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    Coffee cup    December 7, 2012   Sonora, Mexico

    We're gettin married in december, te first of our group.

    My girlfriends are all on medschool so they're nowhere close to getting married and FIs friends are "living the life" so they're not thinking about marriage either. Sometimes I feel like the boring adult in the middle of the carefree youngsters.

    When did we grow up and became this adult couple planning a wedding?

    Does someone else feel like this?

     
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    redheadem    September 30, 2012   NYC/MD

    I do somewhat. But FI and I moved in together right after college, so if we weren't getting married, I guess we'd just still be living together, living like married people anyway... haha. I don't think getting married should limit the amount of fun you have or how "carefree" you are. You just can't hook up with other people - that's the only limitation I see. 

    Look at it this way - FI and I are paying minimal rent because we share a one bedroom apartment, while my single friends' rents are much higher since they have their own bedroom. So we have much more disposable income to have fun with! Woo hoo!

     
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    CanadianMermaid    December 2012  

    We are not the first in our group of friends (FI is 5 years older) but I still have those "when did I become an adult" moments 

     
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    Coffee cup    December 7, 2012   Sonora, Mexico

    @redheadem: Oh I'm not complaining about not being able to be carefree anymore, being honest I never was. Is just that now we have different priorities now and sometimes I feel in a different tune than my friends.

    A few weeks ago my FI bought a dinner room table and one of his friends asked him why did he do that? seriously? cause I don't want to eat on the floor!

     
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    AmeliaBedelia    March 3, 2012   Georgia

    I so feel that. We're technically the first of our close group to get married, though we do have a lot of acquaintances and lesser friends that are married. We went to several weddings last year, we just weren't particularly close to any of them.

    It is strange seeing how priorities can differ when it's the same people you went through high school or college (or even middle school or elementary) with, and they lead such different lives. But it's just something to deal with. Some people will try and find fault with what you're doing, "Why don't you guys just come out with us tonight?" Uh, because we share a house and bills now and are broke. We all grow up at different paces and do things differently. I don't think it's ever more obvious than when we "grow up." People in their 20s and 30s differ so much in their priorities and goals, it's really incredible!

    That being said...I totally was a kid again today. I went with my mom and sister to see Beauty and the Beast 3D and it's adorable! ;)

     
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    Coffee cup    December 7, 2012   Sonora, Mexico

    @AmeliaBedelia: OMG where do you live? It won't be out here till summer or something.

    BTW you're getting marrie din my birthdays, lol.

     
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    AmeliaBedelia    March 3, 2012   Georgia

    @Coffee cup: I live in Georgia, sort of near Atlanta. It just came out today. It is SO good! Note: Don't watch it between now and then. I loved seeing parts that I'd forgotten about. Made it more magical. Oh, disney. :) Lol. Btw, happy early birthday! :)

     
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    Coffee cup    December 7, 2012   Sonora, Mexico

    @AmeliaBedelia: I watch it often so id fresh in my mind. But I won't.

    Happy early Wedding day! =)

     
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    AmeliaBedelia    March 3, 2012   Georgia

    @Coffee cup: Haha, yes, avoid it until it comes out! :) And thank you. So close!

     
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    pinkfrog    October 20, 2012   South Jersey

    I have these moments more often at work than anything.  Like when I'm arbitrating a case and I look around the table and see three 50 year old male partners at big city firms, and I realized I'm deciding who's going to pay what to whom in this case they've all spent hundreds of hours and tens of thousands of dollars litigating.  I occasionally think "what the crap? Am I really allowed to DO this?? And they'll LISTEN???"

    FI definitely had a "when did I grow up" moment when he was signing mortgage docs, and occasionally we realize that we spend more money at Home Depot than the liquor store.  The day we got really excited about the prospect of buying a grill was a little weird too.

     

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