when a guy pretends he doesn't know a certain woman

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Do you have a history of being overly jealous?

Perhaps your boyfriend is afraid of a blowup and so he’s being less than honest with you.

Personally I’d be pretty put off if DH was being dishonest with me about something so silly. He has no reason to lie about it and it would make me feel uncomfortable, for sure.

Post # 4
1287 posts
Bumble bee

Because men are idiots and they think women are stupid.  

FI, before we got seriously dating…used to call his female friends “buddies”…I knew they weren’t males…I told him I’m not stupid.  He refers to his male friends by their names, not his “buddies”.  LOL  

Just call him out on it or ask him if he got hit on the head and lost his memory.

Post # 5
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

He is either afraid of getting in trouble over nothing, or there’s something he’s uncomfortable with.

Men lie about REALLY stupid stuff so that they don’t get in trouble, just to find out they actually get in trouble for the LIE!

Post # 6
4638 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@incognitobee3:  No idea.. but I’d be weirded out if it were my FI because I’ve never given him reason to hide who he knows.

Are you a jealous person? Have you reacted poorly to his relationships with the opposite sex before? That’s the only reason, other than having an inappropriate relationship with her, that I can think of.

Post # 7
518 posts
Busy bee


Personally, I wouldn’t worry. I’m guessing it is your first option, that she’s attractive but irrelevant. Maybe he feels a little guilty for thinking she’s attractive so he’s trying to make himself believe he doesn’t care at all but I would guess there’s nothing going on.

In general, if a guy has something going on with someone, they will actually talk about the person a lot, not pretend they don’t know them. You can look that up in the ‘cheating’ guides. LOL

Post # 9
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@incognitobee3:  It doesn’t really make sense that you said you only get jealous when there is a reason (like flirting) but yet he seems to always bring up your trust issues. Why does he believe you have trust issues in the first place?

I don’t condone his lying. That’s why men get in trouble in the first place, but why is it so important for you to reask their name if he has already mentioned them before?

I think you both have some insecurity issues.

Post # 10
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Based on your previous posts, him acting like he doesn’t know his co-worker’s name is the least of your problems with this guy. I think after 5 years of putting up with his antics, don’t you think it’s time to move on? You deserve better!

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