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I had a moment a couple days ago, I was driving home with the radio on and our song came on. When we started dating, Nickelback released "Gotta Be Somebody" and it's just been our song ever since. :) lol, but it made me start thinking about the past year and how amazing it's been and how crazy in love I am with this man. And I realized that I want to spend the rest of my life with him, ups, downs, good times, bad times, sickness, health, the whole nine yards.
When did you know?
Believe it or not, but I knew the moment that we met that he needed to be in my life in some capacity. Little did I know three years later we would be engaged especially since at the time of our meeting, we were both dating other people!
Well I knew that he was The One last year in July 08 when my dad got sick and my guy was by my side the entire time. He stayed with me in the hospital, he had my back, he was my rock. I was an emotional wreck and I leaned on him for support. He stayed positive throughout the whole ordeal and prayed with me every night. I knew then he was the one. Thankfully my dad is doing GREAT and I still have my rock to lean on.
I knew from our first date, which turned into a 48 hour marathon date spannign two days and multiple events because we just did not want to leave each other.
I called my mom and was like "Um. So yeah. He's kinda amazing"
He was divorced, super quiet, and very old-fashioned. I was blonde hair, partying all the time, and couldn't keep a boyfriend for more than a week.
That was a year ago, and I've never felt happier. I know it counds corny when people say "It's like marrying my best friend", but that is exactly what he is to me. We get each other's humor, he loves me when I'm sick and have unwashed hair, we can stay home all day together in pajamas and watch movies and be just as happy as at a fancy restaurantl, he loves that I'm so over-the-top girly, I love that I come home and find him hanging doors or wiring light fixtures.
Sigh. I can't wait to be married.
I didn't have that one moment that i can point to like... omg that is it. We had more of a slow building relationship. We weren't looking for anything really serious when we started dating and I just didn't think much about it for a long time. Then it just seemed like whenever he went home I wanted him to come back. Plus I started thinking about buying a house and I just realized I didn't want to do it without him. Then I realized I didn't really want to do anything without him.
I think another turning point was when I realized I kind of want kids. I never ever have wanted them. I was that girl from teenager on that said I'd never have kids. But when I met my guy and he wanted them and he was just so sweet and I started thinking wow... maybe I just never wanted to have kids with someone else!
I don't know when I knew... but I remember at least a year before we got engaged telling my mom that we were going to get married (he was not aware of this yet, but I just knew - LOL!). Like @texaslawgirl, I was partying all the time when we met, and just generally having a good time. He was more settled and wanted to be boring. I wouldn't have settled down for anyone else!
Aw, cute question AKennedy. I actually knew from the very start, after always scoffing at the notion that you could know such a thing right away.
From the first few dates, he felt like a member of my family. Usually I'm sort of commitment phobic because I'm so independent and need my alone time. With him, though, it wasn't an issue because right away I could just 'be' with him, no need to put on a social front.
I knew he was the one the moment i realized we had just been on the phone for five hours, and I wasn't bored yet! I have a very short attention span and the fact that we could talk for that long without an awkward silence or moment was just incredible to me! That was in September of 08. Like Sage...I told my mom the first time she met him that we were going to get married. She said that she already knew this. That was just MORE confirmation for me (my mom generally never liked the guys I brought home) :) I would do anything for him and I love him with all my heart.
I totally told my mom too! Like a month into dating I started prepping her-- "Mom. I think it's serious. Mom, I think he's The One"
And she just sighed and was like "Well. I already knew that."
lol, moms.....
Funny, we had a similar story... we had been going out for close to three years, and had been through a lot together. We were struggling with a lot of criticism from parents, etc for being in a serious relationship for so long when Elton John's "Tiny Dancer" came on the radio late one summer night in the car, and we both sung along at the top of our lungs. That was when "us" won out over the "shoulds" and doubts in my mind.
