When did you and your SO first say "I love you?"

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long before you and your SO said "I love you?"
    Before we started dating : (6 votes)
    2 %
    On the first date : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Within a week : (13 votes)
    5 %
    2-4 weeks : (31 votes)
    11 %
    After a month : (47 votes)
    17 %
    After two months : (49 votes)
    18 %
    After three months : (31 votes)
    11 %
    4-5 months : (30 votes)
    11 %
    6-11 months : (47 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    I believe it was about after three months.   I knew I was in love at about two months.  We had been friends for just shy of a year before we started dating.  Two months after we started dating I was in the hospital for a kidney stone.  It wasn’t terribly serious.  But I sent him a text telling him where I was & why, and he took off work to come see me.  Then took off early every day that week while I was at home waiting to pass it (and sick as a dog!).

    I was organizing the paperwork in his safe a few months ago and actually found my hospital wristband that he had kept all this time.  D’awwwwww…….

    Post # 4
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    3736 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Party Shawn told me after about 2 weeks. It went something like this: 

    Party Shawn (words slightly slurred): “I’m gonna tell you something. I know you probably don’t want me to say it because I’ve been drinking, but I’d say it sober. I love you. I really do. I think you’re awesome and I really love you!”

    Party Sarah returned the L-bomb 2 weeks after that. We told each other (sans drinking) for the first time on Valentine’s Day, just shy of 2 months being “officially” together.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1111 posts
    Bumble bee

    My sweet FI said it first after only like a month or so, but I was a little slower and didn’t say it back until a month later. Now we both say it all day every day even 5 years later. (:

    Post # 7
    Member
    238 posts
    Helper bee

    @ladyamalthea:  I think it was about 3 month after we started dating. He had a job offer out of state with his current company. He told turned it down because he realized he love moi 🙂

    Post # 8
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    498 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    It had to be about 2 months in. I was just leaving his house and it was a rainy night. He was walking to the frot door while I was getting in my car and he turned around and ran to me and gave me the most amazing passionate kiss ever and looked at me and told me he loved me..I said it back and had been feeling it for a while but was afraid to say it…felt like I was in a movie for a second lol

    Post # 10
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    124 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    He started saying it in his sleep about a month after we started dating, but months 2-6 ended up being extremely emotional and challenging for us (but ultimately formed the strong basis for our relationship), and he said he truly fell for me in month 3. I didn’t say it until month 5.

    Post # 11
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    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I honestly can’t even remember how it happened? Is that weird? I think what we had was almost love at first date, so I think once we actually said it (I believe it was like, maybe 3 weeks into dating) it seemed really natural to both of us.

    We met on our first day of college at our first class of the day, and later that week I asked him if I could come over to his dorm & do homework with him since I still didn’t have my book from amazon yet. He stayed up all night laughing and talking, and from that night forward we pretty much didn’t spend one day apart.

    We really did become inseperable, and, if I’m being honest, I know he really loved me when he looked me into my eyes during class one day with the most beautiful and inquisitive smile and said “You know, you’re very interesting..” I don’t know what it was about that statement and the look on his face, but I knew he loved me because of who I am, and not what I could give him. And at that moment, I knew I loved him too.

    Post # 12
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    4601 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    FH and I had been friends in high school and by the time we reconnected and started dating, we’d both recently been out of some crappy relationships. I knew within a month that I loved him, but he didn’t say anything until we’d been together for about three months, maybe a little over. 

    We were both visiting our parents during our winter break from college (we’re from the same town). I was invited to his house for dinner and after we ate, we went outside to sit down. His parents lived out in the country, so we liked to go lay out and star gaze (sounds a bit cliche, right?). While we were laying in the bed of his truck, he looked at me and said, “I have something that I want to tell you. Don’t think I’m weird for saying it, but I know that I love you.”

    Cue butterflies.

    Post # 13
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    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Shamefully I don’t remember!

    Post # 14
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    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    We had been hanging out as friends for a few weeks then when we made it official he went out of a town for a couple weeks, about a month after he got back I told my sister I think I love him! I had only told three men that I loved them in my entire life and they were all during teenage years. I thought my sister was going to laugh at me but she said we’ll tell him! I had never been the first to say I love you so I was really nervous and couldn’t get the words out! A couple days later we were laying in bed watching a movie and I said I have something to tell you and you really dont have to say anything back! Apparently he thought it was going to be something bad. I finally blurted out I love you! He jumped up and hugged me and said omg I love you too!!! And then he couldn’t stop saying it lol I’m glad I was able to finally spit it out!

    Post # 15
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    3718 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I said it after about 6 months. He kind of freaked But it ended up ok. He said it back about 3 months after that. 

    Post # 16
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    3077 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I said it first. I hinted at it in texts for a couple weeks (we were LDR), then said something about “there’s this song that makes me think of you but I don’t wanna tell you what it is”…and after some prodding I would only tell SO who sang it (it was the Billy Currington song- I Got a Feelin’ for all you country folk)

    The next time I saw her we were laying in bed (I think it might’ve actually been after sex =S) and I was thinking what if I was to like, die tomorrow and never told her what I was feeling. So I said “To err on the side of caution, I think I’m falling in love with you”…my SO laughed! And still teases me about the “to err on the side of caution” part lol She said “I love you too”

    It was the first time I told a partner I loved them. I meant it more the way I said it “I’m falling in love with you” not so much “I AM in love you” but from that point on, it was “I love you” period. I think I fell for a couple more months & finally landed on “I really do love you” at around the 4-5 month mark. I think SO was in love the whole time. I took a little longer to come around since we were in a LDR and it was my first serious relationship. I discovered I was a committment-phobe.

    I never ever thought I’d say it first. But I also initiated the first kiss. Whatever lol

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