Post # 1
So I am (exactly!) 2 months away from my wedding… and the issue of when to start having kids came up. I think we should wait and enjoy being newlyweds for atleast 2 years and my fiance agrees with me. But we also catch ourselves thinking about babies… now.
My question is how long did you wait, if you waited at all, and why was it the best decision?
Post # 3
What we’re oging to do is to try to avoid getting pregnant right away by paying attention to my cycles/charting… but not being too too over the top. It’d be nice to have some time to ourselves… but we’re not getting any younger and we’d be happy with a little blessing 😀
Post # 4
I was really to start TTC the day we got pregnant, but it took my husband a couple months after the wedding before he felt ready. We’re both 34 and we want 2 kids, so I felt like time was a wastin’. We’d been together for 4 years and lived together for 2, so I didn’t feel like we needed more time alone as a couple.
Post # 5
We had our daughter before. The plan was to start TTC 2-3 months before our wedding. We got ahead of ourselves & got pregnant 7 months earlier instead …lol
So we re-scheduled the wedding to this June 🙂 Just one extra member of the wedding party now 🙂
ETA: we were also together for 7 years before I got pregnant, so we had lots of time with just the two of us prior to getting pregnant!
Post # 6
We want to be married a few years (probably 3-5) first, but I can imagine it happening sooner and both of us being ok/happy about it.
Post # 7
We will be waiting a little more than a year. The biggest reason we were waiting was to get some more big vacations in. If it were for the travels, we may have only waited a few months to have just a bit more us time.
Post # 8
We started trying on our honeymoon. We’d lived together for 4 years and didn’t feel we needed anymore “us alone” time. We wanted a baby, and actually had a very short engagement because of it (we wanted to be married before trying). It was the best decision for us, but it’s different for everyone, of course.
Post # 9
We’ve been married two years and still aren’t ready. Maybe soon, but as of right now we are still soaking up some “us” time. Fwilike we’re living togetherbefore 2 years before we got married and it still doesn’t feel like enough time, but that’s just us 🙂
Post # 10
Oops! My post shoul have read, “the day we got married” – not the day we got pregnant, lol!
Post # 11
@78h2o: Haha I noticed that and thought it was funny!
We will have been married almost two years when we start trying. We’ve been together for 9 years, lived together a little over a year before the wedding, but I definitely did want some time to be married and just the two of us before starting. If we were much older, though, I would have tried to move the timeline up. Personally, I was ready at the beginning of this year (a little over a year after the wedding) but H wanted one last summer of just us, plus wanted to get one more big bonus from work before adding the costs of a baby to our lives!
So, we’ll be starting about 20 months after the wedding.
Post # 12
Darling Husband & I had been together for 12 years before the wedding (living together for 10), so we’d had over a decade of “alone time”. DS wasn’t “exactly” planned…he was a wedding night baby, literally. We weren’t trying, we were not NOT trying & it worked out pretty near perfectly. He’s 16 m/o & we’re doing GREAT as a family. I think what’s made it so smooth is that Darling Husband & I had such a good long time together to understand our own quirks, to get used to living in each other’s space, to learn & become comfortable with each other’s strengths & weaknesses. So now that DS is part of the family, Darling Husband & I work as a pretty seamless team. While we didn’t “wait” after marriage, if someone asked my advice/opinion, I’d say couples should live a couple of years together before trying…it makes for a great team of parents.
Post # 13
We planned to wait at least a year, but no more than 3, before having kids. But we got pregnant a month and a half after the wedding – surprise! While we’re extremely excited, I wish we had more time to just enjoy each other and take a summer vacation alone together this year. Once you start having kids, you inherit a 24 hour a day, 7 day a week, for the rest of your life job. Why rush?