When did you announce to family?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: When did you announce the pregnancy to in-laws?
    Immediately after first BFP : (4 votes)
    13 %
    After first doctor visit : (8 votes)
    26 %
    After 8 weeks : (11 votes)
    35 %
    After 12 weeks : (7 votes)
    23 %
    After 10 weeks : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Other (please elaborate) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
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    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m not planning to tell mine or his parents until at the very earliest 8 weeks, but hopefully not until 12 weeks. Whenever you’re both comfortable telling them is fine. 

    Post # 3
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    1785 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We told MIL at 8-ish weeks. We had allready confirmed with Drs apt. I had a really aweful experience telling own mother and needed someone who I knew would be supportive. Thankfully she was and I am grateful to have to to talk to when I have questions now. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    2594 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I didn’t have an appointment until I was 11.5 weeks. I told my mom soon after the BFP at just over 4 weeks, and my dad, stepmom and patents-in-law at almost ten weeks. I wad a little nervous about them knowing (except my mom) that early, but it was Christmas and I was pretty excited to tell them. I would’ve hated telling everyone if I’d miscarried, but would’ve wanted them to know anyway, I think. It worked out fine, I’m 22 weeks now and our baby seems completely healthy so far. Congrats and good luck to you!

    Post # 5
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    3360 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I’ve thought a lot about this, and I feel like I’m going to have to tell family as soon as I see them after a BFP – I would like to wait until at least 8 weeks, but if we see them earlier, they’ll know if I don’t drink at all.  It’s not that I’m a huge drinker, but when we spend weekends together, it would be extremely odd for me to not at least have a beer or a glass of wine all weekend.

    Post # 6
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    6067 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Truffle-hunter:  Congrats! I remember you from the boards these past few years, and I am very happy to hear about your good news!

    We told my parents right away, and we told my DH’s parents as soon as we were with them in person. We didn’t want to tell them over the phone.

    We made it clear to both of our parents that no one else was to know until we got into the second trimester.

    Post # 8
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    6067 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Truffle-hunter:  Oh crap, I’m sorry. Maybe I just feel familiar with you as I’ve seen you on the boards these past months. 🙂

    Yes, the reason we asked our parents not to tell anyone is because we were fearful of miscarriage and did not want to have to discuss it with people in case that happened.

    Basically, we only told our parents and a few very very close friends who we would have wanted to have support from in case anything like that happened.

    Post # 9
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    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    We told both sets of parents the day we found out. We did wait to get blood test results back from the doctor though, as I just wanted to be sure I really was pregnant, lol. We also told siblings on both sides.

    We asked them not to tell anyone else though, because I would want to be able to choose who knew if I miscarried.

    I really hope everything goes well, as both sets of parents would probably take it harder than we would if I miscarried. Especially my mum.

    Post # 10
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    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Truffle-hunter:  I found out really early. I had my blood test the day before my missed period. Once that showed positive, we told my parents the next day and his parents a few days later. I was less than 6 weeks along. (I can’t remember if I was 4 weeks and some days or 5 weeks)

    Post # 11
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    147 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    SadieBee:  I told my family right away, but got away with it with friends for several weeks by ordering a beer (in bottle or can), taking a few sips & then dumping the rest in the bathroom sink & replacing with water!  Quite a bit easier to pull off at a bar than a restaurant, though.  I also had luck getting to the restaurant early & talking to our water.. everytime I ordered a vodka soda, he would bring me soda water with a lime!  NObody ever caught me… Good luck!  

    Post # 12
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    1734 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    I’m 8 weeks, and the only people who know are a few friends of my husband’s. I’m going through some battles with my insurance right now, but I’m hoping to have my first prenatal appointment at 11 – 12 weeks. We plan to tell BOTH sets of parents very close together if we can’t accomplish it at about the same time.

    You really do have to space things close together, or it risks a never-to-be-forgotten shitstorm of exclusion.

    Post # 13
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    2594 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Truffle-hunter:  I guess because I’m seeing midwives at a birth center. They don’t do any of the bloodwork to confirm pregnancy or dating ultrasounds- they seem much more laid back, although my first appointment was very in depth, they took a lot of blood, examined my cervix, etc and we got to hear the heartbeat with a Doppler (which was awesome). I was definitely anticipating that first appointment, but I do really like their hands-off approach towards low-risk pregnancies. 

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