Post # 1
As always, I’m curious. 🙂 And how did it happen?
We started dating (we met online and messaged for less than 2 weeks before meeting) in early October, and around Thanksgiving I decided to invite him to (his first!) Christmas, with my family 400 miles away. Apparently he started subtly tracing the words “I love you” on my skin in early December, and that was when I was starting to think it too. Around 3AM on Christmas morning, after going out to a bar, I decided to use my liquid courage to my advantage. We were spooning, so my back was to him. What I said was not at all subtle, but we were drunk enough that it had an “out” for him in case he wasn’t ready. “So I really really like you… like, more than like… so I have something I’d like to say to you… but you have to say it first.” Then he had the audacity to say “I love you too”! But I didn’t catch the “too” part anyway. Iturned to face him. “Really?” “Yes.” “You’re not just saying that?” “No” “I love you too.” And then we tried to do something that didn’t really end up working, but we more than made up for it later 😉
To me two and a half months was the perfect amount of time to be sure, but I’m always surprised by people who weren’t even friends first who start saying it within a month, or who wait 6+ months.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
I believe it was about after three months. I knew I was in love at about two months. We had been friends for just shy of a year before we started dating. Two months after we started dating I was in the hospital for a kidney stone. It wasn’t terribly serious. But I sent him a text telling him where I was & why, and he took off work to come see me. Then took off early every day that week while I was at home waiting to pass it (and sick as a dog!).
I was organizing the paperwork in his safe a few months ago and actually found my hospital wristband that he had kept all this time. D’awwwwww…….
Post # 4
Party Shawn told me after about 2 weeks. It went something like this:
Party Shawn (words slightly slurred): “I’m gonna tell you something. I know you probably don’t want me to say it because I’ve been drinking, but I’d say it sober. I love you. I really do. I think you’re awesome and I really love you!”
Party Sarah returned the L-bomb 2 weeks after that. We told each other (sans drinking) for the first time on Valentine’s Day, just shy of 2 months being “officially” together.
Post # 5
@LMD: Aww it’s so sweet that he held on to it! I think one of the few good things about getting really sick is seeing how sweet and caring your SO can be. 🙂
@s2bmrscook: Lol that’s awesome. And congrats on your recent marriage!
Post # 6
My sweet FI said it first after only like a month or so, but I was a little slower and didn’t say it back until a month later. Now we both say it all day every day even 5 years later. (:
Post # 7
@ladyamalthea: I think it was about 3 month after we started dating. He had a job offer out of state with his current company. He told turned it down because he realized he love moi 🙂
Post # 8
It had to be about 2 months in. I was just leaving his house and it was a rainy night. He was walking to the frot door while I was getting in my car and he turned around and ran to me and gave me the most amazing passionate kiss ever and looked at me and told me he loved me..I said it back and had been feeling it for a while but was afraid to say it…felt like I was in a movie for a second lol
Post # 10
He started saying it in his sleep about a month after we started dating, but months 2-6 ended up being extremely emotional and challenging for us (but ultimately formed the strong basis for our relationship), and he said he truly fell for me in month 3. I didn’t say it until month 5.
Post # 11
I honestly can’t even remember how it happened? Is that weird? I think what we had was almost love at first date, so I think once we actually said it (I believe it was like, maybe 3 weeks into dating) it seemed really natural to both of us.
We met on our first day of college at our first class of the day, and later that week I asked him if I could come over to his dorm & do homework with him since I still didn’t have my book from amazon yet. He stayed up all night laughing and talking, and from that night forward we pretty much didn’t spend one day apart.
We really did become inseperable, and, if I’m being honest, I know he really loved me when he looked me into my eyes during class one day with the most beautiful and inquisitive smile and said “You know, you’re very interesting..” I don’t know what it was about that statement and the look on his face, but I knew he loved me because of who I am, and not what I could give him. And at that moment, I knew I loved him too.
Post # 12
FH and I had been friends in high school and by the time we reconnected and started dating, we’d both recently been out of some crappy relationships. I knew within a month that I loved him, but he didn’t say anything until we’d been together for about three months, maybe a little over.
We were both visiting our parents during our winter break from college (we’re from the same town). I was invited to his house for dinner and after we ate, we went outside to sit down. His parents lived out in the country, so we liked to go lay out and star gaze (sounds a bit cliche, right?). While we were laying in the bed of his truck, he looked at me and said, “I have something that I want to tell you. Don’t think I’m weird for saying it, but I know that I love you.”
Post # 13
Shamefully I don’t remember!
Post # 14
We had been hanging out as friends for a few weeks then when we made it official he went out of a town for a couple weeks, about a month after he got back I told my sister I think I love him! I had only told three men that I loved them in my entire life and they were all during teenage years. I thought my sister was going to laugh at me but she said we’ll tell him! I had never been the first to say I love you so I was really nervous and couldn’t get the words out! A couple days later we were laying in bed watching a movie and I said I have something to tell you and you really dont have to say anything back! Apparently he thought it was going to be something bad. I finally blurted out I love you! He jumped up and hugged me and said omg I love you too!!! And then he couldn’t stop saying it lol I’m glad I was able to finally spit it out!
Post # 15
I said it after about 6 months. He kind of freaked But it ended up ok. He said it back about 3 months after that.
Post # 16
I said it first. I hinted at it in texts for a couple weeks (we were LDR), then said something about “there’s this song that makes me think of you but I don’t wanna tell you what it is”…and after some prodding I would only tell SO who sang it (it was the Billy Currington song- I Got a Feelin’ for all you country folk)
The next time I saw her we were laying in bed (I think it might’ve actually been after sex =S) and I was thinking what if I was to like, die tomorrow and never told her what I was feeling. So I said “To err on the side of caution, I think I’m falling in love with you”…my SO laughed! And still teases me about the “to err on the side of caution” part lol She said “I love you too”
It was the first time I told a partner I loved them. I meant it more the way I said it “I’m falling in love with you” not so much “I AM in love you” but from that point on, it was “I love you” period. I think I fell for a couple more months & finally landed on “I really do love you” at around the 4-5 month mark. I think SO was in love the whole time. I took a little longer to come around since we were in a LDR and it was my first serious relationship. I discovered I was a committment-phobe.
I never ever thought I’d say it first. But I also initiated the first kiss. Whatever lol