Post # 1
I know you aren’t supposed to send thank you notes until after the wedding (except for shower gifts), but when is it ok to cash a check given to you as a wedding gift. My wedding is a little less than a month away and I could definitely use the money. I don’t want to cash it and then not send a formal thank you until after.
What’s the proper etiquette?
Post # 3
You actually can send a thank-you note for gifts received before the wedding as you receive them. You don’t have to wait until after the wedding. Your guests will appreciate knowing you received the gift!
And I’d definitely recommend cashing those checks as soon as you can (and sending the thank you), so you’re not tying up your generous friends’ and family’s money for any longer than necessary!
Post # 4
We have been cashing any cheques that have come in when we got them. Mainly because any that have come with my name on need to be banked before I go and change my name as they currently have my (will be) maiden name on. We also want to earn the interest! We will write our thank you notes to say what the money will be used towards.
Personally, I don’t think it is right to use money from people to help you out prior to the wedding. It should be for any gifts that were unpurchased or, maybe, long term house projects. That is what we are putting the money towards.
Others may have different opinions and that’s fine.
Post # 5
you should open the gifts and send thank yous when you receive them. they say just don’t use the gifts before the wedding.
i received a gift a little over two months out. we opened the giftwrapped box but put the actualy item in the basement until after the wedding. i sent the thank you note that week.
Post # 6
@Kingler1016: Trust me, for your own peace of mind, you should go ahead and open them and then send a card immediately. You will be overwhelmed after the wedding. I probably received half the gifts before the wedding and the other half after the wedding. It’s a lot better to have half done before the wedding in a span of let’s say two months than to write them all after! On top of that, it lets the gift giver know that you received the gift.
Post # 7
Considering these are checks, I would just cash them immediately. I personally hate writing checks because I hate constantly checking my account to make sure the recipient has cashed it and it throws off my personal accounting in the meantime.
Post # 8
@Kingler1016: Unfortunately you are mistaken. You are supposed to thank everyone in a timely fashion. Etiquette experts give 3 month maximum to send them from the time they are received.
The gold standard is to send them the night a gift is received.