Post # 1
My friend emailed me and asked me if I was looking into shuttle service for guests to get to and from the ceremony/reception. I said no. Guests can drive their own cars. She then said that it was the proper thing to do nowadays. She also asked me if I was hiring child care. I said no. Again, apparently it’s the proper thing to do in this day in age.
Before the wedding industry told brides that they had to do this, what did guests do? They got into their own cars and drove to the ceremony and reception. They either didn’t drink a lot so they could drive or they had a Dirty Delete with them.
What did guests do with their children? They either brought them and left early or they found a babysitter. In some cases, if the child was old enough, they were sent to the hotel rooms with their other siblings and/or close family member that wanted to leave early.
The shuttle would be nice for a destination wedding, but a wedding in my hometown? Yeah, get in your car and drive the 2 miles.
Anyone else being asked to provide these services? Anyone else find it crazy?
Post # 3
What is your friend Paris Hilton? I have never heard of this being a typical thing. I attended a wedding last year that was easily $50,000, no shuttle or childcare…..
Post # 4
No we didn’t, yes its crazy. I can understand that some people do, but it should never be expected in every circumstance
Post # 5
@Miss Tattoo:WTF???????? Your friend is off her rocker…..I’ve never heard of either. She’s a nutbag.
Post # 6
Those things are nice bonuses, not expectations. I feel like I’m being considerate for blocking hotel rooms .2 miles away from the reception, if anyone expects more they are going to be disappointed.
Post # 7
We are doing a shuttle, but only because our wedding is a destination wedding and we are recommending hotels for people to stay in (also we don’t want people drinking and driving back to their hotels).
As for the child care thing… That’s crazy. We are having an adult only wedding, if someone asked about bringing a child, we’d probably help them find child care, but no we aren’t setting up a babysitter.
Post # 8
@Miss Tattoo: i think it’s crazy as well. i thought about a hotel with shuttle service for a bit before FH reminded me that they’re adults and can figure out how to get their asses from one location to another. God gave them legs and the state gave them a license. I get that it’s a nice gesture, but it’s not something anyone should expect or hound the B&G about. As for child care, i’m not parenting their children – not my responsibility.
Post # 9
@Miss Tattoo: its crazy! you want me to pay for your ride home while you get trashed on drinks im buying you? hahaha…no way jose
Post # 10
dont forget to arrange pashminas for all your guests, flip flops for tired feet and hand rolled cigars for the menfolk………. because thats how things are done these days *roll eyes*
Post # 11
My friends only had shuttles if the reception and ceremony were in different spots. OR in the Boston because getting around Boston is a PIA.
Post # 13
We actually did both of these things but I don’t expect them when I attend weddings. Honestly people just have a huge sense of entitlement these days.
Post # 14
Um, I agree with you. She can provide this herself. I have never heard of that and I have yet to hear about that.
By the way I love all the previous post!!
Post # 15
That’s ridiculous. Both are thoughtful extras, CERTAINLY not necessities or required for etiquette. We did both of these things, but here’s why:
1) Shuttle was free with hotel block (score).
2) We wanted to give guests who were coming from Out of Town to have the option not to take their kids to the wedding if they wanted a night to themselves.
3) We had a small wedding, which is what made these things possible.
Post # 16
Yea we’re not having shuttles or babysitting services. We’re paying for your food and drink for 5 hours you can find someone to watch your kids and get your own ride home.
Haha wow I sounds like such a bee-yotch. I swear I’m not, I understand being accommodating to your guests, but good lord that is just ridiculous.