When did you get onto a routine with newborn?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Sunshine09:  I had same issue. I wanted to set a schedule or have structure. But doctor said first couple months “feed on demand”. Most baby’s cannot go longer than 4 hours without their tummies beginnign to rumble, they’re on a liquid diet so ofcourse they will eat. If you’re baby is cluster eating, that’s great, means he’s going through growth spurt. I think I finally got structure at 10 weeks. Now I know when my baby girl eat, sleeps, naps, plays, and poops. Give it time, right now go on baby’s demands.

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Another thing my doctor mentioned about sleep.

During the day when it’s nap time, have minimul noise, let some outside light in, talk, play, stimulate.

At night, be dark room (night light ofcourse), quiet, no noise, no play time…even when feeding and changing diaper.

This way baby can eventually adjust to when is day and night.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

My baby’s not here yet, but I’ve heard that it’s a good idea to have them take daytime naps where it’s light and there is at least some noise and sleep in the dark at night. Apparently it’s supposed to help them get more on your type of sleepin schedule, and eventually sleep through the night. It’s also supposed to make it so you don’t have to tiptoe around the house while baby naps.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Sunshine09:  Hang in there!!!

My four-week old is having his 6-week growth spurt, or “frequency days” early… maybe because he was 2 weeks overdue he is gestationally 6 weeks already? or we’re in for another one in 2 weeks? who knows!

this blog post really helped me:

http://nurshable.com/2012/05/27/six-week-growth-spurt/

 

that being said, yes we’ve been in somewhat of a routine for a couple weeks, but it was baby-led somewhat. He just always seemed to go to sleep for his longest stretch after his feed around 10pm. and i went through two weeks of cluster feeding, now we are down to 12 nursings in a 24 hour period. Phew. Soon enough it will be 10. then 8. this too shall pass!

🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We started a routine at around 4 weeks, mostly because with two it’s a nightmare doing entirely baby-led! Have you looked at the book ‘Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby’? It’s sort of a combo of parent led and baby led routines, mostly just principles for helping baby to fall into a natural rhythm. Big principles are not letting baby get overtired, etc. Helpful! We were at our wits end at the beginning, so we’ve actually been following a VERY loose version of Gona Ford’s routine for twins. I’ve gotta say, it’s been a godsend and has completely gotten rid of our witching hour. Loads of people comment on how happy our babies are, and I think it’s because they can predict what’s xoming next and are having their needs met before they need to start crying. I don’t let it keep me cooped up at home, though. I think balance is key.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Sunshine09:  oh good i’m glad you enjoyed that post. i’m really happy to have discovered the nurshable site.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Sunshine09:  Hi sweetie, I only managed to get a proper routine going at 6 months! Now baby naps at 10am ish, 1pm ish and 3pm ish, goes to bed at 7pm and only has one night feeds. Prior to 6 months I had no luck with implementing a structure.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Sunshine09:  Another book to try is Baby Wise. Its popular among my first time mom friends and I am using it and it helps a lot to have some clear guidance on what you want and steps to help guide you there.   Like every book take what works for you and leave what doesnt, but with only a few day old baby I feel more comfortable about making decisions about sleep, feed, wake time to help my end goal.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Sunshine09: Hang in there! I know it took longer than average for us. I thought the newborn unstructured stage would go on forever but looking back it passed very quickly and life feels so much more ordered now. Just get through it – things will get much better much soon I promise 🙂 I know its hard when there’s so little sleep structure. One method that has helped us at 6 months is ‘spaced soothing’ – you can google it. Hugs x

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Sunshine09:  I just read a book called “Cherish the First 6 Weeks” that provided a great detailed guide on setting up a schedule.  It is a quick read and made intuitive sense, but I should mention that I haven’t had the baby yet and so cannot actually vouch for the system.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’d think about trying to put a “routine” into place more than a “schedule” (if that makes sense). For me, it made a big difference to my cluster-feeding babe (seriously ate every night from 10 pm to 3 am, slept for an hour, and then ate again…nearly killed me) to use the routine eat, play, sleep. The routine is from Babywise, but they are much more strict about it, and for that reason, the book is not a favorite of the APA. BUT, if you aim to loosely follow the routine, with extra feeds when necessary, you may find it adds some structure to your day and you can still feed on demand.

The order actually matters, too. In the beginning, I did an eat, sleep, play, routine and it did not work for us. When I switched, it was almost magic (for us). However, if he ate, then played, then was hungry, I’d still feed him before he went to sleep (but not feed him TO sleep). It also allows for the beginning of learning that you don’t always get fed to sleep (which often comes back to haunt people around 6 months). 

Hang in there!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Not routine yet for us and baby just turned 2 months old today.  His bedtime is getting better.  he’s starting to go to be on schedule earlier now which is nice… so I kind of know when he is ready to be down for the night.  He is usally ready for bed by 9/10pm.  He’ll get up again around 1am to eat and again around 3:30 or 4:3 depending.  He might even sleep until around 5am.

Naps are little less predictable.  He likes to nap with me because he likes to sleep on my tummy for naptime.  But I try to let him nap in his bed or in the swing.  He feeds on demand and usually feeds a lot so daytime rotines are a lot harder to establish.  Not too worried though, i figure in a month or 2 we’ll get the hang of it.

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