When are or did your FH plan for babies?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: When are you wanting children after marriage?
    Right away : (26 votes)
    13 %
    After 6 months : (19 votes)
    10 %
    After 1 year : (47 votes)
    24 %
    After 2 years : (38 votes)
    20 %
    Within 3-4 years : (35 votes)
    18 %
    5 years + : (17 votes)
    9 %
    Other : (12 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    27 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We just got married in May (after being together for 5 years). We are both 25. We wish we were ready for kids at this age cuz we feel like we’re behind everyone else and we also don’t want to be “older” parents, but we are still not ready. DH just started a better paying job so now that we both have decent careers, we are thinking it’d be a perfect time to start thinking about kids! But still feel like we’re not ready!! lol. So I’m thinking in about 1-2 years after we’ve gotten to enjoy our money and traveled some first. I’m just too selfish to take care of another human being at this time! My dogs are enough right now lol.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2534 posts
    Sugar bee

    We got married in June of 2012 and we will be TTCing in June of 2014. So about two years after marriage. Wed love to try for a baby sooner but I went back to school and wont be done until next spring.

    Post # 5
    Member
    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    We pulled all forms of birth control December 2012.. and we plan to get married March 2015. My family is pretty untraditional and not religious, I don’t care what happens first. And we havn’t put down any deposits yet.. I think we’ll start using the POM once we put down our venue deposits. I must be able to drink at my own wedding haha 🙂

    Post # 6
    Member
    2059 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We got married last April after being together 8 years, both 25 now so still won’t be ttc till probably 2016 – next year we are travelling the world then coming home , saving again to build our dream home, save agin to have money behind us before we have a baby, then well start trying!   😀 

    Post # 7
    Member
    457 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    If it were up to DH, I’d be pregnant already, haha. He wants a baby so badly.

    On the other hand, I can see we have a laundry list of finances that need to be taken care of first. My car is almost as old as I am, and dying. I’m not putting another $300-$400 into that junker, but it’s my only (reliable) means of getting to work, so I need another car before something else on it fails. We also desperately need a house. It’s crowded enough with the three cats in this tiny little space, let alone child and child accessories.

    By my estimation, we won’t be trying until this time next year (so I’ll be just about 24, he’ll be turning 26) at the earliest. I mean, if we were somehow surprised beforehand, I know we could do it and I would love to do it. But as far as planning goes, I’d rather wait to get established with a reliable car and an actual living space.

    Post # 8
    Member
    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    FI wants to start imediately. I’m thinking we’ll probably wait about 6 months, to save up money.

    Post # 9
    Member
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I voted “after 2 years”, but we might wait longer than that.  Probably not all the way to our 3rd anniversary, but I don’t know what the next few years have in store for us.  We’ve got at least a job change, a move, and a house to buy on the agenda before we can get to kids.

    DH is also just plain not ready right now, after 6 months of marriage (though we’ll be celebrating our 10th dating anniversary this December, and I’m trying to get him to not look at it in terms of how long we’ve been married because, to me, it was a formality and not a benchmark on our relationship.  Also I wanted to get married 2-3 years earlier than we actually did Yell) and I’m… getting there.  I have days where I desperately want a little one to snuggle, and days where I relish my freedom.  So its probably good that we have to wait.

    Post # 10
    Member
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We tried after 1 year of marriage, about 3 months before our original plan of trying.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3718 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    we actually started about 3 months before the wedding. So earlier than “right away”

    Post # 12
    Member
    820 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We’re going to wait until I’m 25, so about a year from now (I turn 24 in two weeks). We would prefer to wait another year past that, but I have PCOS, so we’re anticipating challenges. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @asianbarbie:  we are taking our sweet time.

    we have a goal to make it to all 7 continents by the time we turn 30. we’ve been to 3 (europe, asia and N America) and we want to spend time in the next 3 years traveling, buying a house, getting nicer cars, getting a good solid savings under us, before we start TTC. we’re talking about in 3 years-ish, when we’re 29.

    Post # 14
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We got married in May and got pregnant on the honeymoon!

    Post # 15
    Member
    632 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We got married May 11 this year – and I got off the BCP in June – so we are just going for it – so I chose RIGHT AWAY!  But we are ready for it – we are financially set – have our own house, both have good jobs, and no debt.  Plus – DH is turning 33 this month and I am turning 29 in October so we want to get it underway cuz we definitely want to have more than one.

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