Post # 1
Recently, just last week, SO changed his words around. He use to say things like “if we have kids, we’re going to do this..” or “If we get married, our rehearsal dinner should not be like that!” and now he says “WHEN we have kids, we should make their bedroom like that!” and “WHEN we get married, we should do this..”
I feel weird telling my friends, since they are all either married or single and I feel like such things would be stupid to them, but whenever the “when” word comes out of his mouth like that, I get butterflies thinking of our future together!
I feel so giddy that I’m afraid to say the “when” word and I leave it at “if.” i feel dumb, really, it’s just a silly word!
Are there any seemingly meaningless words out there that got you all tangled up like that?
Post # 3
It’s silly, because we’ve talked about getting engaged for quite awhile, but once my SO said “you know I want to marry you” and “marry” certainly got my heart pumping! Anything to do with “we” or “our” and the future is also exciting.
I agree it’s nice to hear nem saying things like that, even if it might sound silly to some people.
Post # 5
@graciej: Sometimes the “we” and “us” excites me too!
Post # 6
I think it started around 10 months for us…we decided to get married right about the year mark of dating, so the switch came early in our relationship. It totally got me all excited to think about our future together and hear when he said things like “when we move to ___” or “when we do ___” because I knew that he was planning to be there years down the road.
Post # 7
I first noticed a change when FI (then BF) and I first decided on a move in date. Like when he was planting his garden, he took me to the garden so we could pick out plants for “our” garden (since I would be living there at harvest time, he wanted to make sure he was getting foods we both liked). But other than things in the house being ours TBH there was no “When we get married” until we got engaged, it was always “if”, in fact he used to bug me if I slipped up and said “When” saying “Whoa Nelly, there’s no ring on your finger yet!” Even after he had bought the ring, he’d still do that, although he was doing it to tease me usually.