(Closed) When did I become a snob?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You get used to it. Doesn’t make you an inherently bad person. IMO what makes you a bad person is expecting or even frowning upon those who cannot keep up with you financially.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Nothing is wrong with you!  FI has been able to provide us with a very nice life…and I have become jaded because of it.  I still appreciate the little things in life, but I have a higher standard now…I don’t think that’s wrong!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@vmec: You hit the nail on the head. The only thing I would add..is if said person/people were wasting the money they have on stupid things like alcohol, food extras, etc; instead of their rent, basic living bills, children, etc. That’s when I get pissed. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I hear all these people complaining about being broke all the time and whatnot, and I just can’t relate

sometimes i read posts about people struggling to put a few thousand together and i sit here and wonder how/why not – i am not rich or consider myself upper class but i cant relate either

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I dont think that you have anything wrong with you!! I think you just get used to the the lifestyle that you live. Being broke or whatever sucks, but that doesnt mean that you are a bad person because you dont struggle like that and it doenst by any stretch mean that you forgot where you came from. As long as you are not looking down on those who arent as blessed as you are, but it doesnt seem like that. You said yourself that you are thankful for what you have.. As long as that is the case I think you are good.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I pretty much dream of “forgetting where we came from” – ha! Although we’re really not broke, we’re just recent college grads starting careers, so it takes a while. Even we have friends more “broke” than we are, and forget what it was like to be two steps back. Nothing wrong with you at all, especially since you’re cognizant of what’s going on.

@eloping: Yeah, we’re those people who struggle to put a couple thousand together. Hoping to be out of that soon ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Nothing is wrong with you. In fact, the fact that you wrote this post shows that you are NOT a snob. To me a snob is someone who does take things forgranted and thinks people are not worthy if they are not up to your standards. You most definitely are not any of those things.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Mine came with age I think, and having children. I want the best for her. That being said my determination to make it so, is much stronger. I work for everything I have right now, and I always have, since I was 16. I’m an only child, and my parents spoiled me, but I always wanted to work so I could do my own thing with the money I earned. Anyway, I come from a humble family and I have never belittled anyone. I know what it’s like! My parents weren’t always in the black, they were young parents! My mom had me when she was 19. Just rambling now! Sorry! I wouldn’t call it “snobbery”, I think my standards and my wants and likes have just kind of coincided with my income bracket and gone up a little with age and mommyhood. This is just my personal experience, no jab at anyone. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

 

EDIT: I lost sight of the original post and questio: nothing is wrong with you! You’re human and like another PP mentioned, just bringing it up and questioning makes you humbled, you know? Don’t ever lose sight of that!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it’s all a matter of balance and perspective. Giving and using what you have wisely.

I have no problem with people who are wealthier than me, what bothers me is when they are wasteful or have the attitude that everything and everyone should serve them or be impressed with them.

Some of the kindest, most generous, and loving people I know are quite rich (millions!) but they never make me feel like my opinion isn’t worthwhile, my things aren’t good enough, or their expectations aren’t met.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@MrsFuzzyFace:

yeah– I know what you mean. I used to be totally happy to stay in loud hostels and grimy motel 6 type places. when I realize I’ve turned into a little bit of a hotel snob, I asked myself: who is this spoiled brat and what happened to the real me? 

but I think I do deserve it. from the time I moved out of my parents house to the time I met my husband (so from 19-30), I was dirt poor.  one time I was homeless for two months because I lost my job and couldn’t afford my studio anymore! 

like PPs have said, I try my best to be discreet about money around my friends. 

also, I share the wealth. I give to charities, I randomly treat my friends to things, I buy my family nice gifts for birthdays. it feels so good.

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Agree with pps.  The minute you stop being grateful for the roof over your head and start looking down on people who don’t have one (or live in fear of losing theirs) is the moment there’s “something wrong with you.” Until that happens, just try to put what extra you have to good and responsible use.  

We’re doing ok now, but as long-time bees know, my husband and I went through some tough times when he was unemployed for a year (and i’m a grad student earning peanuts).  It was a source of fear and shame.  I hope to God I never judge anyone else in that situation.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

You aren’t a snob ๐Ÿ™‚

I know those snobs. They’re my parents. 

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