When did you come clean about Santa?

posted 2 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m still trying to keep the idea alive for my so year old so I don’t know yet lol.

my mom never told us. Even when we told her we knew she still to this day gets gifts from “Santa” lol

I don’t think I’m ever going to tell my daughter and will let her find out on her own and be there to comfort her. I can’t crush her like that lol

Post # 5
2482 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I think my siblings & I just found out on our own as we got older. My mom told me though (I’m the oldest) if I told my brother & sister that “Santa” would stop coming & I would have maybe ruined some prime years for them believing. 

Also, do kids really get crushed/upset over this??

Post # 7
702 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Willowtree2222:  I kinda figured it out on my own. My parents never said anything to me, I also still get things from Santa. When my child is old enough to realize Santa isnt real i’ll deal with it then

Post # 8
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Willowtree2222:  she has asked about other characters like Elsa and Anna from Frozen and I do say “yes” and show her pictures of the characters from Disney (we are taking her for her birthday this year), when she asks about the “frozen powers” and if they are real I say “I don’t know”. She hasn’t asked about Santa yet but ill pretty much handle it the same way. I let her decide if she wants to keep believing and I do help her rationalize though so she knows cartoons and such are fiction but still leave room for the “possibility”.



Post # 9
3261 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Willowtree2222:  Have you never read that newspaper letter to the editor response to a little girl named Virginia? Where the editor explains that Santa is embodiment of Christmas spirit?

Santa is one of those cultural ‘lies’ that isn’t totally a lie the way ‘no honey, I worked late and then came straight home’ is.

Post # 10
1267 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My mom never told me he wasn’t real. She let me figure it out as I got older (I think 4th grade was the last Christmas I believed in Santa). I have siblings, so I’m amazed that I believed in him that long. In my house that saying was always “If you stop believing, he stops coming”. 

Post # 11
981 posts
Busy bee

All my presents from my parents are still from ‘santa’ too haha. They just let me work it out by myself and whenever I’d say thankyou for the presents they just nudged me and said ‘dont you mean thanks to santa’ wink wink. 

Post # 12
6790 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Willowtree2222:  My son is 3 and he believes.  I will tell him when he asks or figures out on his own. But honestly Santa isn’t just a person it is about the magic, the wonder of this time of year.  I am 41 and I still believe.  And honestly I don’t see a huge deal about getting presents from “Santa” yet.  

Post # 13
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I grew up knowing Santa wasn’t real from a very young age. It never ruined anything for me because we still visited him and still “choose” to believe in him and we get presents from him to this day.

It came from my mother watching my cousins who were very poor feel sad when their friends got everything they wanted from Santa while their toys came from the Goodwill. They would ask why Santa didn’t think they were good enough and it broke her heart (I was born 15 years later). She wanted open and honest dialogue.

Post # 14
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I was 9 when I finally point blank asked my mom and she fessed up. I was kinda crushed to know that truth, but also relieved because at that time it was a pretty heated debate with kids at school, many if whom knew. I had felt a bit of turmoil about it (kid problems right?)


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