When did you send out your Thank You's?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

linnylou_88:  etiquette says you have 3 months at the MOST, to send them all out. I would just work to get them out ASAP if I were you. 

Post # 3
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee

Congrats on your two week anniversary, and I hope you enjoyed your honeymoon.  You should get your notes out as soon as possible, of course, but I would imagine that even your guests who are more sensitive than most to the issue of timeliness won’t really start to grouse along the lines of “where’s that note?” until the 6 week mark.  (You may have a guest or two who will be annoyed not to receive something right away, so if you think you’ve got anyone like that, do their notes first!)  The consensus around here seems to be that once you pass the three month mark, you’ve really done screwed up, and that, while you do have some grace period, you really should get them out as soon as possible.  It sounds like you’re taking ownership and responsibility for being on top of this though (hopefully your husband will help you by writing notes to his friends or family that you may not know as well), so you should be fine. 

linnylou_88:  

Post # 4
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wrote all of ours on the plane ride back from our honeymoo. I had 6 hours to kill so it worked perfectly. They were in the mail 2 weeks after our wedding. 

Post # 5
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5008 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

linnylou_88:  I would work on them ASAP. I got mine out within 2 weeks of getting back from our honeymoon. I got a lot of “I can’t believe you sent out thank yous that quickly!” texts and it made me feel like our guests knew we really appreciated them. 

We went to a wedding in May and still didn’t receive the thank you card which really pisses me off because we spent at least $400 on accomodations, a 5 hour drive, and a $200 wedding gift. So rude.

Post # 6
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721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We promised ourselves we’d have them out in less than a month, though my husband was adament that it be less than two weeks. Ultimately, it was 3.5 weeks. I understand that etiquette states you can take up to about 3 months before it gets rude, but I’m pissed off if I give a nice gift and don’t hear back anything within 6-8 weeks. Like, I gave you something nice and you couldn’t find one minute in a two full months to say “thank you”?!

Post # 7
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

linnylou_88:  I sent them out about 2 weeks after the wedding.

Post # 8
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3709 posts
Sugar bee

linnylou_88: My daughter was married in August and sent thank yous within a week of receiving each gift before. I’d guess that one-third were received before the actual wedding.  Since the bulk were received at the wedding, I think it took her two weeks, to get them all out. She works and goes to graduate school and does clinical/experience work 2-days a week.

At the wedding her cousin’s wife talked to me and apologized for not sending her thank yous out. She said they are waiting for the professional photos. I mailed the gift in mid-April. I know this is a common excuse for brides, for late thank yous, but I was not amused.

 

Post # 9
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3223 posts
Sugar bee

My husband and I sent them out on Sunday after our Saturday wedding.  We opened the gift, and immediately wrote the thank you.  One person opened the gift and did the envelope, as the other wrote the note.  We traded jobs a few times if one person got a hand cramp.

I will say that the sooner you write them them more grateful your guests will find you.

Post # 10
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We’ve been sending out thank you’s as soon as we recieve a gift. Our honeymoon is 2 weeks long, so we’ll work on them after we get back.

Post # 11
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I got them all done and in the mail probably two weeks after getting back from our honeymoon (so three weeks after the wedding). I just wanted to be done with them – honestly, I should have been writing/sending them as the presents came in. I didn’t want anyone to think we weren’t super appreciative for all the generous gifts we received.

I’ve been to weddings and never received a thank you note – it always annoys me. Funny enough, as I was finishing my thank you notes (in June), I received a thank you from a friend who’s wedding was the previous August. I thought that sending them out nearly a year after the wedding was a little, well, rude…

Post # 12
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6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

linnylou_88:  i think the deadline tk send them out is a.s.a.p

i had a goal to have my thank you’s hand written and mailed by the two month mark

Post # 13
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11722 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As soon as you can.  DH and I had them mailed out within two weeks of the wedding, and the hold-up was that he had emergency surgery right after our ewdding, so we couldn’t get to them any sooner.

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