Post # 1
*disclaimer: I am not pregnant nor TTC at the time. Just talking about TTC. This is an “I’m curious” type of post.*
Did you wait (or are you waiting) until you reach 12 weeks to announce to everybody? Or did you tell family and close friends sooner than that? How did you decide this? Did you ever resort to lying to hide your pregnancy? What happened, why, and how’d it turn out?
Post # 2
howtobeawife: My mom: 4 weeks (when we found out) Best friend: 8 weeks. Rest of parents/in-laws: 10 weeks (Christmas) Work and all other friends: 13 weeks Facebook: 16 weeks
Even though quite a few people knew before the second trimester, I felt very guarded about it and was definitely concerned about miscarriage. I did a lot of fake drinking but never flat-out lied, although I would have if someone had asked. Friends at work were suspicious because I was so tired, but since it was the holidays there was a LOT of opportunity to fake drink, which fooled everyone. I would’ve preferred to wait to tell our families until a bit later, but having everyone on the phone at Christmas (and telling my dad in person) was such a nice time to tell, luckily it all worked out just fine and I’m 36 weeks pregnant now.
Post # 3
We told immediate family around 5-6 weeks or so, but didnt tell extended family or friends until later. Immediate family to us was siblings and parents. Our theory was 1. we were super excited and 2. if something were to happen in that shakey 12-14 week beginning, I knew I would want to lean on my parents and sisters/brothers and my husband would be the same. I never did the big facebook anouncement and l I was nearly 22 weeks before I had told a handful of family and coworkers just sort of as it would come up. People caught on after while. If I resorted to any lying, it was more a lie of omission but I really didn’t have a lot of people questioning me too much so there was no real reason to me to lie. All in all no one was offended that we told them later or sooner, so just do what feels right for you!
Post # 4
We told immediately family around 5 weeks, after we had seen my HCG doubling properly with blood tests. We went public at 8 weeks when we had an ultrasound, saw a strong heartbeat and could see the baby looking more like a baby than a blob.
Post # 5
I told my sisters immediately after we found out. We told my in-laws at 6 weeks (only because it was Christmas and we wanted that to be part of their present), told some of my best girlfriends at 8 weeks after we had confirmed pregnancy with the doctor and seen the baby and heartbeat via ultrasound, and then friends / family as we saw them in person or via email from 11+ weeks. We never really announced on FB, although I did post a picture where I was apparently clearly pregnant at around 20 weeks which tipped everyone else off.
Post # 6
My family and close friends all knew that I was pregnant right away (and were also aware that the first few wks were very delicate) but I didn’t formally post anything on FB until I was somewhere between 12-14wks
Post # 7
I actually went to the doctor’s thinking I had a bad stomach flu, however once I got there, we found out I was pregnant. Since I was having so much abdominal pain, the doctor suspected I had an ectopic pregnancy and I was rushed to the hospital. At this point, both of our moms thought I was going in for emergency surgery. Once I was there, the ultrasound technician discovered I was actually pregnant with twins, so we told our moms immediately (approx 5-6 weeks). We waited until around 12 weeks to tell everyone else.
Post # 8
We told “the world” at 12 weeks with both pregnancies.
Our family knew pretty well right away, and I told my bosses at 6w & 9w.
With my current pregnancy I told two of my co workers that I was pregnant the day after I found out (3w6d). I did so because we had the annual company gala, which is a very formal and booze-filled event. They helped me look like I was drinking when I really wasnt.
At the same event I had close friends that also work for the same company (different offices) ask me if I was pregnant when I ordered a soft drink.. it was very hard to lie…but they found it really funny when we announced our pregnancy later on.
Post # 9
We told close friends/family at 6-8 weeks, and FB at 16 weeks I believe.
Post # 10
We waited until 10 weeks (and a few days) to tell parents and siblings. Extended family(aunts/uncles/cousins) will be 12-13 weeks. We wanted to wait to tell everyone at 12 weeks but we wouldn’t have seen them around that time, so it was either 10 weeks or 14 weeks.
Post # 11
in-laws at 8 weeks because we were going on vacation with them and I was super sick. We wanted to tell them in a fun way not have them figure it out because I was sick!
my immediate family at 11 weeks when we saw them in person (they all live 8 hours away)
my bff guessed at 6 weeks so I told her.
Other friends gradually found out after 12 weeks as we saw them.
told work at 20 weeks or so.
never had to lie and I probably wouldn’t if someone guesses id just say yes and ask then to keep it on the DL.
Post # 12
the first pregnancy everyone knew by 6 weeks cause we had to move up our wedding a few months.
this time we told our parents at 4 weeks(right away), my very closest friends at 5 weeks (they might as well be my sisters we’ve know each other So long) we told my grandparents who raised me at 6 weeks, we will announce to husbands close family at 8 weeks, and we will do work, friends, and Facebook around 13 weeks.
Post # 13
My idea this time was to tell the people that we were pregnant that would be told if we miscarried and everyone else can wait till the second trimester.
Post # 14
We had some bumps along our TTC path so we told both sets of parents at 4 weeks. We told grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins at 11 weeks because we had a great opportunity to tell everyone in person at the same time. I told my boss at 12 weeks. We posted a FB announcement at 13 weeks after a great NT scan.
Post # 15
We told the world around 12-14 weeks.
We told friends around 8 weeks.
We told our parents around 5-6 weeks.
We found out 10dpo