When did you set a date?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
coyoteBee
2051 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

We waited a few months before setting a date. We dated for 5.5 years before getting engaged and it was nice to just bask in our newly-acquired status for a little bit. 🙂 We also knew we were probably going to have a long engagement so there was no rush in setting a date.

It sounds like you guys just need to sit down together and discuss your expectations. And maybe explain the process a bit to him. 🙂 I know DH didn’t know a damn thing about weddings (and had probably only been to 2 or 3 in his lifetime) so there were lots and lots of talks about what, who, where, when, etc.

Congrats and happy planning!!

 

Post # 5
Member
4568 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

we were officely talking about wedding dates the night we got engaged. he wanted to get married really soon but $$ wise we could not afford the wedding we wanted so we had a 2 year engagement which was perfect for us its enough time to save and plan a nice wedding.

Post # 7
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1140 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

we started trying to pick a date right away. we were engaged in sept, looking at venues and ended up booking in dec for an oct wedding. we waited to pick a date til we found our location, and then made sure both the ceremony site and reception sites were avail before picking date. we did not have a specific date in mind, only a month or two we wanted.

Post # 8
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@jadlnc:  I was engaged two weeks max and we had a date. I suggested a date waaaaaaay out there because I, like your FH, was a bit uncomfortable. FH vetoed my date and moved it up a year closer. Now I wish we could pull it off sooner than we are currently planning!

Post # 9
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

We picked a date the night he proposed. Since his family and friends would have to travel to the US from another country, we chose based around their spring holidays (they are 90% teachers). We were able to tell people right away and they could start budgeting. We had to change the date ones due to visa reasons, so we just bumped it up until the summer holidays instead.

Post # 10
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8593 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

We had one immediately (before we announced being engaged to anyone)…I pretty much asked him “hey what do you think of this day.”  It helps it is the day of our anniversary and it fell on a Saturday this year.  So it was a no-brainer.  We had it about 14 months out.

You can always pick the month or season you want and start seeing what dates they have available.  Or try to find something with meaning.

Post # 11
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926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@jadlnc:  We knew what month we wanted to get married in but didn’t have a specific date in mind; we didn’t really care about the date.  Our date ended up being set based on when our chosen venue was available.  We chose the latest in September possible to better our chances of really beautiful wall weather.

Post # 12
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4568 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@jadlnc:  were not having a huge wedding our budget is 12,000 but things add up fast as i have found out lol so we had to save for a few years ; (

Post # 13
Member
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

About two or three days after we got engaged, we picked a date we liked. And even though our engagement was 22 months long, it ended up working out that the date we liked worked! We didn’t book anything until a year after getting engaged.

Post # 14
Member
2174 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We didn’t set a date for 5 months.  We just talked about what times of the year were best for our work schedules, personal preferences, etc and came to an agreement on a timeframe.  The ultimate date was decided by venue availability.

Post # 15
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502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We got engaged January 12 and started throwing around ideas for dates and decided on a general timeframe. February 8 of this year we booked our venue for February 8 of next year so it took us less than a month to pick a date and book a venue.

Post # 16
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2441 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

The day we got engaged!

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