Post # 1
Did most people wait until the last minute? Or did most people RSVP soon after getting their invite?
Our responses are due in two days… and so far only 34 of 126 have responded.
It’s not like response cards are getting lost in the mail… we did online responses. We know that everyone we invited has access to the internet (whether at home or a library) except for three elderly people which already RSVP’d in person.
Maybe they think if they aren’t coming they dont have to respond? Or is this delay in responses normal?
I really dont want to have to call 92 people on November 2.
Do you have any crazy wedding response stories?
Post # 2
We sent ours out around August 8-9 this year. They came in pretty steady until our RSVP deadline date of September 19. Although, we did get a lot right away… and then as September 19 was nearing it decreased a lot.
We actually were still hounding people about their responses a week and a half before the wedding, which was 2 weeks after the RSVP deadline. Most were DH’s family/friends, so we gave the list of missing RSVPs to his parents and they made calls, or else DH did them if he knew them well enough. I only had to send a few texts out to friends, and realized that a couple of them never got them! But, we still had people not respond at all.
A couple of the last minute RSVP people never ended up showing, so my effort of asking them seemed wasted. But oh well, I wanted ot make sure everyone was accounted for.
Post # 3
80% of our invites never got a response, even after sending reminder messages/calls out the week before the due date.
Post # 4
BeeG35: Kacie209: Of those who never responded, did any of them show up to the wedding?
Post # 5
LeonardLady: We actually sent ours out slightly early- and people responded right away. I was actually surprised at how many came in right after we mailed them. Of course we had a few that trickled in later- including the one that came on the very last day with four EXTRA people on it LOL<br /><br />
Post # 6
Jen041815: I’m trying to think… I think maybe one couple did. BUT, they did RSVP – just after we had already given our numbers to the venue, so they ate up one of our extra meals that we had ordered just in case.
So, I don’t think the ones that didn’t respond did show up, to the dinner part anyway.
Post # 7
Jen041815: no. my reminders explained that they would be counted as no’s if there was no response by the due date.
Post # 8
Every one is different. Some people tell you to mark them down as attending, as soon as they get the Save the Date. Others you might have to gently remind, by text or e-mail. Many we knew would attend, but didn’t know their entree choice. My Mom talks to our relatives all the time, so she gathered-up a bunch; my husband got his co-workers and church friends’ choices. We did online responses for #1 (theKnot), but got about 50% from talking to guests, texting, e-mail, etc.
Daughter #1 married 2013. Invited 250. Two never responded (didn’t bother to invite them to #2, of course). The others RSVPd by 10 days before the due date. I was astounded and thought ourselves very lucky. Only 10% declined (Sunday of a holiday weeekend). No one cancelled; one no-show (family emergency/quick flight).
Daughter #2 married 2014. Invited 136/95 attended (30% decline). And what a mess!; 4 cancelled 1-2 weeks before the wedding and there were 3 no-shows ($550+ lost). Did regular e-mail responses, although the groom’s mother collected quite a few from their side. Some never responded, even after phone calls and getting reminders, in the mail. The groom’s side is used to different types of weddings/receptions, such as courthouse, potluck in church hall, etc. Some of the couples’ friends were remiss in timely responses; one we had to chase after and ended up being a no-show; same with a date, who was a late add-on/no show. A number of these people we figure are of the “only respond if you’re attending,” school of thought; it may be what is common, for their social circles.
Back in the day when I was a kid, you pretty much expected everyone to attend; there were no RSVP cards, or seating plans, and the refreshments ranged anywhere from cake and punch (birthday party foods) to cold cuts and potato salad types of spreads, in the church hall.
Setting up the guest list and waiting for RSVPs are the two worse parts of wedding planning. Good luck!
Post # 9
I wish my guests responded as well as some of yours! I reeeeally am not looking forward to calling 92 people if they don’t respond.
BeeG35: I was thinking about sending out a mass message to all the invitees today as a reminder to respond, but wasn’t sure if it was ‘proper’ to do so since they still technically have two days. But if you did it, I’ll do it! 🙂
Thanks for your responses everyone! Keep ’em coming! 🙂
Post # 10
I sent my cards out around 10/1 with a please respond date of 11/13/14. I sent 65 and so far as of today, I’ve received 40 responses. So off to a great start!!
Post # 11
My RSVP deadline was last Friday and I have about a 81% positive response rate. People could respond on the website, by phone, email or response card. Most just told us they were coming lol. I’m still not sure if one of my mother’s brothers is coming as he hasn’t been well. I’m marking him down as yes but it depends how he’s feeling that day.
Post # 12
LeonardLady: I am dreading this. I know it will happen to me as my family is not very good about sending out RSVPs. But I have to admit – I am even MORE scared that every person will respond yes really early on (which we can’t afford and will have to change our dinner plans to a buffet), but then won’t show up once they see travel costs (they have to travel accross the country).
Post # 13
We actually had 2 different RSVP dates. We were restricted to a max of 200. I have a huge family that would take up all of that, but they all live 8 states away. It would be a big financial burden for them to come since flying is the only realistic option. So for a Nov 9th wedding date. We sent out RSVP to all family and other out of state guests with an RSVP date of August 31. AFter that date we now knew how many spots we had available for friends. Their RSVP date was October 31. This plan worked brilliantly. Every single person responded by their RSVP date. I did not have to make a single call. I would highly recommend this for people with out of state travelers!
Post # 14
I forgot to mention that after the Aug 31 deadline, we had to send a third set of RSVP for the rehearsal dinner. We decided that we would invite ALL out of state guests to the rehearsal dinner. Since they were kind enough to spend all that money for airfare, hotels and cars to come see our special day, we could treat them to a nice dinner. Plus it was more time we could spend with them. So we had 60 people attending our rehearsal dinner. Once again they all RSVP on time. We did have a about five guests not show for the wedding, but they were medical emergencies ( 2 couples became new parents and the other a head trauma due to a fall). So everyone else showed.
Post # 15
LeonardLady: don’t bug your guests with a reminder before the RSVP date, wait until it has past then contact them. We had about a 50/50 split for RSVP’s. They either came in a week after the invites went out or arrived in the two days either side of the RSVP date.