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When are shower invitations sent?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
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    spraguebride    August 8, 2009   Bothell, WA

    My shower is 2 weeks from Sunday. Hurray!

    I am super excited and then I realized today...it's in 2 weeks and no invitations have been sent yet.Should my host have already sent them?

    What is the standard notice that is given...if no one is traveling from outta state?

    Maybe you will all say I am fine....maybe you will say the invitations are late. I need to know if I am supposed to freak out or not.  Haha!!!

    God! being a bride is hard! It's almost like I have prego homomones or something. The stress, anxiety, over sensativity, emotionalness......goodness! Can't wait for my day to be here...and this to all be over! :-)

     
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    sassykm    July 18, 2009   La Mirada, CA

    I personally prefer all invites for parties (including showers) to go out 4 weeks in advance...However I am not in charge of my bridal shower which is on June 20th and the invitations have not gone out yet. They will most likely be going out three weeks before the shower.

    I would not freak out....you have had to accept that my bridesmaids are in charge of the shower and there is nothing you can do about anything. It will all fall into place.

    With that said, I am a control freak, so what I have done is started to tell some of the people the date and time prior to the invites being mailed so that they can mark the date on their calendar. I too cannot wait for my day to come....

     
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    MyFavorite    June 2009   Springfield, MO

    I would probably have them sent out soon.  I like a few weeks of advance notice and a bit of a grace period (not sure that's the right term here) on rsvps.  For example, I'd like to find out about it 3 to 4 weeks prior and have until 1 to 1 1/2 weeks prior to respond/rsvp. I don't always know what will be happening on a certain day that far ahead of time, but if I know there's something I'd like to be doing, I can do my best to plan around it.  If it's an event that most of the guests know about ahead of time, then I think it's a bit easier. My bridesmaids are planning my personal shower/bachelorette party for June 13th.  They hope to have the invites out next week, but have already spoken to about half the guest list about the date.  The thinking is that with many of the guests knowing the date, they will plan accordingly, even though they haven't received an official invite yet.  I wouldn't freak out, but I would send them out soon!

     

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