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I know this is a bit of a personal question but I'm always curious about things! I wonder how long other people were dating SO before saying "I love you"?
I dated my boyfriend 9 months before he said it. I told him once around 6 months and he said he wasn't ready yet...ouch! Anyways, I told him I would wait till he was ready to say it before saying it again. He told me he had said it too soon in previous relationships and when he said it to me it would be because he knew he wanted to love me the rest of his life, which was really sweet actually and when he did finally say it I knew he meant it and wasn't caught up in the moment. He said sometimes he thinks people are caught up in the excitment of a new relationship and infatuation feels like love.
At that point I already knew we'd date years before getting engaged. He likes to take things slow! Which I suppose is not always a bad thing even though it seems like it during the wait.
He told me he loved me one night which was about a month after we were dating. I waited and told him when I genuinely felt it. I would say about another month.
Good thing was he said to me I just want you to know how I feel and don't expect it back so soon. I was relieved but I knew in my heart he was the one.
Pretty early...he told me about a month after we started dating. I said it back at that point too :)
My hubby told me 3 months in. It was so sweet! He took me to the Empire State Building just to say it. I said it right back, sometimes ya just know. But your FI is right, I think other times people just get so caught up in that euphoria of a new relationship and say things they aren't really ready to say.
I waited almost a year after we started dating, FH waited a couple weeks longer to say it back. I knew before then that I loved him, I just wasn't ready to say it until then.
I think we said it about 5 or 6 months into dating... After watching a movie one night he turned to me and said it. But I knew long before then that I loved him. When I would leave his house sometimes I'd say over and over under my breath "I love you I love you I love you..." I was really happy when he finally said it!
I said it to him about 2.5 months after we met (we were basically together from the first time we met) and I asked him not to say it - just let me get it out and let him say it when he was ready. I wish I had a recording of the conversation - rambling and somewhat drunken on the side of the road at around 3 am!
He said it to me about a month later. It was so nice to hear but it hadn't stopped me from saying it to him in the meantime!!!
we were laying in his bed one night, watching a movie, talking, etc. we had been "seeing each other" for about 6 months, but only "officialy dating" a few months.
he said it in spanish, cuz he wanted to hear me say it in korean he says... and then both of us just said it. :) it was sweet and innocent, i don't think we reallly fell in love until after that. but i wont forget that moment :)
lol i prob have the worst story. FI told me after about 5 weeks and i was totally NOT THERE. (and honestly i don't think he was either-- i think he was in lust/infatuation more than love). I told him i really liked him but that love (to me) is when you can genuinely see a future with someone and i was not there yet. I waited (get this).... OVER A YEAR to say it back. yikes. lol. i'm not going to say we didn't have some awkward moments in there... but luckily he felt i was worth the wait. and even though i was slow falling i know it meant so much to him when it happened because he knew it was REAL.
Haha, FI claims he can't remember, but it was 2.5 months after we started dating. We were on a boat on a river in Indiana with friends. He told me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend and really commit. It was a great conversation and then at the end of it I made a joke (forget what it was) and he said "that's alright, I love you anyways" I was stunned so I said "hmm, what did you say?" and he very directly said "I love you anyways" I didn't know how to respond so I just gave him a kiss. I was really not expecting him to say that since that whole summer he didn't want any pressure to fully commit.
So a week after the trip we were laying in bed and he said "Goodnight, I love you" I took a deep breath and said "I love you too" It felt right at that point:)
I'm the type of person who doesn't just throw around the love word. I had never said it before to a boyfriend. My current Fiance said it to me after about 2 months of dating. After about 3 months, I accidently said it while at a hotel with my fiance (then just boyfriend). I truly meant it, and that's why I said it. I think it shocked both myself and him. He just stopped in his tracks and looked at me in awe. I just hid under the covers..haha.
