Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
How far into your dating relationship did you decide you were ready to get married, or wanted to marry your FI? Did you or he catch it first?
I think I was really ready (like dying) to get married to Mr. Peng when I was 24. We had been dating since I was 19, so it was 5 years into our relationship. We got engaged when I was 25. That year was insanity. I wanted to get married SO BAD. Weddings made me bitter. Haha.
What about you guys?
Post # 3
Hmm…we had been dating for 3 years when I caught the bug…that’s like my threshold…at 3 years, you should at least be ready to propose!!! He got my (not so subtle) hints, thank goodness!!
Post # 4
I wasn’t necessarily read for marriage at the time, but I was definitely SURE he was the one, so it made me more impatient!
We only dated for a little over a year before getting engaged. I started getting impatient for the ring about 3 months before the proposal.
Post # 5
Ours was a little complicated, we both came from divorced families so there were some commitment issues and such. I broke up with him twice, but when we got back together the last time, I knew I was commiting to marrying him. I couldn’t put us both through that again, so if I wasn’t sure I didn’t need to get back together. So I started thinking that way then, which was about 3 1/2 years into things. He got me a promise ring for Valentines a few months later (a year ago now), so he must have been thinking the same way by then. I spent the whole year bugging him about when I was getting an E-ring! Finally got one Jan 7th, yay!
Post # 6
We had been dating for about 5 years when I felt ready to get engaged (but strangely, not to have our wedding) (age 26). By 6 years I was really ready to get engaged and wanted to get married. FI was dragging his feet a little because he was graduating med school. We always were committed and wanted to eventually get married, but getting to the engagement was a bit of a drag. Like Pengy that was an insane year and I was secretly upset over others’ weddings, engagements etc. Year 6-7 we fought a lot and after getting engaged have really not fought much at all.
We got engaged after 7 years (age 28) and will be married just after 8. I realize that I was a little immature to get upset about others’ engagements. Everyone is ready at different times and now I know that we are really really ready and are so excited to take the leap. I always joke to my FI that some people are ready after 7 months and some after 7 years : )
Post # 7
I thought I was ready after dating for a year, but I am glad we got engaged after 2 years of dating. Now, I feel like we have a very solid foundation and are ready for the marriage. We just started pre-marital counseling which is a great experience as well.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor
We sort of both came to it one day, I suppose I brought it up first pretty casually. We later talked taked about it on a couch in Target. I had no marriage hunger, it was just sort of decided between us 🙂
Post # 9
I wanted to marry my FH ever since I met him but I wasn’t ready until 4 years later. It was around the time when all our friends started to get married. I wanted to get married so bad because we’ve been together for awhile and i was out of school and we were living together. I didn’ see the point of waiting any longer. Damn that year I was so anxious!
Post # 10
I’d say I got the wedding bug a year ago – 2 years into our relationship and, I must add, 6 years into our friendship. Actually, can I call it the marriage bug? I have a photographer and colour scheme in mind but all of the "Wedding Investigation" I’ve done has just involved trying to find cheap ways to do things. I just really, really want to be his wife.
I’ll be graduating next year after finishing up an internship I’m currently off on, and he’ll be finished his Masters in April 2010. It’s hard because I know we should be practical – try to get jobs lined up before we get married – but I just don’t want to wait. I want to get married within 6 months of being done his masters and me graduating.
Argh!! Thanks for the vent 🙂
Post # 11
I started to get pretty antsy for engagement in the fall of 2007, three years into our relationship. At two years, we bought a condo together, merged our lives and began living as common-law partners. We were both fulfilled and secure in the commitment we had articulated to each other, but we started talking about marriage as something that we would do, years and years from now, as some kind of "foregone conclusion"….as in 8 or 9 years into our relationship. Sorry if that offends anyone who gets engaged after that many yeasr of dating, that’s just the honest truth as to how we originally saw ourselves doing it (if at all).
The more we talked about it, however, the more we realized we were already practicing relationship principles that we thought were important to a healthy marriage, and that if our intent was to be in a marriage-like, life-long commitment, and we weren’t deliberately NOT getting married for personal reasons related to marriage as an insitution, why the heck were we waiting???
The marriage bug nipped one of my best friends two years before any of us (!) and then quickly nipped me, my sister, my MOH and another friend around the same time. My only hard feelings about other people’s weddings has been childish impatience over the fact that they’re married already and I’m still planning and DIYing my fingers off! 93 days to go!
Post # 12
After a few weeks of dating, I knew he was the one. He actually proposed to me about a month into our relationship, but it wasn’t official for him unless he had a ring. It was really cute because we both felt the same way about our relationship early on. Of course I wasn’t ready to get married at 18. Towards the end of my senior year of college I caught the marriage bug, but I didn’t expect to be engaged for another year. He surprised me with an earlier proposal, and I couldn’t be any happier.
Post # 13
Before we were "together" (just casually seeing each other) my best friend was in town on a visit. After she’d met him I told her, "that’s the kind of guy I want to marry". I didn’t think there was a chance in h*ll of it happening with him, I just knew I would count myself lucky if I got anyone even remotely similiar.
So, yeah. From like day one.
Post # 14
By our 5th year, I had th full blown bug to get married. After seeing 5 of my friends and my younger cousin getting married that year, I started to hint at FI about marriage. And two years later, we’re sealing the deal.
Post # 15
We flip-flopped. I think he knew what he wanted way before I did. I remember him bringing up marriage at 6 months of dating, and jokingly proposing to me in Home Depot (the most romantic place he could think of proposing) at a year and 1/2.
By the time we moved in together (2 years into the relationship), I was ready. But he was still adjusting to moving so far away, his new professional job, and life with a full-time SO. I knew I had to be patient.
We went to Hawaii in the first week of May last year, and I was sure he’d propose there… but NO! He had to wait until we were back home, and I was at work on a Saturday to propose over pizza… (the least romantic place that either of us could think of proposing at!) We laugh about the story, and in the end, I’m just happy we’re getting married!