Post # 1
I feel like 2 years out is way too early… I already asked my BFF to be my MOH, since we’ve planned on that since we were teenagers, but I’m not sure about the other BMs. FH hasn’t asked anyone yet. When are you all planning to ask?
Post # 3
@ms_snugs: I’m 11 months out and I just decided that I want a wedding party. I ordered some super cute cards off of Etsy, I’m just waiting on those! …
2 years may be a little long… I would ask once you yourself start to make concrete plans 🙂
Post # 4
Well I’m not officially engaged yet, but I’ll answer. BFF knows she’s going to be a BM, has for years. It’s just a given. My other BM, if she says yes, will be fh’s sister. I plan on asking her about a year in advance. I’m in a bit of a weird situation because we picked a date, but it’s kind of between us for now since we want to make sure jobs and school work out for us before getting a ring and announcing our engagement. But, to answer your question, I’d ask about a year out. Too much can change in 2 years!
Post # 5
@ms_snugs: It depends on your friends to be honest. I’m a June 2015 bride too (YAY!) and we got engaged in December last year. I waited until our engagement party in May to ask them and in that time, my choices just solidified in my mind. I wanted to wait to be absolutely sure, but I am totally sure and most of the girls assumed they would be bridesmaids anyway! I wouldn’t ask anybody I wasn’t 100% sure on though!
Post # 6
I’m likely to be a June 2015 bride (fingers crossed) and I haven’t decided who to ask to be a ‘wedding party’ yet plus how many I can even afford to have (UK traditions make bride/groom pays for dresses etc..), I’ll probably ask SO’s sisters as they will be family and that’s not going to change (probably straight after we’re engaged, which may be around xmas time)
I’ll decide about which other maids to have slightly later. I’m really close (see each other all the time, talk about anything etc..) with one of my friends at the moment but we’re only been close friends for a year but I also have friends that I’ve had for 10 years which I’m not as close with anymore but still have amazing history but love them dearly. I have to have a good think about this. aha.
I’ve discussed the wedding with my close family and I can already sense drama about who is going to be bridemaids as my gran has already mentioned that I ‘really’ should have my cousin as one as it would be ‘nice’, she has also mentioned it a couple of times to my mum without me there. My cousin is 9 years younger than me and we’re not close but I can sense the pot being stirred (before there is anything to stir!)
I went a bit off from what the post was about, sorry OP!
Post # 7
I’m going to ask about a year out. I have however already asked one of my girls just because were so close. She’s my cousin but more like my sister.
Post # 8
I already asked my BFF to be my MOH because it was clearly a given. I will probably ask FSIL to be a BM about 8-12 months out. FI’s GMs I leave entirely up to him.
Post # 9
I will be asking my sister to be my MOH very soon, but am waiting until at least December (hopefully having an engagement party then) or about a year in advance. 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks for your feedback. I’m going to wait until next summer.
Post # 11
I’m May 2015, I already asked my sister (MOH) but I’m going to ask the others in a cute way probably right around the 12 month mark. FI hasn’t asked anyone yet, and will probably wait as well.
Post # 12
I’ve already asked the MOH and one friend to be a BM. I’ve pretty much known who I’ve wanted to be my BM’s for a long time. It’s pretty obvious. The only one I’m not sure on is I’ve become good friends with someone in the past year. I’ll probably wait around winter-spring before asking. We’re doing a DW, so the latest I’d ask is 1 year out, so they have time to plan/save.
FI has asked one friend. he has 2 brother and my brother already as a given.
Post # 13
I have been engaged for almost a year now and my girls knew within the first 6 months of my engagement (our date is June 13 2015). His guys knew at about 9 months in??
Post # 14
Since we started planning a 2014 wedding I asked my bff the day I got engaged and within a few weeks everyone else was asked..unfortunately. It got pushed back to 2015, so we decided we wanted a younger flower girl (his niece was going to be it but she will be 12 in 2015) which caused us to having a falling out with his sister, who was going to be a bridesmaid, plus everyone else finds her annoying, another good friend moved away and dropped out and I lost touch with another friend, then picked up another good friend. So my bff is still my moh, a mutual friend is still a bridesmaid, and a friend from 7th grade is still a bridesmaid, as well as his cousin’s wife who I’ve gotten really close to.
So yeah, I would recommend waiting!
Post # 15
As for bridemaids and groomsmen etc. me and FI are sticking to family so there are garunteed people that won’t lose the excitement waiting. If we were asking friends we wouldn’t do so till maybe 6-8 months before wedding. Then it’s still relevant and exciting while still being a bit ways away. We are also having a June wedding :] 6/6/15 but do not have a clue when to send out invites. the fact that we moved our wedding from 2014 to 2015 some peopls have already began to lose interest in it so we don’t want to further diminish it by send out invites too soon or inconvience them by sending too late.
Post # 16
I am curious about this too. I know that I want my sister and his sister to be my bridesmaids, in addition to three friends of mine. I will wait to ask my friends until a year out or so. We plan to marry in summer 2015.
I wanted to send them this perfume that his aunt sells through Mary Kay, that is called “Thinking of You” with a note that says, ” When I began thinking about who I want most to stand by my side, as cry tears of joy and say ‘I do’ I couldn’t help but think of you. Will you do me the honor of being my bridesmaid?” (opinions?) Should I buy it now, or wait?
My obligations for my bridesmaids are: being together the morning of as we get ready, pictures together, being in the ceremony, attend the reception, picking appropriate dresses for themselves with my input for color, length and fabric and moral support.
So my question, should I wait until I ask my friends to be my bridesmaids or can I ask them as soon as we secure a date?