Post # 1
I was just curious when everyone is sending or sent their invitations. We just sent ours and my FMIL made a couple of comments about it being too early. I’m just curious what others are doing.
We sent 10 weeks in advance. The rsvp deadline is 4 weeks before the wedding. That is the deadline of our hotel block deadline, so we thought that would be a good rsvp date. Also, we have at least 100 OOT guests. We did send a STD back in November, but I still get emails with questions about the hotels, travel etc.
How early is too early?
Post # 3
We sent our invitations out about 8 weeks in advance. I don’t think 10 weeks is that terrible, especially if a lot of your guests will be traveling for the wedding. I would try to ignore your FMIL’s comments. And if she says anything else, just mention that you need final numbers a month out for the caterer/reception venue/hotel blocks/whatever.
Post # 4
I think the trend is to send invitations earlier (like 8-10 weeks) rather than 6 weeks ahead, which is think is the official recommendation that’s been around forever. If people are buying plane tickets, this gives them the opportunity to shop around for better deals. Also, people are busier these days and early notice helps them plan around business trips, vacations and other events.
Also, the bride and groom don’t want to be tracking down missing RSVPs a week before the wedding! Finally, if you estimates of who will/won’t attend end up being way off, it won’t be too late to scale back on favors/out of town bags/ desserts and stick to your budget.
Post # 5
it sounds odd so if anyone has an opinion (oh new post idea!!) our registry through for our honeymoon says that it has to be paid up to 60 days before the honeymoon. so i had to calculate so that there was enough time for the registry to make it to the guests and still have time to view the honeymoon registry. wow.. i dont know of that made any sense.
Post # 6
Our final count for the venue is due 3 weeks prior to the wedding so I am sending out invites out 10.5 weeks out from wedding. I am doing this so that my Mom and I have a good 1.5 weeks to make sure we got every response. It really all depends on your situation.
Post # 7
I am sending mine out on Saturday and my wedding is June 20th. The RSVPs are due back June 1st but my final count is not due until the Monday before the wedding so I will have time to follow up with people we dont hear from.
Post # 8
I remember reading that 4-8 was standard etiquette but I think people are pretty open these days to rolling with whatever your needs are (in other words, I don’t think 10 weeks was too early). If anything, I think it’s better to err on the side of giving people more time than less – I just got an invite that was in all likelyhood sent at the 4 week mark and we had less than a week to have our RSVP back to them which, personally, I don’t think is a whole heck of a lot of time.
Post # 9
@naangel55: my wedding is the day before yours, and we got ours out yesterday! So pretty much the same.
I wanted most people to receive them about 8 weeks prior, which is tomorrow. Our RSVP date is 4 weeks before as well.
Post # 10
I read in a book that you should send your invites 3 months before the wedding, which would be like 12 weeks….I think thats what were going to do Personally, I don’t think its a bad thing to tell people 3 months in advance, that way if they need to take off work, or whatever. I’m an event coordinator and my schedule is usually planned more then 3 months in advance, so if I had a wedding to go to, I would like to know about 12-10 weeks prior. And I think its not necessary to send STDs when it isn’t a destination wedding…
Post # 11
This may sound bad, but we sent our invites out 10 weeks before wedding because we had an "A list" and a "B List" . After we got x number of declines, we were able to send out invites to guests on our "B List". So we sent out our invites earlier than usual and made our RSVP deadline later than usual. It really worked for us and we didn’t have to feel bad about sending out wedding invites 5 weeks before the wedding because the guests still had 4 weeks to RSVP!