Post # 1
To cut costs and save my sanity, I am opting to not invite children to the wedding, however what is the definition of “children” exactly.
Is it anyone under 18years old? 16years old, 10 years old? When are someone’s kids not “children” anymore and will I get flack if I have a bunch of “kids” there that I kind of consider to be almost adults?
Thoughts fellow bees?
Post # 4
we decided 16 and older were allowed to come. but i think its just personal preference.
Post # 5
For our caterer, they broke it down that teens are 13-18 so their $ per head is $30 less since they won’t be drinking. Kids are 3 – 12 for a more simpler meal and babies are 0-2 (free).
Post # 6
It depends; do you really want to not worry about underage drinking or general issues (cranky children so guests have to leave early, etc)? Then make the cut off the drinking age in your state.
Otherwise, I would say 13. That’s my cut-off, personally. Any children under 13 are not invited. We have one 14 year old & one 17 year old (brother/sister) that are like siblings to my FI, but everyone else will (hopefully!) be over the age of majority (which is 19 here).
Post # 8
I kind of say 13. Once you are a “teen” you aren’t a child, yes?
But you can make the cut off wherever you and your FI want to, just stick to it. 🙂
Post # 9
@AmeliaBedelia: True, but 13 year olds are still immature behaviourally and potentially would run around being stupid at a wedding. A 16 year-old is less likely to cause a scene and can hold themselves better.
Post # 10
I think parents would give you flak for allowing kids that can still order off a kids menu or get kid prices at places. I doubt anyone would say something about having kids 12+ at the wedding. But really, kids under about 16 are likely to get bored anyways.
Post # 11
@Pia2010: Well, sure. But 16 year olds can be dumb too. So can 25 year olds. 😉 Maybe it’s just my family, but my 12 yr old and 14 yr old brothers did fine at my sister’s wedding two years ago. It could just be how they are though.
Post # 15
I think that’s something that you guys have to decide for yourselves. Maybe it would help to count how many of what ages would be invited. If there’s just a few teens, it wouldn’t be as bad to invite them.
Post # 16
i say 16. i thought it before i opened this thread and it looks like lots of bees think so too.