I remember exactly when it was. We had dated through the summer in sometime in the fall, my parents were out of town and I was home from school for the weekend on break. We hung out at my parents' all weekend and Sunday morning we were sitting on the couch drinking coffee, reading the paper, and watching the morning cooking shows. He laughed at something in the paper and I looked over at him, and thought, I could get used to this :o)
I've actually been very fortunate as far as boyfriends go, I've dated a lot of great guys who treated me right. But I knew FH was the one when I realized he would never let me get away with being a brat (which I am guilty of sometimes). He's never been the 1st to get mad, but he absolutely doesn't back down and let me walk all over him. He's made me a much better person overall in addition to many other wonderful things.
It is so cute for those of you whose moms said they knew before you did! I'm a little jealous :) My mom likes my bf but she isn't convinced he is "the one." Problem is, what she describes as her perfect mate for me is not what I am looking for! Ah well. I just remind her that her mother HATED my father when they were married and for several years after, and my dad is just about the best guy you'll ever meet (and my grandma grew to love him dearly). I figure if she likes him now and just isn't "convince" then we're way ahead of the game! :)
@Corgi My mom hadn't even met him when I told her that! She just knew he was The One from the way I had talked about him.
My parents like 6 hours away from us, and they are slowly coming around to my boyfriend. They really like him, but we are all big talkers, and I think it was hard for them to get used to someone so quiet. They definitely weren't on board with the "He's the one!" thing because THEY thought so-- my mom knew because she could hear it in my voice........ :)
I knew three months after we started dating. I was working at a car show and was ogne for five days. During those five days, I realized FI was the one I always wanted to come home to.
I knew I wanted to keep mine around when he called me the day after our first kiss to make sure it was alright he kissed me. It was so sweet. I knew I wanted to marry him about 5-6 months after we started dating, but there wasn't an ah ha moment. I really knew this summer when he took off work & drove 2 1/2 hours to sit with me while I had some medical tests run.
I knew very early - all the little things adding up. He handled things well, didn't crack under pressure, was supportive, mature, smart, and loving. I posted this on a board about the little things they do:
We were just dating - maybe a month or so and I was having a really bad day. It was cold outside, an X was being a pill and just draining me mentally. I was hella busy and totally ehausted. I was also teaching a class at church that night and had come home to a dirty house - ugh! We were talking on the phone while I was loading the washer and he said "Are you in the garage ? "
"Um yes..." "well open the door"
so I hit the button and opened the garage door and there he was, holding 2 hot chocolates. He said " I just thought you could use a hug"
I was floored. The fact that this man has listened to me vent (about an X, no less), driven 40 miles while missing a Monday night football game, and knew that all I really needed was a hug was just too much. I cried thankful/happy/overwhelmed tears and drank hot chocolate in the driveway with him. Hands down, one of the most thoughful things anyone has ever done for me. I couldn't believe he knew me so well after such a short time.
**No - I wasn't being mean by making him stand outside. I have a morality clause in my divorce to protect my children. No person of a dating relationship in the house after a certain time for either me or the XH. So he drove all the way to my house knowing he wouldn't even be able to come in!
We've since talked about that night and he confessed he was so nervous - he was afraid he was overstepping his boundries.... so sweet.
I knew he was "the one" from the moment I met him. I just had this feeling that there was something different about him.. and I felt like I would have him in my life in some important capacity for a long time. :)
I had a lot of moments where I thought, "Yeah, this guy is The One.", but the time that completely did me in was when my daughter was sick.
The girlie had come home from school not feeling well. By dinnertime she was running a fever, achy and miserable. I gave her Tylenol and set her up on the couch with ginger ale, soup, tissues and her Harry Potter books. While my two boys and I were putting the meal together I heard B. come in. A bit later all the dinner prep was done so I sent the boys upstairs to play so I could check on the girl. I had to go to work that night (I'm a third shifter) and was ready to call off of work to take care of her - I knew B. was exhausted and he'd never "solo'd" when one of the kids was sick - I'd always handled it with him as backup.
