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i've been married 8 months and i cant say it hit me like a ton of bricks or anything but the other day in the car i was in deep thought about my new last name and how foreign it still sounds.
I am not married YET but I felt like this when we got engaged - we bought a house together last year and signing our mortgage papers were more of a "ton of bricks" than being engaged... I feel weird because I feel the same too .. I like saying fiance but at the end of the day we are still the same couple sitting on the same spots on the couch like you :) .. I think everyone asking "does it feel different!?!" doesnt help haha
It hit me immediatley because i felt an instant surge of relief that the wedding was finally over and we were finally official in the eyes of the law and society at large. No change in our day to day lives whatsoever, but I immediatley noticed being treated differently by everyone - in general i get a ton more respect and there are also little things like men no longer hitting on me (thank goodness for that ring!!).
@CanadianMermaid: Totally agree on everyone asking, "does it feel different?" I almost feel like they're disappointed when I say no. lol!
@moderndaisy: I agree on feeling relieved! We had such a great wedding. It was lovely and perfect, but I will never plan another one again!
I have been married for almost a month, and while it's fantastic to no longer have wedding stress, it took a long time to feel different. SO much changed after the wedding (we hadn't been living together, we weren't sleeping together, etc), that we thought it would be super obvious that life just changed.
It is starting to be sort of a gradual realization, though, and it's still kind of fun to go "oh hey, you're my HUSBAND that's so weird!". I still trip out seeing my new name at the bottom of emails and on my nametag at work, and still sign my old signature still. (i actually avoid introducing myself by including my last name because it just gets confusing.)
It's been almost 3 months.. still hasnt hit me except for the relief of the wedding planning not looming over my head anymore. Day to day life and everything else is still exactly the same since we'd already lived together for a year.
We are getting married in 8 months, and it already feels different. But that is becasue we have never lived together before and saving ourselves ahah. We are building a house, and doing all that shaneigans which is great, but it is already so different... so I think that is what makes it diffferent.
It wont hit you all at once, you'll just notice little things over time. Or at least that's how it happened for me. One day saying husband doesn't feel all that weird anymore!
When I got my first bank statement and the envelope said Mrs ...
As @PitBulLover said it happens over a period of time, I'm still getting used to saying 'husband'
@PitBulLover: I agree. Over time, things became more and more natural. I had to call my old doctors office the other day and used my married name, but they never had me as a patient under that name. For the first time ever, it felt weird saying my maiden name because I'm so used to my new one.
I still feel old when a student calls me "Mrs" though. I feel like that should be my MIL!
@piglet_625: I just called the electric company and while I had them on the phone I changed my name. She kept calling me Mrs. (new last name) and I was looking over my shoulder for my MIL. Lol!
It's going to take a while. I already have issues with being called Ma'am, and now to be a Mrs. on top of it.... I'm going to feel like I should be asking for a senior discount at the movies!
I came to the realization when we got back from our Honeymoon. Granted we had been living together for 3 years but for some reason it feels real. I feel like we are "one" and we have such a deep bond. Such a wonderful feeling.
Oh and when I was changing my name everyone called me by my new name and I LOVED IT!!!!!
I think all couples experience marriage differently. I'm not married yet (will be next week though!) so I'll soon be able to report back, but my fiance and I have been living together for about 1 year now and we had only been living together like 4 months when we got engaged. I think it felt a bit different when we got engaged. I felt more connected to him and in love. I think it will be more of a change for me obviously since I will be taking his last name and I'll need to get used to a new name.
I got married and immediately moved to London with my husband.
We got married a week and a half ago.
Even with all the change, it hasn't really hit me.
It'd weird being introduced to everyone as his wife (or him as my husband) but I don't really feel much different.
Only big difference is I don't mind getting up with him in the morning to cook him breakfast, or doing the laundry, or having dinner ready when he gets home. Whereas before sometimes I'd be more likely to sleep in, or order take out.
Some of that probably has to do with the fact that I'm currently unemployed so I can go back to bed after he leaves for work.
I think I'm still in a bit of shock. Quitting my job, getting married and moving to a new country have all got my head spinning a bit.
@Ms. Peach: Wedding date twins! This is EXACTLY what I've been thinking! DH and I lived together for a long time, and last December, even moved across the country together for his work.
We won't get to take our honeymoon until January. So it was, Yay! We are married, back to work! Nothing is different. Same spots on the couch, same tv shows, same walk the dog and feed the cat schedule. All the dishes and towels are in the same spot. LOL
So I TOTALLY understand what you are feeling! Nothing is different. Except that we wear our wedding bands and ARE legally married.
It hasn't hit me either really. We got married a week(ish) ago, although I can say that I feel similar to how @moderndaisy: put it, there was a huge relief that the wedding was done and over. I also already feel like I'm more respected (so weird how that happens).
It hit me when I got my new social security card in the mail, it wasn't weird calling him husband, because I love calling him that, it is much easier than saying fiance! I think the new last name is the biggest getting use to, but the being married part is wonderful, and I was used to it right away! =)
It's been almost 6 months and it still hasn't hit me! In my mind I know we're married (duh), but I haven't felt any big changes. Sometimes I'll have a "moment" like when I look at his ring or something like "wow...we ARE married"...
I think it's harder to feel different if you lived together beforehand.
We have been married almost 9 months. It hit me when we decided to start trying for kids and then when my husband was talking to me about some family stuff and I realized that I was now in his immediate family--like they consider me part of the 'original' family.
It was really weird when my parents introduced him to their friends. It also hit me when we bought furniture. We had this money and we had to decide what to do with it together. I was like, "Wow, every important decision we make, we will make it together now."
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That you are married? It's only been 5 days for Mr. Peach and I, but I feel weird because I don't feel weird.
We have been living together for over 2 years, so I wasn't expecting a huge revelation, but I thought I would feel a little different now that I've got myself a husband.
We went on a mini moon for a few days and I referred to him as "my husband" a few times when talking to someone else and it felt good, not weird, although I had to think about it for a second.
We came home last night and were sitting on the couch in our same old spots watching our shows. It was great, but I don't know..... It didn't feel any different. I can't explain it, I guess.
I guess I have just heard from so many people how you feel different once your married. Maybe we just need to ease into it and settle in some more.
Does anyone else know what I'm talking about? LOL!