would make a list for the photographer of shots you “must have” so that it streamlines your photography time. Congratulations on your upcoming day! I hope it is everything you wish for and more.


Post # 10
1015 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t have any guidance, but my mom uses a walker so I understand wanting things to be accessable.  I mainly just wanted to welcome you to the Bee!  🙂

Post # 11
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsPanda99:  Thanks for mentioning me! I’ve been super busy and haven’t had much time for WB lately.


@MrsGarrityToBe:  I am in a small, manual wheelchair and I can completely relate to some of the issues you’re having in planning your wedding – especially the dress getting stuck around your tires problem. I sometimes have this problem when I wear maxi dresses or skirts. For my wedding I’ll be wearing an A-line gown and just having it hemmed short enough so that my tires don’t run over the bottom of it. I think you should at least try on the gown you really love. Sometimes certain things can be a little awkward, but I refused to be limited to only certain styles because of my chair. Personally I think my dress looks beautiful, seated or not, and I love that I didn’t go with something more practical just because I can’t walk. Sure I might have to be mindful of the bottom, but its only one night and once hemmed properly it should be fine.

We’re using the same photographer that we used for our engagement photos. From the start I told her that I didn’t want a lot of photos in my chair. Personally, I think its an eyesore and just really distracting. She worked with us and we ended up getting exactly what we were looking for. We used a lot of vintage chairs and props so that I could be sitting and still have it look natural. If you read the above posted link you’ll be able to see what our plan is for our ceremony so that both my FI and I will be seated and not have to deal with the awkward height difference. The hotel we’re getting married at has vintage sofas, a piano, interesting staircases, etc so we’ll be taking advantage of those kind of things for photos.

In regard to a venue – I’ve been to a lot of events/weddings in halls that did not have an accessible bathroom stall. If you’re having problems with finding one I would suggest looking into having your reception at a hotel (in the courtyard, outdoor space etc), where they’re sure to have an accessible bathroom.

Feel free to ask me any questions if you’re looking for ideas! My wedding is in 2 months so most of our planning is finished. Good luck!

Post # 12
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@adoc86:  I’m glad to see you are back! I missed you 🙂 I was sure you’d have some helpful tips for the OP, and I was right. I really hope you post a wedding recap 😀

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