Post # 1
I’m getting married Feb 16 and I had planned to send the save the dates out 6 months in advanced. My future mother in law practically had a heart attack and said I need to send them three to four months before. When did you send out yours?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We sent ours at about 4-1/2 months, but we’re only having a 6-mo. engagement. Do 6 months- it’ll give people more time to plan, esp. since you’re getting married before a holiday (for govt., at least) weekend.
Post # 4
I sent ours at a little over 6 months. (2 weeks ago). It will be a destination wedding for pretty much EVERYONE but myself and my FI. There were pro’s and con’s to this.
Pro’s: Your guests get a heads up as to when the wedding is. If you have a website you can put it on the STD and they can go ahead and figure out accomodations…ect. We actually had a friend who messaged us and told us they recieved their STD and they were just about to plan a trip back home (they live in Germany right now) for September but now they’re going to wait until our wedding! So that was nice that they got it soon enough to make their holiday plans
Cons: I was literally shaking when I was mailing them out. haha. It just hit me that there really was no turning back as far as details go. I could no longer change what city I was getting married in, what date we picked and what our guest list is. Sure you “can” change it but it makes a mess (so I’ve heard).
So, if your 100% positive on your guest list, date and city, I say go for it. But if you’d rather wait I think 5-4 months would work. Invites go out about 2-3 months before so it would be weird to recieve a STD and Invite so close together. Ok, maybe not “weird” but if that’s what you would do I would jsut do an invite only.
Post # 5
I planned on sending ours out 6 months before the wedding, but once we ordered them & received them, I was too excited to wait! So it ended up being about 8 months before…
Post # 6
We’re sending ours out at the 1 year mark because we have a long engagement (27 months) and our guest list is more than 80% OOT, and we are getting married when people usually book their vacations. But I think 6 months makes sense for your wedding. Your FMIL probably thinks they are invitations, which is why she wants you to wait. But there is no point in sending STDs and invitations at the same time. STDs are a relatively new invention, so you can send them if you want or not send them at all.
Post # 7
I sent mine out about 6 months before. Most of our guests were OOT so I wanted to give them time to plan and save. If you are inviting mostly OOT folks definitely send them out sooner rather than later. It gives your guests a chance to budget for your big day 🙂
Post # 8
i sent ours out 5 months prior.
Post # 9
We were Memorial Day weekend so we sent ours out 50 weeks before the wedding! Was trying to hit the one year mark but those darn DIYs.
I personally would send yours out sooner than later as yours is right around Valentine’s Day and people may take off for the weekend.
Post # 10
About 8 months before the wedding.
Post # 11
We sent our earlier this week (5 1/2 months before), but we were dragging our feet picking a design. I would’ve sent them out early June (6 months before). I had no clue when you were supposed to send them out, so I did a little research. My research says you are right and she is wrong; 6 months is pretty standard. 3 months would be awfully close to when you send out invites, which in my mind, makes them kid of pointless!
Post # 12
Save the dates are really just a heads up to let guests know when/where you’ll be getting married, I think you can send them out as early as you want to. Your FMIL is probably thinking they’re more formal than they really are. Do you have any guests who need to travel to make it to your wedding… because in that case I think it’s nice to give them 6 months notice.
We’re having a destination wedding (in the US but many of our guests will have a 5 hour flight to get there, east to west coast) and I was hoping to send save the dates out a year in advance so people could plan, but since we took forever to pick a location and venue, it looks like they’ll actually get out about 10 months.
Post # 13
I think 6 months is pretty standard. Ours went out around 4 months though because we are procrastinators. Nobody complained.
Post # 14
6 months prior is about average. I sent mine out about 5 months beforehand.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Terryal87 has a good point-make sure you are 100% certain on the guests you send these to. If you’re on the fence about someone, they don’t have to get a save the date- we sent save the dates to 90% of our list, I think? You could also stagger- send some at 4/5 months, if that works better.
Post # 16
I hand-delivered mine to all the really far away travelers when I was visiting for Christmas (about 9.5 months in advance) but locally I literally just sent them out last week so that’s about 3.5 months… and I thought I was behind schedule!
I guess the point is to notify people that an invite is coming, but many people have written me on fb saying they can’t wait and are definitely coming sooo… the STD acts like a mini invitation I guess! haha
Also our website says a lot about the location, date & time but the RSVP is password protected so everyone knows what is required of them if they want to come (Friday wedding @ 6PM but NO ONE can come late because we are getting married on a yacht that will depart ontime so help me God! haha).
Some people will need to make work arrangements, some people won’t.
The response has been lovely tho! I wish I would have sent them out sooner just to get everyone so excited hehehe