Post # 1
I know this is a bit of a personal question but I’m always curious about things! I wonder how long other people were dating SO before saying “I love you”?
I dated my boyfriend 9 months before he said it. I told him once around 6 months and he said he wasn’t ready yet…ouch! Anyways, I told him I would wait till he was ready to say it before saying it again. He told me he had said it too soon in previous relationships and when he said it to me it would be because he knew he wanted to love me the rest of his life, which was really sweet actually and when he did finally say it I knew he meant it and wasn’t caught up in the moment. He said sometimes he thinks people are caught up in the excitment of a new relationship and infatuation feels like love.
At that point I already knew we’d date years before getting engaged. He likes to take things slow! Which I suppose is not always a bad thing even though it seems like it during the wait.
Post # 3
He told me he loved me one night which was about a month after we were dating. I waited and told him when I genuinely felt it. I would say about another month.
Good thing was he said to me I just want you to know how I feel and don’t expect it back so soon. I was relieved but I knew in my heart he was the one.
Post # 4
Pretty early…he told me about a month after we started dating. I said it back at that point too 🙂
Post # 5
My hubby told me 3 months in. It was so sweet! He took me to the Empire State Building just to say it. I said it right back, sometimes ya just know. But your FI is right, I think other times people just get so caught up in that euphoria of a new relationship and say things they aren’t really ready to say.
Post # 6
I waited almost a year after we started dating, FH waited a couple weeks longer to say it back. I knew before then that I loved him, I just wasn’t ready to say it until then.
Post # 7
I think we said it about 5 or 6 months into dating… After watching a movie one night he turned to me and said it. But I knew long before then that I loved him. When I would leave his house sometimes I’d say over and over under my breath “I love you I love you I love you…” I was really happy when he finally said it!
Post # 8
I said it to him about 2.5 months after we met (we were basically together from the first time we met) and I asked him not to say it – just let me get it out and let him say it when he was ready. I wish I had a recording of the conversation – rambling and somewhat drunken on the side of the road at around 3 am!
He said it to me about a month later. It was so nice to hear but it hadn’t stopped me from saying it to him in the meantime!!!
Post # 9
we were laying in his bed one night, watching a movie, talking, etc. we had been “seeing each other” for about 6 months, but only “officialy dating” a few months.
he said it in spanish, cuz he wanted to hear me say it in korean he says… and then both of us just said it. 🙂 it was sweet and innocent, i don’t think we reallly fell in love until after that. but i wont forget that moment 🙂
Post # 10
lol i prob have the worst story. FI told me after about 5 weeks and i was totally NOT THERE. (and honestly i don’t think he was either– i think he was in lust/infatuation more than love). I told him i really liked him but that love (to me) is when you can genuinely see a future with someone and i was not there yet. I waited (get this)…. OVER A YEAR to say it back. yikes. lol. i’m not going to say we didn’t have some awkward moments in there… but luckily he felt i was worth the wait. and even though i was slow falling i know it meant so much to him when it happened because he knew it was REAL.
Post # 11
Haha, FI claims he can’t remember, but it was 2.5 months after we started dating. We were on a boat on a river in Indiana with friends. He told me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend and really commit. It was a great conversation and then at the end of it I made a joke (forget what it was) and he said “that’s alright, I love you anyways” I was stunned so I said “hmm, what did you say?” and he very directly said “I love you anyways” I didn’t know how to respond so I just gave him a kiss. I was really not expecting him to say that since that whole summer he didn’t want any pressure to fully commit.
So a week after the trip we were laying in bed and he said “Goodnight, I love you” I took a deep breath and said “I love you too” It felt right at that point:)
Post # 12
I’m the type of person who doesn’t just throw around the love word. I had never said it before to a boyfriend. My current Fiance said it to me after about 2 months of dating. After about 3 months, I accidently said it while at a hotel with my fiance (then just boyfriend). I truly meant it, and that’s why I said it. I think it shocked both myself and him. He just stopped in his tracks and looked at me in awe. I just hid under the covers..haha.
Post # 13
We were friends for a long time before we dated, so that may have skewed our timeline…we’d been dating for 2 months and I was about to leave for a year away in Germany; he had just left for school in Indiana. He decided to fly home for a weekend to see me, and that’s when he told me he loved me (and of course, I told him I loved him, too)! He had flown all the way home just to be able to tell me in person. I remember it was really hard the first few months to get the words out, but now we tell each other all the time–I guess we practiced enough 😉
Post # 14
My husband told me about 3 weeks after we started seeing each other. I think I told him that I could get used to the idea (in a good way). I just knew that there was something real between us.
However, I didn’t say a thing until we’d been together about 4 or 5 months. I had also said it way too soon (and too much) in a previous relationship. I was terrified to say it again, but I did know I loved him a while before I said it. It’s a good thing he recognized it in my actions before I said the words.
Post # 15
We were just friends for a few months but then pretty soon after we started going on dates he said it. And I yelled at him, sweet thing that I am.
But I had just gone through a break up, so had he, we met during a time both of us were breaking up so when we did go on a date it felt like it might just be rebounding emotions and searching for what we lost. So I was angry that he was putting something on me like that when he too was in a rough state becasue of a long-term break up. So, then we took a year and sorted ourselves out, sort of dating, at the beginning mostly not (my old boyfriend kept appearing making it a bit hard to start investing emotions in someone else) and so it was just a little over a year after that first time that he said it again and I was OK that we were in love and it wasn’t just a rebound.
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
It was about six months after we started dating. We were both drunk at a party. The next morning, we said it again so that we knew it wasn’t just drunk talk. Sadly, the story about how we decided to get engaged is very similar. Drunk talk, next morning confirmation.