(Closed) When did you KNOW for sure you wanted to be a mom?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@sleepingbeauty88: I love the picture of you two. 🙂

I always knew I wanted to be a mom.  Just an instinct growing up. I even wanted to be an elementary school teacher.  Unfortunately, there are no jobs here in Jersey.  I dreamt about being a mom way more than I ever did about my wedding as a child.  

Post # 4
331 posts
Helper bee

I’ve always wanted to be a wife and mom and have all the home-life stuff. It solidified it for me when my first niece was born…. I knew I was too young (and single) and broke to have a child but emotionally I knew I was ready.

A few years later, my second niece was born and it was like, “WHAM! Diet Coke, you are ready for kids now”. Obviously, I grew up more in those years and became more sure of myself and what I wanted, etc.

Anyway, I’ve had two other lightbulb moments: When my sister was figuring out which school my oldest niece would attend and the other when the youngest pooped on me. It was projectile, people. Nastiest thing ever… and I was just like, “Okay, let’s get a wipe and a fresh onsie!” It wasn’t like, “Ohhh, cute!” in a nostalgic way that I got to give her back after a few hours, you know? It was a weird feeling but just sent it through the roof for me. I’ve been thrown up on before and while it’s never fun, it never surged my thoughts/emotions like that.

I was speaking with my mother the other day that if I’m not married by the time I’m 34, I’m either adopting or knocking myself up at the sperm clinic.

Post # 5
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

I knew the moment we were told of my fertility diagnosis – the minute they said it would be a struggle, I knew then and there that it would be worth fighting for. We found out in April 2010, we started TTC in December. (Still going!)

Post # 6
3801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sleepingbeauty88: very fun picture! 🙂 I’m an only child and always secretly wished for a little brother!

I didn’t ever think I wanted to be a mom until about the past year. Once we moved into a house and got a dog I started to feel a real nesting instinct kick in. I don’t know how to explain it…it was almost as if once I knew I could care for another living thing I was suddenly more confident in someday having a family (although I know kids are NOTHING like pets, but still. It was confirmation for ME). Also, at my old job, I worked with families and kids, and I saw so many babies and I realized that they were not as scary as I always thought. In fact, they are pretty amazing! I really am not sure when we are going to TTC, but anytime would be good for me! I’m excited to be a mom.

Post # 7
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have ALWAYS wanted children of my own. Not in the ohmygosh babies are soooo cute kind of way. Not in the OK I’m so old now it’s time for kids. Not in the OK we’ve dated, I have a degree, I have a job, kids are the next natural step. In a deep maternal kind of way. I don’t think there was any point that it really solidified it for me? I’ve just always known? For me it would have been a deal break honestly if the guy did not want kids.

My husband is lucky he feels the same way as me! 😛

Post # 8
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2022

There was never an “AH HA!” moment for me, It was more of an instinct! I hope i am blessed to have children within the next year and a half

Post # 9
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have always had a deep maternal instinct and I honestly can’t recall a time when I DIDN’T know for sure I wanted to be a mom.

Post # 10
3587 posts
Sugar bee

When I met my SO. I didn’t like baby dolls as a child and wanted to tie my tubes at 20. Then I met him at 27, thank God I never went to do it (not like a dr would anyway) because now we have a beautiful baby girl!

Post # 11
5572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@regberadaisy:Exactly what you said. I’ve always “known.” It’s been a definite thing for me all of my life. And I’m also so thankful that my husband feels the same way about having a family.

Post # 12
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I didn’t have that moment.  I always thought I would want to have kids….some day.  That feeling did not strengthen as I got older, which worried me.  Then after we were married, we visited with friends with little kids and I started to warm up the idea that I actually would want them (I was early thirties by this point!).  But I was always worried that I wouldn’t love it since I was never a big baby/kid person.  And luckily, its true that its different when they are your own! I can’t imagine life without my little guy anymore, he makes every day better.

Post # 13
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

Huh. I’m concerned that so many people are saying they always knew. I’ve been married three years and I’m still not 100%. We’ve said that if we both don’t “feel it” by the end of 2013 we just need to start going for it because I don’t want to be too old when we’re getting started, but I just don’t know. I feel like getting pregnant and raising children is just the price I have to pay to end up with a wonderful adult family I can finally enjoy. Isn’t that horrible? Probably not the attitude a mother to young children should have.

Post # 14
11172 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I asked my soon to be SIL this question and she said “when you have those oops moments and they don’t terrify the living hell out of you, then you know you are ready.”

That being said the thought still terrifies me so I’m guessing I’m no where close to being ready for a child. That being said I do want one, some day, in the far distant future.

Post # 15
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I never thought I wanted kids.  Most of my childhood, I didn’t even think about that stuff.  And when I met my ex, I didn’t really want kids.  The entire almost 10 years I was with my ex, I never wanted children.  Turns out, I just didn’t want children with him.  As soon as I met Darling Husband, I knew I really wanted kids.  We aren’t going to start trying until later next year, but I’m really excited for when the time does come.

Post # 16
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

I’d say I knew for sure when DS was about 3 months old.

That sounds awful, doesn’t it? I was always kind of “Meh, I like the idea of having a family eventually, and now’s a good time, so sure. Whatever. Let’s do this.” And Darling Husband totally wanted a baby. I’m not really a fan of children, categorically speaking, and newborns are just kind of…not fun. I kind of figured that the whole “I never knew it was possible to love someone or something this much, my child is the light of my life” thing wasn’t going to happen to me. But then DS started smiling, and interacting, and becoming a little person, and now he’s totally my favorite person in the world and there’s nothing I’d rather do than hang out with him. (Unless it’s about 6 PM on a Sunday and I’ve been hanging out with him for two days straight, in which case I’m usually like “COME ON, BEDTIME”).


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