But when I walked into the living room I just melted. Stretched out on the couch was my guy - still in his 5-11s and boots - snoozing away while my daughter slept on his chest, both of them covered up with her Tinkerbell blanket. My eyes misted over, my breath caught and I couldn't help but smile. I snuck across the room and put my hand on his shoulder. He opened his eyes and said, "If you could get the boys fed and in bed before you leave I'll stay with her."
That was it. I was done. There's never been even a moment that I have questioned his love and dedication to me and the children since.
I knew because of the feeling that came over me when I met him. There have been so many moments since then that reinforce it. He's such a good person! I knew that about him the moment I met him. There have been several times when he's written or said or done something that makes me break down crying...my last boyfriend was not a nice guy, and my SO's kindness pulled me out of an emotional rut I'd been in for so long I had forgotten I was in one.
A moment that stands out is when we were laying on his couch. I was probably saying something negative about school and work and all the cruddy stuff I had to do. He took my hand and said "Here's a secret. Only you can make you happy." It was something I really needed to hear.
There was also the time I told him about my dad's mental illness and the stuff I dealt with growing up. He was wonderful about it, not judgmental at all. That's one of the things that really attracted me to him in the first place; he is relaxed, positive, and stable. He is so awesomely drama free.
What really sealed the deal was our personality compatibility. When we would say the same thing, or realize that we had the same habits and nuances, it was like..."Whoa! A person this close to me actually exists? Ummm, I'll take it and where do I sign?!"
I always had a feeling we'd end up getting married, but he cemented his place in my heart when my grandfather (who is like my father) had a massive stroke. Mr. RB had just flown into town that afternoon & my grandfather had his stroke that night after meeting Mr. RB for the first time!
The entire trip was so crazy... he helped my mom with my younger siblings, he got food for everyone, he sat in the hospital room with my grandfather, he waited for long distance family members to bring them to my grandfathers room, etc. He went above & beyond to help my family during this difficult time.
He was such a rock-- I don't know how I would have coped if he hadn't been there with me.
I'm so excited to share this!
I remember reflecting on my life as it stood and how I felt a piece was missing. So, I actually wrote a letter to God and went to bed early that night.
My BF and I met on a sort of blind date after talking on the phone and through e-mail for days. Incidentally, our phase of getting to know one another began that same night. While I was asleep, I received an email about this person I may like... and he reached out to me. I had actually forgotten about the letter I wrote until a week later.
We planned to meet on a Friday, but on Monday I got antsy. My BF has an office in the downtown area of our city, so at the time after waffling back and forth I shot an e-mail out to him to see if he'd like an "impromotu date"! He said absolutely, and we agreed to meet at a coffee shop and then head to dinner. I was so nervous when I got home, I downed a shot of rum - forgot my keys in the apartment, forgot to charge my cell phone... couldn't find a cab to save my life... and took a bus into the city. I was almost 45 minutes late with no way to reach him, but he was there still.
And do you know my first words to him? "Hi, I'm so sorry, where's the bathroom?"
Yep, I had to pee.
It was a great night, I laughed a lot and so much had gone wrong. He came with to my apartment to make sure I had gotten in all right. We waited for the super to break me in, and after all of that... our first kiss.
That is when I knew... because we we pulled away from it, I saw it in his eyes. Not the lustful, man beast look. But the look that said, "I can't believe I finally found you."
I called my dad after he left and told him I didn't know why, but I had met the man I was going to marry. I sat on my couch in disbelief.
Still waiting though, we've been together half a year. :)
So many moments bassically when i knew he loved all the things i cared about God and Family and that he was raised similar to me.
