Post # 1
Today was a little rough, so I thought I’d come chat with you lovely ladies. So I met up with a friend at school and I was motioning something with my hands and my friend noticed my promise ring from my BF (which I’ve had for a while) and she asked if I got engaged over Christmas break. After I said no she goes on to say “So…when are you getting engaged?” I told her I didn’t know and I changed the subject. Then we went to Halmark to get a b-day card for a mutual friend and we went past the little wedding shelf and she stopped and kept saying things like “I want to buy some wedding things for you!” and “I can’t wait until you get engaged!” I’m glad that she likes me enough to be excited for a future proposal, but come on…all that talk made my hear sick just a little. I’m so glad I have WB to cheer me up!
Post # 3
It’s so hard when people ask you that. I remember those questions, they were super annoying, but I would just smile and say “I don’t know..” or “Ask him” lol. It will happen soon enough for you, but in the meantime just enjoy being with him. I don’t think your friend meant to hurt your feelings though, she probably didn’t realize how much you think about it or want it.
Just hang out here for awhile while you’re waiting. We will keep you sane 😛
Post # 4
Yeah, its annoying when people ask you personally. Its not like its up to you! lol
I do, however, like it when they ask both of us together cause then I’m like….seee seee! Im not the only one! lol
Post # 5
It’s rare people mean to hurt your feelings when saying that, but it always does. It’s the most annoying thing you can say to a girl who is dating a guy she wants to marry! I don’t understand why they always ask the girl anyway, who 99% of the time is not in control of when it happens.
Post # 6
Thanks girls….I knew I could count on you. I know she didn’t mean to upset me, but like you said…it always does!
Post # 7
Ugh that is the worst..I get it allllll the time and it really sucks! How the hell am I supposed to know?!!? And of course when I ask my BF if anyone asks him this he says “no, why?” lol ughh!
Post # 8
Right with you all, it is the most annoying thing in the world right now. One of the worst was this summer when we were at a friend’s wedding. I go to hug the bride good bye and she says “you’ll be next” – seriously?? We aren’t even engaged yet and the couple have been together 2 less years then us. They all mean the best but it is getting annoying. So hang in there ILuvDance, it will happen soon enough 🙂
Post # 9
Ugh, I’m sorry. FBIL & FSIL always bring up when R is going to give me the ring. FBIL’s dad is the jeweler, so he gets all the emails! It’s weird when people know more than I do about it!
Post # 10
I used to get that all the time because me and my FI dated since we were 17 and we are now 23 and 24. I would try to say sassy things back (depending on who I was talking to), but a little before my FI proposed I began to take it out on him and feel like he was to blame for people continously asking me a question that only he could answer. In the end, I am glad he wanted to propose because I got an awesome ring, an awesome proposal, an awesome FI and we have financial stabilty.
Now that we are engaged we are dealing with some envious people lol. It’s always something. lol Good luck!
Post # 11
I am so with you on that… I hear that constantly. Sometimes a wanna just scream and tell everyone to stay out of my business. But then I have a reality check and realize… hey, thats pretty rude.
Post # 12
dont worry, once you’re engaged, the “oooh, when are you having kids” will start.
Post # 13
i get that a lot too. first, it’s weird when people who’ve known about my promise ring start mistaking it for an engagement ring. even though people mean well, they’re usually unaware just how much hurt they’re causing. we’ll be here to commiserate with you. keep heart though, it’ll happen!
Post # 14
@moderndaisy – so completely true, thanks!
After a particularly crazy onslaught of folks calling me up over Christmas just to ask if I was engaged yet, I told MNbf about it, and how embarrassing it was for me, and that this was the last year I was handling them – in 2011 I’m referring all engagement inquiries to him.
Post # 15
LOL I’ve been doing so much preplanning that everyone at work has been saying “wait… you’re engaged?!” and my response is usually, “Um, well, no. No ring, see?” But it’s coming sooooo soon!
Post # 16
I hear ya… Feel like people are constantly asking me that and i just say “ITS NOT UP TO ME !” so irritating…