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technically I think you have a year... but I wouldn't wait that long. I'd email the photog and see if she can't at least get you 2-3 pics to pick from now. If not, bite the bullet and send the cards now. You can get personalized christmas cards with your wedding photos if you want :)
Thank you notes should really be written within 2 weeks for gifts given before the wedding, and within a month after return from the honeymoon for gifts given at or after the wedding. If it is going to be 3-4 months, I think you really need to come up with a different idea for thank you cards.
Thanks for the input. I know what everyone says you "should" do and I also know that what you "should" is often different than what people actually do when the time comes.
I mean really? Two weeks? I wasn't even home from the honeymoon yet, LOL!!
I'm curious to get answers from newlyweds about how long it actually took to get all the TYs out!
That's why you get a month after return from the honeymoon to send thank you notes for gifts received at or after the wedding. :-)
Mine are all written out. They just need addressed, stamped, and mailed.
Oh, I guess I was supposed to be writing the Thank You notes for gifts as they came in, yeah, like I had time for that the month before the wedding!! :) Plus, I figured I was supposed to reference their attendance at the wedding (ie, "it was wonderful to see you!"), which I wasn't able to anticipate b/c many people SUCK at RSVPing.
I actually did get some thank you notes out for gifts received before wedding stuff got crazy, and they were to people who had RSVPd "no"
Wow TessaBella, I'm genuinely impressed!! How many did you have to write!?!?
My goal was to get all of our TY notes out within a month of the wedding, but we were about a week later than that by the time the last one was sent. I've heard the traditional "rules", but frankly, we just didn't have the time or motivation to get them out that early. Personally, as a guest, I wouldn't be offended if I had to wait a month or two for my TY, but 4-5 months might be pushing it. The latest I have received a TY was almost one year after the wedding. By that time, I was pretty sure the bride had forgotten to send TYs all together!
@CorgiTales: I believe the etiquette is that guests can send a gift up to a year after the wedding, but thank you notes should be written within 3 months of receipt or the wedding, which ever is last.
This was a priority for me because I think thanking people in a timely fashion is really important and it shows how grateful you are. Also because I started school the day after we got home from our honeymoon, and I didn't want to have to do them on top of doing school work. I did them in two days and they were in the mail 2 weeks after the wedding. It took me about 6 hours one day, and 7 the next. I'm not sure how many I did cuz some people didn't come to the wedding but sent along a card/gift, but I would guess about 180 notes. One thing that saved me a lot of time was that before the wedding, I sat down and wrote out everyone's address on the envelopes so that step was done. So, I'd say just carve out an evening or 2 and sit down and do them. It's such a relief to have them done!!
Oh and PS- I once got a thank you about 6 months after a wedding bc the couple made thank you cards with their picture and thats how long it took. Honestly, it was a nice card and picture, but for how long it took, it wasn't worth it. Guests just care about being thanked. I didn't even save the picture. You might want to think about sending out a picture for your Christmas/Holiday cards or something instead?
UPDATE - I emailed the photographer and she sent me a few pictures so I'll be ordering the Thank You notes this week and I plan to have them out before the 2 month mark!
Etiquette Faux Paw averted!!
I'm glad you got them! Now hopefully you get the rest of your pictures soon!
I'm a totally bad bride and have been married for 3 months and 1 day :) and have not gotten them out yet. Guess what me and the hubby are doing tonight!!!
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It's been over a month since the wedding and I'm DREADING writing Thank You notes.
One of the issues I'm having is that I really want to use a picture of us from the wedding but we don't have our professional pics back yet. I did a little bit of stalking on my photographer's website and found the wedding website of one of the couples. It looks like it took 3 months for her to post their pictures!!! By the time I order the photo thank you cards and write them all, that would put me at sending out the cards 4-5 months after the wedding!!!
I'm thinking about e-mailing her to ask her to send me just a few shots from a certain group of pictures we had taken. I'm also looking through friends pictures but I can't find any that I want to use for the TY cards.