Post # 1
I’m curious as to when you knew that he/she was the one.
I have an easygoing quality about me that is a double-edged sword. For every relationship I’ve been in, I’ve worked hard. My best friend says that pretty much any guy I end up with, considering that he has a good temperment and decent living, will be compatible with me because I would work really hard to make it work.
So I thought that my ex was “the one” pretty much after the third or forth date. I wasn’t as quick to say the same of the current BF…I think that he is but I’m still not sure (because we aren’t engaged or married yet?)
Post # 3
I “knew” about two years into our relationship, which was really early considering we started dating at 14.
I can’t say for sure that it was anything other than really deep love and commitment, though. I knew that I wanted to marry him, but not that it would work out. That was the hard work side of things. 🙂
I think for me, since it was my first relationship, there was a feeling of “what if I’m crazy? no one finds their true love at 14” that definitely made me wary of what I was feeling. I didn’t want to get hurt, but quickly realized we were both in it for good.
Post # 4
I knew when he held my hair while I washed my face (completely unsolicited). I was looking for a hair tie and he knew what I was thinking and just grabbed my bun. But we’re always on the same wave length. I can’t count the number of times we’ve said “I agree” or “I was just thinking that”.
My mother told me she knew when she figured out that my Dad would always put her first. He had been talking about a plant that she wasn’t familiar with and was curious about. A couple of days later, he pulled over to the side of the road, picked one of the plants, and showed her so that she would know.
ETA: I knew three months in 😉
Post # 5
I knew quickly. Like you, @mireisen, I work hard at my relationships, and it made a lightbulb go off when I realized how natural my SO and I were together. I was content, easily happy, I wasn’t constantly trying so hard like in the past. I have never met anyone whose personality, interests, and beliefs are so much like my own.
So, when we started to date, it was like…”Yup! This guy is overqualified in the compatibility department, and I’ve never met anyone remotely like him before! I’ll take him! Sold! Where do I sign?!” I knew what I wanted. He had what I wanted and needed. And he’s just a great person. I have no desire for some other, supposedly “better” mystery partner that may be in the ether. I loved what I had. So I knew he was it within a few weeks. 🙂
Post # 6
I knew really quickly honestly. There wasn’t anything specific but it felt right unlike any of the other relationships I was in before.
Post # 7
This may sound weird and perhaps old-fashionedy, but I think the reason my FI and I were drawn to each other is because we both thought the other would make an excellent wife/husband. We’d been friends for years and then it just sort of hit us that we were uber-compatable and we wanted the same things in a partner. Is it weird to think someone is the one before you even start dating?
Post # 8
I knew after about a month.
Post # 9
About a month after we met/began dating, I texted one of my friends “I’ll be damned if I don’t marry this boy someday.” 🙂
Post # 10
we both knew about 2 months in.
Post # 11
Before we “officially” started dating (i.e. became bf/gf; Jan. 2007) I went to dinner at his house before I left the state for winter break (Dec. 2006). Seeing him at home and interacting with his parents really made me realize that I was in love with him. On the car ride home that night, I said out loud to myself that this was the man I was going to marry. Two years to almost the exact date of the dinner we got engaged, and here we are now. 🙂
Post # 12
We started talking about marriage basically on our first date. About two months in, I felt that I “knew”.
Post # 13
I think the FI knew before I did. He brought up marriage to friends and myself about 7-8 months into our relationship. He would ask the ones who are married, “how did you know your partner was the one?” He also went ring shopping to learn about the 4 c’s. After that I started paying close attention and really considering if he is the right one for me. Seriously, every single moment together with him before we were officially dating was incredible. Every day with him is incredible. So, I think I might have known that he was the one around the same time he started to think of it!
Post # 14
It was pretty weird…I don’t know where it came from but I said that 3 word phrase…out of the blue…ON OUR FIRST DATE! I was so embarrassed! We had been talking and hanging out with each other for a month before he officially asked me out and then…he was dropping me off at my car and gave me my first kiss and I don’t know where it came from but I said “I love you.” I don’t know where it came from, but after I said it I knew that it was right. 🙂 And surprisingly…he said it back. He did hesitate and told me after that the only reason he hesitated was to make sure that he meant it. So I knew that night…on our very first date that he was the one that I wanted to marry one day. He was my first boyfriend, my first kiss, the first man I held hands with…my first everything and he is now my FI and we will be married next June 🙂 SO exciting!!!
Post # 15
LOL wow this was a necropost…and I’m glad to have seen it back on the boards because now this is a question that I answered on my own terms. (Seeing that I’m no longer with the above-mentioned BF and have gotten engaged to “the one” since then.)
I talked to a woman today while changing my address and pin number to my bank account. She asked me how I knew…and I told her that with the right person it’s not very difficult; especially when you’ve had a long-term relationship that didn’t end up in commitment. And I knew very quickly at that, as well, about a month in.