(Closed) When Did You Know?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I “knew” about two years into our relationship, which was really early considering we started dating at 14. 

I can’t say for sure that it was anything other than really deep love and commitment, though. I knew that I wanted to marry him, but not that it would work out. That was the hard work side of things. πŸ™‚ 

I think for me, since it was my first relationship, there was a feeling of “what if I’m crazy? no one finds their true love at 14” that definitely made me wary of what I was feeling. I didn’t want to get hurt, but quickly realized we were both in it for good.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I knew when he held my hair while I washed my face (completely unsolicited). I was looking for a hair tie and he knew what I was thinking and just grabbed my bun. But we’re always on the same wave length. I can’t count the number of times we’ve said “I agree” or “I was just thinking that”.

My mother told me she knew when she figured out that my Dad would always put her first. He had been talking about a plant that she wasn’t familiar with and was curious about. A couple of days later, he pulled over to the side of the road, picked one of the plants, and showed her so that she would know.

ETA: I knew three months in πŸ˜‰

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I knew quickly. Like you, @mireisen, I work hard at my relationships, and it made a lightbulb go off when I realized how natural my SO and I were together. I was content, easily happy, I wasn’t constantly trying so hard like in the past. I have never met anyone whose personality, interests, and beliefs are so much like my own.

So, when we started to date, it was like…”Yup! This guy is overqualified in the compatibility department, and I’ve never met anyone remotely like him before! I’ll take him! Sold! Where do I sign?!” I knew what I wanted. He had what I wanted and needed. And he’s just a great person. I have no desire for some other, supposedly “better” mystery partner that may be in the ether. I loved what I had. So I knew he was it within a few weeks. πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I knew really quickly honestly.  There wasn’t anything specific but it felt right unlike any of the other relationships I was in before.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This may sound weird and perhaps old-fashionedy, but I think the reason my FI and I were drawn to each other is because we both thought the other would make an excellent wife/husband. We’d been friends for years and then it just sort of hit us that we were uber-compatable and we wanted the same things in a partner. Is it weird to think someone is the one before you even start dating?

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I knew after about a month.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

About a month after we met/began dating, I texted one of my friends “I’ll be damned if I don’t marry this boy someday.” πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

we both knew about 2 months in.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Before we “officially” started dating (i.e. became bf/gf; Jan. 2007) I went to dinner at his house before I left the state for winter break (Dec. 2006).   Seeing him at home and interacting with his parents really made me realize that I was in love with him.  On the car ride home that night, I said out loud to myself that this was the man I was going to marry.  Two years to almost the exact date of the dinner we got engaged, and here we are now. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

We started talking about marriage basically on our first date. About two months in, I felt that I “knew”. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think the FI knew before I did. He brought up marriage to friends and myself about 7-8 months into our relationship. He would ask the ones who are married, “how did you know your partner was the one?” He also went ring shopping to learn about the 4 c’s. After that I started paying close attention and really considering if he is the right one for me. Seriously, every single moment together with him before we were officially dating was incredible. Every day with him is incredible. So, I think I might have known that he was the one around the same time he started to think of it! 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It was pretty weird…I don’t know where it came from but I said that 3 word phrase…out of the blue…ON OUR FIRST DATE! I was so embarrassed! We had been talking and hanging out with each other for a month before he officially asked me out and then…he was dropping me off at my car and gave me my first kiss and I don’t know where it came from but I said “I love you.” I don’t know where it came from, but after I said it I knew that it was right. πŸ™‚ And surprisingly…he said it back. He did hesitate and told me after that the only reason he hesitated was to make sure that he meant it. So I knew that night…on our very first date that he was the one that I wanted to marry one day. He was my first boyfriend, my first kiss, the first man I held hands with…my first everything and he is now my FI and we will be married next June πŸ™‚ SO exciting!!!

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