(Closed) When did you know you were "waiting"

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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47 posts
Newbee

How frustrating yet exciting! I was a part of the process in the sense that one day, my now fiancé took me to a bunch of stores to look at rings. The actual proposal came about 8 months later.

All I can really say is, don’t be too frustrated with your guy if it doesn’t propose anytime soon. It sounds like neither of you have really discussed it, so you may not even be on the same page! My fiancé didn’t see himself getting engaged until he was 30, but he knew it was important to me and saw a future for us, so he took the plunge at 25. Maybe you should let him know that you would be open to the idea. Just because you talk about it doesn’t mean it will be any less of a surprise!

Best of luck!

Post # 5
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I haven’t a clue when my FI is going to properly propose. On the otherhand, we’ve kinda reached a mutual decision that we’re getting married and have tentatively set the date. It took some big events in our lives to do this, and beforehand I think I’d have been in a situation similar to you.

Now I’m always nagging him about ‘where’s my ring?’ and I think he’d prefer it if it was all down to him and a surprise. All I know is he’s promised me that before the end of the year we’ll be properly engaged 😀

As long as you want a surprise and he wants to surprise you I’d let things move naturally and you”ll get that ring when you least expect it!

Post # 6
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531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I knew I was waiting the day he let slip that he’d been ring shopping! Then it was really real when I’d realized I was 97% sure he had the ring. Last night we were talking about his family and he told me that they talked about him marrying me. Now I’m in waiting overdrive. Then end.  

Waiting comes in all forms, I think. Once the SO and you decide to spend your lives together I think that right there qualifies as waiting.

Post # 7
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1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I did not consider myself waiting when I knew that i found the right guy because I knew the timing wasnt right yet. I considered myself waiting after we had graduated with our degrees, he went backpacking in Europe, and then told me he was ready to start thinking about an engagement. We then had a long discussion about timing, where we were at, what needed to be done with money and saving and he said (this was in May) that he would be prepared to propose within the year. Even then, i did not consider myself waiting until July came around and the first big oppertunity for him to propose came … I thought about it and then considered myself waiting.. not in a negative way, but waiting as in: we both know its coming and I am so excited just dont know when !

Post # 8
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370 posts
Helper bee

We’ve been together about 2.5 years. I knew I was waiting after being together for close to 2 years and meeting his family and spending my first Christmas with them all. For me it solidified how I felt about him and us together just felt so natural and like I belonged there. At that moment I knew I wanted to be with him forever. I’ve been waiting about 9 months.

Post # 9
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3593 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

SO asked my Dad for my hand. My Dad told me. That’s a pretty clear signal. The fact that it happened over a year ago is to do with our circumstances (I’ve just graduated, we’ve just moved to a different country, I don’t have a job, etc).

Post # 10
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1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I started “waiting” when we discussed our goals for the next few years and one of those was marriage. While we’re on a visa style ticking time bomb, I have no idea when he will propose and have absolutely no idea when it will happen – only when it won’t! I’m guessing it will sometime after next April when his mother visits. He doesn’t have a timeline other than the one we set together for our life. And I am pretty sure he doesn’t have a ring, though he has asked lots of questions about my preferences.

He also talked to my parents, but I don’t think that’s necessary for waiting because lots of guys don’t do that till right before!

I agree with what LadySmurph said – once the two of you have decided to take that next step and discussed spending your lives together, that’s waiting! I don’t have a ring or a date, and I’m waiting. There shouldn’t be other conditions for it, you should know deep down if you are or not.

Post # 11
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1784 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had been lurking here for a while because I like pretty things and wedding drama, but I didn’t feel like I was actually ‘waiting’ until a sudden job transfer ruined my boyfriend’s surprise proposal plans.  So now I know we’re going to be engaged soon.

Post # 13
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2981 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I knew I was “waiting” when he sold his beloved car and bought something more family friendly (but still cool!). He took me to dinner after the sale and said “yeah, 3 years is long enough. Show me some designs you like” meaning ring designs!

Before that, we talked about marriage casually. I was officially waiting after we bought our house in April. He was waiting until my birthday to propose- 5 months later.

 

Post # 14
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9394 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I considered myself waiting after he mentioned he wanted to know my ring size and after that we kept talking about getting married.

Post # 15
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1030 posts
Bumble bee

When my best friend got engaged and I realised right then how much I really really wanted this.

As much as I was happy for my friend, he saw how upset I got when I heard. Not because I was jealous, but because it just made it so obvious that we weren’t there yet.

That night when I found out she was going to have a 2 year engagement, he told me straight away that we’d be married before she was – not that it was a race or anything, but he wanted me to know what the timeline was in his mind.

We started talking more seriously about it around 2 months after that – but I believe that was ‘the moment’.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@lookingglass:  i really like this story.. how he jumped in and confirmed that it would happen soon 🙂 good luck and im excited for a proposal story!

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