@texaslawgirl- that is so cute! I guess I don't pass that test either haha. My guy and I took things slow and I'm just a super cautious person. Plus, I don't tend to share things about my relationship with my parents at all. My mom is super romantic (married my dad at 17 and they've been together 33 years!!) and she wanted a whirlwind sweep me off my feet i know the second I met you kind of romance. This whole slow building for 2 years thing doesn't really do it for her. Oh well, does it for me :)
:D I knew before I met him that something was different. He and I met on the internet about nine months before we met in person and talked for like six hours every day. i felt like he was my best friend and he always gave me great advice. i was almost afraid to meet him because i didn't want to ruin the perfection that was our relationship. i mean no one could be THAT perfect, right?
well after i had known him via internet and phone for like a month over the phone i had a psychic reading (one of the mom's on the football team read cards) so of course i ask who i'm going to marry. she says wow i see green eyes. i was like what?! i don't know anyone with green eyes. well i remember afterwards (about a week later) that m has green eyes.. so of course that was uber spooky to me and i told him about the reading and he just laughed and i did too.
well we met briefly in january at a gas station. and then not again until june (he kept telling me oh come visit let's go to the movies etc and i said no and took my time). well i flew with my son to visit his dad and came right back home and went straight to M's house and well we've been together ever since.
I think I always knew that he was the one, but looking back for me it is odd that I never once wanted to be with someone else when we argued. Usually I'd think there was someone else better for me (green grass syndrome) well with him, I'd only think he wasn't understanding where I was coming from. I cannot believe that it will be 17 months on the 1st and we've never broken up. We are still the exact same couple that we were nearly 17 months ago, except I think we respect each other and love each other more.
@crebre80- i love green eyes! That is super spooky! I had a similar experience because I met my guy online too (match.com). We would talk on aim for hours. I remember telling my friend before I met him, "I'm either going to marry this guy or he's going to break my heart because he is just way too good to be true" haha. Also, right before we met for our first date I was SO nervous that I wouldn't be able to be as comfortable as I was talking to him online. I confessed that to him and he told me "Don't worry about it. Talking to me over coffee is just like talking of AIM. Except instead of typing you're talking!" hehe.
When my daughter threw up and he offered to clean it. Well, I knew before then- but damn- that takes a special man!
:D i didn't realize you met him on line too!! we actually didn't meet on a dating site just a random site (because an ex was on there, so i signed up and m was one of the very first people i met). i wasn't nervous to meet him like omg is this it, it was more like oh god he won't be anything like i think he will be.. and i was right he's WAY better than i thought he would ever be. and i'd say i'm the luckiest girl in the world to have found a man that i respect and adore and for him to be the greatest role model for my son in the world. my son acts just like him now it's so cute... sigh. i love my family.
I met my BF while I was still living with my ex. But the second I saw him, I just knew it was something. He admitted he felt that way when he told me, (and he didn't just tell me because that's what I wanted to hear, he actually told his mom who told me!) There was an initial attraction and since then we have become best friends. We drive each other crazy sometimes, but know that we are meant to be together. 2 year 4 month anniversary today, and looking at rings... but he is the one for me.
@waterprincess: oh how cool that you are looking at rings today!!
H worked at a bar when I was in university (yes, we met in a bar - sigh). One night (after we had met and had talked a couple times while I was buying a beer) I was celebrating leaving for Europe the next day with friends. He was at the door as I was leaving at the end of the night. I started to just walk past (I was sure he just flirted with everyone) but he saw me and said "What no hug?" H is such a laid-back kinda guy that I was surprised and blushed. I just kind of stood there awkwardly. He came closer, put his hand on my arm and squeezed it gently three times. Then, he said "How about just peck on the cheek?" I went in for the peck and at the last second he turned his head and caught me right on the lips. I couldn't even talk I was so stunned with our first kiss and H called me the next morning. It was amazing.
Every since that first kiss he has done that cute little arm/hand three-times squeeze. I always just sort of thought it was a little quirk of his. Then the day came when I told him I loved him and he started laughing at me. Yep, laughing. He said,"I've been telling you I loved you from Day 1"
Umm, no. I would remember that, I told him.
