My First Marriage I met my Ex in Uni. I made up my mind that he was THE ONE after a year of Dating… he figured it about the 18th month mark (they say that is the norm for guys… 12 to 24 months in).
He bought me a Promise Ring just before we Graduated… told me he wanted to give me an ERing after he started his new job and got settled and saved some money for it (late summer)
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This time round…
Mr TTR we dated for over 6 years… we are both Older (50s & 60s) and Encores… when we got together as a couple after being good friends we spent a lot of time talking to make sure that we were doing the right thing… as we were both badly scarred from our past relationships. Our TRUST was sooo damaged, that we ended up talking extensively for 2 people just wanting to date… lol, we carried a lot of stuff from our past… and we were both certain that we didn’t want to date despite the incredible chemistry we had, if there wasn’t respect for who were were, where we were in time, and where we had come from. Covering off soooo many aspects early on is what I attribute to actually making our relationship so easy and work right from the get go.
We talked about marriage, altho we were both very gun shy… we asked each other’s views on marriage.
Mr TTR said he’d be open to marrying again… BUT ONLY IF the girl was truly special. Otherwise he’d had enough. Lol, I was even less of a fan of marriage than he was… I said I couldn’t truly see myself doing that again, cause I didn’t ever want to be hurt so much again. I’d like to think I could believe in marriage, but it would take a lot of LOVE & TRUST to ever get there again.
And so it was, and we dated for 5+ years without mentioning Marriage again. And we were extremely happy in this “no pressure” just have fun style of a relationship.
We next talke about Marriage just prior to our 6th Dating Anniversary.
I told him I was ready… I told him my LIFE PLAN as I now saw it. I told him I wished to be married before the end of 2012 (about 1 year away). Mr TTR was amazed … and happy. He agreed it was something he wanted to. He said he would take care of the details. I told him, that if he wished to get me a ring, that I would like for us to shop together as that is something I did the first time round… and it is something that I consider important to do as a couple… and also because I have very particular tastes in jewellery. He was surprised… but seemed to agree. He told me to leave it up to him, he’d take care of things…
And then I waited. I wasn’t 100% sure he was doing with my “Waiting Time”… I thought perhaps he was saving for a ring… or maybe he was looking for one on his own (that worried me). I knew as a guy he’d find a way to propose in his own way and time (Proposals are always ALL ABOUT THE GUY).
I waited. I waited thru our Anniversary. I waited thru Christmas Eve, Christmas Day & Boxing Day. I waited thru New Year’s Eve & New Year’s Day. I waited thru Valentines. I waited thru my Birthday. I waited thru our annual Winter Getaway. And I waited thru Spring Break and St Patricks Day. Lol, infact if I add up all the minor “events”… I waited thru Robbie Burns Day – Ground Hog Day – Mardi Gras – Lent – and April Fools !!
Finally on our Eater Getaway I got my Non-Proposal… one afternoon when we were out for a walk on the Beach… a time that I was least expecting it for sure.
And it happened as we came upon a couple having their own Wedding Photos taken. Just the 2 of them. They had obviously Eloped, and were having a grand old time taking fun pics with their Photographer.
And that is when he said those magic words… not the ones that most girls would expect… but these
“That looks like fun”
And knowing that he isn’t that keen on posing for Photos…
I said “Really ??”
And he said, “Ya you should look into that for our next visit here”
I was confused… was this it ? Did he just say we should get married in Myrtle Beach when we are back at Christmas ???
I looked at him… his face said it all. He was dead serious… and a cute little grin.
I gave him a big old hug…
No bended knee… no ring. Just the sweetest words that THIS GIRL could wish for… not the traditional “Will You Marry Me”… but ones that rang true for us.
And we spent the rest of our walk talking about getting married… and the vision that we had for our Wedding Elopement. He had thought thru a lot of things in all those months… he had worked out a lot of details… he knew what he wanted… Beach Wedding just the 2 of us… Casual. And he told me that I should go look at rings the next day while he was playing Golf.
It took us 6 weeks to find the ring. In the meantime we came back home… Mr TTR asked my Elderly Father for “His Blessing” (also a to die for moment). We found the ring totally by accident on a weekend roadtrip, he put it on my finger, gave me a kiss and it was all official… we then invited a bunch of friends out for drinks, and announced the BIG NEWS of our engagement. And it was official. And that all was awesome too !!
As to my wish, we got married over the Christmas Holidays 2012… and our Elopement to a Destination Wedding was all that we wished & hoped for.
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Ladies, as we enter once again into the Holiday Season… May I say that I wish for all of you that your “Holiday Wishes ALL Come True”
*NOTE – More men propose between Thanksgiving & Valentines than any other time of year.