(Closed) When did you finally feel like an adult?

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m about to turn 28 and I’m still waiting. LOL!

In all seriousness I have JUST began to feel like an adult. But not completely that’s for sure.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@vmec:  I got married very young so I grew up fast but my DH didnt grow up until we moved into together about 3 years ago and he is 35 lol 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

After I graduated high school I went to study abroad for a year. When I came back I got a lease on a car that I paid for myself, along with my insurance. That was the first time I really felt like an “adult.”

But, now that I actually am an adult, I know the first time I became one was after my wedding when my husband and I moved in together. I was 21 when we got married, right out of college. I lived with my mom prior to marriage. (Had my husband and I not met and gotten married, I would be living in a different state right now, probably with roommates. I was just living with my mom during undergrad, and would’ve moved out either way this summer.) My parents do still help us out, like my mom still pays for my cell and my dad helps us with gas, but I know they will continue to do those things for us even after we’re completely financially ok and have kids of our own. Those are just the types of parents they are, just like my grandparents were to them. 

I worked the entire time I was in college, but now that I’m graduated and officially certified, I have my first job completely in the field (as in, not just the assistant) and so that is a pretty scary adult responsibility I’m facing come August when the job starts. I’ll probably feel it even more then. And then even more when my husband and I eventually move out of my hometown, which is in the plans for the next few years (hopefully no longer than that, but finances are the determining factor). Oh, and then when we buy our first house. Smile I’m happy to take everything in stages and I’m happy with where we are now. 

ETA: Just because someone is an adult, doesn’t mean they have to feel like one. Wink

Post # 6
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315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I still dont’. Maybe it’s because I don’t have a job…I think maybe when I have kids I’ll feel like an adult but I can’t ever imagine actually feeling “grown up”

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I moved out when I was 18 but I always struggled with making ends meat waitressing or working at coffee shops. I think when I started my current office job, started making a bit more money, started saving a bit more and stopped going out all the time is when I started to feel more like an adult. Personally though, while I feel like I have my stuff together, sometimes it’s hard to believe I’m in 26, a wife and pregnant! I still feel like I’m 20 sometimes. Young at heart I guess 🙂 

Enjoy being 20! It all passes so quickly and before you know it you’ll be “mid to late twenties” gasp! Your only young once 😉

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m 26 And I don’t always feel like an adult but I recently saw someone post on facebook that they couldn’t handle having to take care of their own house like cleaning and cooking so they moved back in with their parents. I’ve been living on my own for 6 years doing these things and raising my 7 year old. Seeing that post and thinking about my life made me feel very adult. Lol

Post # 9
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4375 posts
Honey bee

I’ve just moved into my 30’s now and I still don’t feel like one!

Post # 11
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I felt like an adult when I got engaged. It meant that I was going to start my own life and my own family.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m 26 and I still don’t feel like an adult. I have lived with my FI for over 3 years, pay all my own personal bills like car insurance, CC, and phone. I don’t currently have a job because I quit but it was a senior level position at a company and right now I’m interviewing for a similar type “adult job” with all health benefits, 401K, etc. I think one of the main reasons I don’t feel completely like an adult is because I don’t handle any of the household bills like gas, electric, rent, etc. One of my dirty secrets is that I’ve never paid my own rent or household bills so I don’t know how much those things cost, it’s kind of sad. We also don’t have kids, aside from our two beautiful furbabies. When I was 15, I thought people in their mid-20s to early 30s getting married were definitely adult, but now I don’t think so at all. lol.

Post # 13
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10289 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

When I first moved out and was responsible for my own bills. So… at 19. 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

A lot of the time I still don’t. I think part of it is that I often am not treated like an adult because I look very, very young. Like “Oh, what grade are you in?” young. Grade almost done with college and about to get married, thank you! 🙂 

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