(Closed) When did it hit you?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i’ve been married 8 months and i cant say it hit me like a ton of bricks or anything but the other day in the car i was in deep thought about my new last name and how foreign it still sounds.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am not married YET but I felt like this when we got engaged – we bought a house together last year and signing our mortgage papers were more of a “ton of bricks” than being engaged… I feel weird because I feel the same too .. I like saying fiance but at the end of the day we are still the same couple sitting on the same spots on the couch like you 🙂 .. I think everyone asking “does it feel different!?!” doesnt help haha

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

It hit me immediatley because i felt an instant surge of relief that the wedding was finally over and we were finally official in the eyes of the law and society at large. No change in our day to day lives whatsoever, but I immediatley noticed being treated differently by everyone – in general i get a ton more respect and there are also little things like men no longer hitting on me (thank goodness for that ring!!).

Post # 7
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124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have been married for almost a month, and while it’s fantastic to no longer have wedding stress, it took a long time to feel different. SO much changed after the wedding (we hadn’t been living together, we weren’t sleeping together, etc), that we thought it would be super obvious that life just changed.

It is starting to be sort of a gradual realization, though, and it’s still kind of fun to go “oh hey, you’re my HUSBAND that’s so weird!”. I still trip out seeing my new name at the bottom of emails and on my nametag at work, and still sign my old signature still. (i actually avoid introducing myself by including my last name because it just gets confusing.)

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s been almost 3 months.. still hasnt hit me except for the relief of the wedding planning not looming over my head anymore.  Day to day life and everything else is still exactly the same since we’d already lived together for a year.

Post # 9
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We are getting married in 8 months, and it already feels different. But that is becasue we have never lived together before and saving ourselves ahah. We are building a house, and doing all that shaneigans which is great, but it is already so different… so I think that is what makes it diffferent. 

Post # 10
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

It wont hit you all at once, you’ll just notice little things over time. Or at least that’s how it happened for me. One day saying husband doesn’t feel all that weird anymore!

Post # 11
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11299 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

When I got my first bank statement and the envelope said Mrs …

As @PitBulLover said it happens over a period of time, I’m still getting used to saying ‘husband’

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@PitBulLover: I agree.  Over time, things became more and more natural.  I had to call my old doctors office the other day and used my married name, but they never had me as a patient under that name.  For the first time ever, it felt weird saying my maiden name because I’m so used to my new one. 

I still feel old when a student calls me “Mrs” though.  I feel like that should be my MIL!

Post # 14
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I came to the realization when we got back from our Honeymoon. Granted we had been living together for 3 years but for some reason it feels real. I feel like we are “one” and we have such a deep bond. Such a wonderful feeling.

Oh and when I was changing my name everyone called me by my new name and I LOVED IT!!!!!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think all couples experience marriage differently. I’m not married yet (will be next week though!) so I’ll soon be able to report back, but my fiance and I have been living together for about 1 year now and we had only been living together like 4 months when we got engaged. I think it felt a bit different when we got engaged. I felt more connected to him and in love. I think it will be more of a change for me obviously since I will be taking his last name and I’ll need to get used to a new name.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I got married and immediately moved to London with my husband.

We got married a week and a half ago.

Even with all the change, it hasn’t really hit me.

It’d weird being introduced to everyone as his wife (or him as my husband) but I don’t really feel much different.

Only big difference is I don’t mind getting up with him in the morning to cook him breakfast, or doing the laundry, or having dinner ready when he gets home. Whereas before sometimes I’d be more likely to sleep in, or order take out.

Some of that probably has to do with the fact that I’m currently unemployed so I can go back to bed after he leaves for work.

I think I’m still in a bit of shock. Quitting my job, getting married and moving to a new country have all got my head spinning a bit.

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