We were friends for a long time before we dated, so that may have skewed our timeline...we'd been dating for 2 months and I was about to leave for a year away in Germany; he had just left for school in Indiana. He decided to fly home for a weekend to see me, and that's when he told me he loved me (and of course, I told him I loved him, too)! He had flown all the way home just to be able to tell me in person. I remember it was really hard the first few months to get the words out, but now we tell each other all the time--I guess we practiced enough ;-)
My husband told me about 3 weeks after we started seeing each other. I think I told him that I could get used to the idea (in a good way). I just knew that there was something real between us.
However, I didn't say a thing until we'd been together about 4 or 5 months. I had also said it way too soon (and too much) in a previous relationship. I was terrified to say it again, but I did know I loved him a while before I said it. It's a good thing he recognized it in my actions before I said the words.
We were just friends for a few months but then pretty soon after we started going on dates he said it. And I yelled at him, sweet thing that I am.
But I had just gone through a break up, so had he, we met during a time both of us were breaking up so when we did go on a date it felt like it might just be rebounding emotions and searching for what we lost. So I was angry that he was putting something on me like that when he too was in a rough state becasue of a long-term break up. So, then we took a year and sorted ourselves out, sort of dating, at the beginning mostly not (my old boyfriend kept appearing making it a bit hard to start investing emotions in someone else) and so it was just a little over a year after that first time that he said it again and I was OK that we were in love and it wasn't just a rebound.
It was about six months after we started dating. We were both drunk at a party. The next morning, we said it again so that we knew it wasn't just drunk talk. Sadly, the story about how we decided to get engaged is very similar. Drunk talk, next morning confirmation.
We had been casually dating a couple months but we had been best friends for about three years. I was frustrated with him that evening because we still hadn't figured out the whole dating not official thing yet. So I was kind of pouting a little bit and he put his arms around me and said "you know i love you right?" It was so sweet. It was not a just realization it was an - I have loved you for awhile and you should know this by now thing.
It was so cute and I said it right back! I am impressed with all you ladies who didn't say it back right away - good restraint doing it on your own time! Very admirable!
hmmmmm about 3 months after our first date. I JUST realized how soon it was! I guess i never looked at it as "soon" because it was perfect and i really did love him :)
He said it 3 weeks after we started dating. I freaked out because I wasn't even close to saying it to him! I remember giving him a big smile and told him how sweet that was! *lol* I finally said it after 3 months together.
I really can't remember how long after we started dating before he said it. I do know that I when I told him, he looked at me and said "Um, okay"... that was 4 years ago. We are not demostrative and effusive people though.
I just realized I posted this in the wrong section. I meant to put it in NWR. Oops. O well.
It was only a few weeks after we'd started dating. We had all of these awkward phone conversation endings, you know, the space where you'd say "I love you"? So we'd both just sit there, but it would never come.
Our whole relationship was fast, I moved in with him after being with him for three months.
Anyway, we were in a LDR for those three months, and after I had come to see him one time, we were sitting in bed together, and he goes "Can't I just tell you NOW?" Just like that, all impatient-like.
I said yes, and he said that he loved me. And it felt pretty darn perfect :) So I said it back.
I can't remember exactly, but I believe it was about 3-4 weeks after we met, and 2 weeks after we started dating.
We met online about a month before we met in person, and this sounds really corny, but before I met him, I was like "do I actually love this guy without meeting him?" Yes I do! haha
My husband and I have known each other since we were kids. We had lost touch but reconnected and had been just friends for quite a while when he asked me out on a date, as opposed to hanging out as friends. Because of our history, it didn't take long (about two weeks) for him to tell me he loved me. The cute part was him then asking me "Do you love me?" Of course, I did.
He said it to me first in high school, about a month after we started dating. I freaked out and almost broke up with him on the spot. I held my tongue, though, and ended up saying it back by the end of the night.
The second time around, we weren't even officially dating yet. He had told me about one month before that he wanted to date me when I got back to the States (I was and still am in Japan), but after that, we started acting coupley. Finally I said it over Skype, and he said it back and that it had been true for a while... And I immediately had to hang up on him and run to work. It was sweet, though!
I don't really remember! But I do remember it was late at night when I said it to him and I said it first.
We had been dating for about a month when we said it. It just felt right!