Then he leaned over and squeezed my hand three times but as he did it he said I love you in time with the squeezes.
And I knew.
I realised in the summer after we started going out. It was Late July/early August. I was at work for my summer job and we were 90 miles apart (still are now but at the time it was a school holiday from university). I realised that the distance didn't matter, I wanted to be with him forever as he was all I ever wanted. I couldn't wait to spend my time with him. We'd work through any sort of distance away from each other if our relationship mattered. We've been seeing each other every other weekend for the first year and a half following uni, and for every weekend since.
@crebre: A similar thing happend to my mom with palm reading! There was a foreign exchange student at her high school one year, and she offered to read my mom's palm. She said 'I see two men in your life. You will meet a man with blonde hair...and I'm not going to tell you the next part. Then you will meet a man with dark hair.'
My mom's first husband was a blonde who died of a brain tumor after four years of marriage. Her second husband was my dad, who has black hair. Crazy!
I was in nursing school when we met. We had been talking for a few months every time that I went into his store but he had yet to ask me out. It was October so part of my community health rotation was to participate in a huge "Think Pink" project which was going on the next morning at 6am. So when he asked what I was doing the next day I told him about the project and how we were going to be handing out pink bags to passing cars starting at 6am. Jokingly I asked him if he wanted to come help, he said yes. I remember telling my Mom "if he shows up at 6am tomorrow morning to help me I am going to marry that boy" He showed up and brought me coffee. That was 5 years ago.
We were introduced by a mutual friend - they went to HS together, and she was sure I HAD to meet him. However, he lives three hours north of here. I was going to go up there for other events, but my car broke down & plans got delayed - so he decided to come down here to meet me anyways. We met at her house, she told us we could catch a movie there or something, she was going to go to bed...We ended up sitting up all night talking about everything...Spent the entire next day together too...And then he packed me & my kids up, and took us for a couple days up where he lives, and then brought me back home. The chemistry was...wow. I knew by the end of those first few days, that he was The One. I have always been a flirt, always been really, idk how to even put this mildly...flighty maybe? I dated a lot , swapped out boyfriends whenever I got irritated, and ALWAYS had em standing in line. And as soon as I met him, I just...stopped. I didn't care to anymore. I had him, and I was crazy about him from the start. He's so much MORE then I could have hoped for, I would be CRAZY to mess anything up with silliness.
@minutiae:how freaky?! i actually have a pic of m where his eyes are blue, i LOVE that picture.
I knew he was the one the first time he whispered "I love you" in my ear when we were both 15..... yea....it was a little bit of a scary realization. I guess I wasn't crazy like I thought I was..
We first got together when I was 15, but broke up after a few months. I was really into spells and tarot stuff then. While we weren't going out (we didn't go out for 2 years), I did this spell to tell you who you'll marry which entailed putting a yew branch under my pillow and saying a little spell. I dreamt of A. I didn't really believe it all these years, though. I know more from the years we've spent together, and the difficult times we've shared. Mostly from when he had a psychotic episode a few years ago. It was really hard, but I think if we can get through that then we can get through anything.
I knew right before we started dating again.
10 years earlier, we had been high school sweethearts who separated due to huge distance. No matter who I was dating at the time, they would never be as sweet as Mr. Man. At times, I thought that was a good thing...I went through a long phase where I was turned off by men who threw themselves at me. And he always let me know how he still felt. It was too easy.
Almost 3 years ago, after 10 years of minimal contact, I started texting him... and we spent about 36 hours in constant contact just chatting back and forth, slightly flirty. And I suddenly got serious. Asking how bad I screwed it up years earlier by ignoring his advances. He said I didn't. I said I thought we'd end up together. He called me. I cried. He was floored (I was in a six year relationship and he had figured I was as good as married).
4 months later, we were both single, met in person and started planning our future. It was never a question...if we got back together, it was a done deal. I only regret wasting all that time without him. He likes to remind me he sat waiting for me to figure out what he's known all along.
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