I said it to him about 3 months after we started dating. And it was on Valentine's Day!!! LOL! I'm the type of person who doesn't like the thought of Valentine's Day because I don't think people should use that one day to symbolize their love for others, and I went against my beliefs! But he got me a card with a sweet message inside and when I was done reading it, I said it to him and he said it back.
Two weeks after we started dating, I asked him if it would scare him if I told him I was falling for him, and he said no because he'd already fallen for me!
The not-so-swoonworthy part of this is that we were at a party and I was totally drunk. Haha. But I really did mean it... the alcohol just gave me the courage to admit it!
The next morning, he nervously asked me if I remembered what I said last night, and I said yes and that I meant it... he was SO relieved. LOL :D
We had been dating 3 months before I said it!!
My SO knew I had issues about the whole "i love you" thing. I didn't want to just throw that phrase around and I really wanted to mean it before I said it. And so, he waited for me to say it first. And waited. And waited. And waited. (Even though he had wanted to say it for a long time, he wasn't sure what my reaction would be). We were together for a year and a half, and had been living together for about 6 months when I finally came around. It was New Year's, there was lots of champagne, you know how it goes! The next morning he asked me if I even remembered what I said. He sighed and said "Well, even if you don't remember. I love you too." It was the sweeeeetest thing ever.
It was about 3 months after we started dating, it was FI's birthday and he was quite drunk. He blurted out something about loving me, and then kind of stopped and said "I really do love you", and I said it back. He spent the next morning incredibly hungover, repeating over and over how it wasn't drunk talk at all ;)
I honestly don't remember - but I know that he said it to me several times in the early stages of our relationship. I was still going through a big heartbreak and some trust issues from a previous relationship, and wasn't ready to jump into the "ILY" stage with him quite yet. But the more we were with one another, the more I started to really feel it. So one quiet night we were talking, and he said it again and I quietly said it back. It was so wonderful to feel and know I had found a partner who truly loved me - no questions asked.
Our timeline is a little skewed since we had been friends first but basically a couple of days after our first date.
My response to him was "You do?" About a hour later, I told him I love you too.
Ok, so for us it happened in steps.
1)About a month and a half after we started dating, I got absolutely wasted at a college Halloween party and called him and told him I loved him, but he didn't have to love me. We quickly decided to pretend that conversation never happened, because honestly I didn't really love him at that point in time. I just loved everyone that night, haha.
2) We were Christmas shopping (So now about 3 months in) and trying to find a parking spot, and I noticed one right up front by the door. He got super excited about it and was like, "Awesome, I love you." and we both just got silent, and then awkwardly pretended like it hadn't happened. I had never heard him say he loved anything before that, not soccer, not beer, not his mom not anything so I was shocked to hear the words. I think he was too.
3) Shortly after that conversation (I think it was later that same night, but it may have been a few days later) we talked about what he said, and if he meant it, and he said he wasn't entirely sure, since he had never said those words to a girl before, and he doesn't use those words often. I think I told him then that I felt so strongly about him, but wanted him to say it first and really mean it.
4)A few days after the conversation there was a party at his house the night before he was going back home for Christmas break. He got drunk and when we were sitting in bed that night he very genuinely told me that he loved me. Despite the alcohol in his system I knew this time it was for real, and I said it back. I don't know if he remembered the next morning, but shortly after that we started saying it on a regular basis. And now not a day goes by where we don't say it, a lot.
He said it a few weeks into dating. I said 'No, you don't. Don't say that. It's way too early for that'. He said 'Yes, I do'. Awkward silence. He kept saying it to me every single day/night until about 2-3 months later, when I said it back. We knew it was love from the beginning (we began dating 2 weeks after meeting, he broke up with his gf of 3 years to date, etc...) but I don't think it's a small word to throw around.
He told me he loved me after we had been dating for 3 months. I said it back, but he said it first. :)
FI and I met a week before he left for the summer, so we communicated every day via text/phone calls for 3 months. Then when he came back in September, we started dating.. He told me he loved me in late November and I said it back in late December.
Less then a month, I said it first and he said it back. We probably say it about 20 times a day now. Sometimes I even make myself sick!
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