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DH and I were married a week ago today. We didn't live together until after we got married, so this living together business is all brand new to us. It's going very well and we're both very happy.
However, I am a girly girl and love my makeup, and while we were dating I always made sure I had makeup on when he came over. I confess I even slept with makeup on while we were dating. Before bedtime we were usually having drinks or watching TV, and when we would go to bed I didn't want to interrupt the romance of the moment by going to wash my face, LOL.
He used to tell me that he loved seeing me with no makeup on, but the truth is, he has never seen me with no makeup on, LOL. In the morning after showering I would do a very light, natural, "nude" style of makeup that was extremely subtle.
Anyway now that we are under one roof together I have slowly started easing up. Last night after my shower I put on the lightest of makeup, just a smidge of foundation on one cheek to cover a sun spot, a teeny bit of light lipstick, a hint of blush and a teeny amount of light brown eyeshadow. Plus my pretty new lingerie set. We watched a movie and when we went to bed I didn't take off my makeup again.
I know this is not good for my skin!! I've heard that if you don't wash off your makeup it makes your pores get larger.
I know the day is coming when he is going to see my naked face and I'm still trying to avoid it. I know I am being silly on some level but it's insecurity on my part. Are there any other makeup loving bees who have been there and done that? Any advice or thoughts? Thanks!
Erm... The morning after our first date! We showered together a lot early in our relationship so he always saw me without makeup.
Really, I think you need to start letting him see you without makeup. I know that I look much prettier with my makeup, but he can barely see a difference!
Advice: Don't put makeup on after you shower. Don't say anything about it to him, just go with the flow! I am sure he will think you are GORGEOUS without it! :-)
My husband seen me without make up very early on in our relationship, like a few weeks or maybe a couple of months. We was teens (15 & 17) when we started dating. So when he came over from the first of our relationship I always did my make up. But after a few weeks or so I stopped doing it when he just came over to visit if we wasn't going out.
I don't even remember, because it wasn't an important issue. I'm assuming he saw me at work many times without makeup before asking me out. I was serving/bartending and I would sweat a lot (outside place in the summer, makeup would have melted right off), so I went many nights to work maybe just wearing chapstick.
I met my FI online but the very first picture I sent him was no makeup. I kinda figured if he wasn't gonna like me 100% natural he wasn't worth my time. I like doing my makeup for me. I have no qualms what so ever about him seeing me without makeup.
Can I ask what you're afraid would happen if he saw you without makeup on? I mean, I make an effort to look good for my husband, but there are times he's seen me looking like something that got caught in a drain, especially after being up all night with an infant or when I'm cooking up a storm.
Even your "low key" routine sounds like a LOT. Foundation, blush, eye shadow, lipstick, lingerie, and you're just gong to bed? That sounds nice and all, but it's going to be a pain in the ass trying to maintain that for a lifetime.
My advice? Go get some yoga pants and a tee shirt. Scrub your face clean, slap on some moisturizer and call it a night. Go to bed. Put your hair up in a messy bun. Face your fear and see what happens. You don't have to turn into a slob, you just have to understand that he's your husband, he will love you either way.
I don't know. Probably right away. I wasn't ashamed of it.
This came up a couple weeks ago and I'm kind of baffled. I'm a girly-girl, too, but my makeup fades over the course of the day. I sometimes reapply to go out, but never just to see Mr. Mink.
Can you figure out why you're afraid of him seeing the natural you? Are you afraid that he somehow won't like you? Do you think you aren't attractive without product on your face?
I think you need to do some things to boost your confidence. Your routine is not just about being a girly-girl.
wow I can't believe you're married and your DH has never seen you without makeup. That must be so challenging! DH saw me without make up on the day we met! We met in high school and I never wore make up in high school. He has definitely seen me at my worst. DH also likes the natural look a lot better. Nowadays I wear make up more often but DH always sees me without make up. I flaunt it!
FI and I were best friends before we started dating, so he saw me quite often with no makeup. We met in college, with lots of early classes, so needless to say I wasnt always dolled up... Thankfully that made the transition to living together easier, because we both knew what we were getting in to!!! Haha
The night FI and I reconnected he saw me without makeup.
We were orignially just meeting for coffee, and then I was spending the weekend with my bestie. He invited me to go to the desert and ride for four days. Needless to say, I didnt even shower from Thursday until Sunday night.
Although, I will say, I used to HATE skyping him without makeup, since the picture quality sucks so bad on my webcam to begin with. But eh, I am over it now.
My BF and I don't live together yet, but he has seen me without makeup a lot. Sometimes when I don't feel good and he stops by, I don't bother putting on my face. He can't really tell, or doesn't really care anyway. He always tells me I'm pretty either way. I'm absolutely sure it won't bother your husband at all that you didn't put makeup on. He will think you are beautiful no matter what! He married you! Plus, you are at home and you should be able to be comfortable in your own house.
Wow. DH saw me without makeup on our first date bc I don't wear any and very proud of it! What are you so scared of? DH and alot of guys I know, actually can't stand makeup especially when girls wear a ton of it. Just saying!
@Andr0meda: I put on makeup everyday to leave the house, but I never wear makeup at home other than lip chap/balm.
Within the first few weeks for sure! I put on make-up to go to work and it fades throughout the day. During summer vacation (I'm a teacher) if I don't have anywhere important to go I don't put on any make-up. Since DH and I started dating in late May I'm sure he probably came over and saw me without makeup by the 2nd week of June!
I suggest you just get it over with. Take a shower one night and go from there. I don't know how your DH doesn't see you without make-up in the mornings. I get out the shower, get dressed in the bedroom and then put my mak-up on in the bathroom. DH witnesses the whole routine. Do you lock yourself in the bathroom? Also, I think your DH really has seen you without makeup. Even if you put it on before you go to bed, I would think it rubs off onto the pillow case during the night while you sleep. When you first wake up in the morning, I would think you don't have much if any make-up left on your face. Unless you always awaken before him and get yourself gussied up before he sees you - I think you've already gotten this overwith without knowing it!
FI and I dated the first time around in high school and often slept at the same house (my deceased best friend's house, her younger brother is best friends with my FI) so he saw me without makeup all the time. I don't normally wear any makeup unless we're going out, so it wasn't ever an issue with us.
Like a week or two into the relationship. We started dating in the summer, we went swimming together a lot, and makeup comes off in water. Sooo yeah. Haha. It wasn't that big of a deal for me, even though I'm a huuuuge makeup girl. Like I'd never go out with a bare face, but the person who you're in a relationship should like your face makeup or not.
My SO and I don't live together, but WOW girl you must have put in a lot of work to keep that up, haha! I LOVE makeup, I rarely go out without it, but my SO saw me without makeup within the first month of our dating. We would going hiking, skiing, swimming, to the gym and so I wasn't wearing makeup. I still wear it most days, but not if we're just hanging out at one of our places.
I used to be like you when I was with my ex (like a decade ago) and couldn't handle even being ALIVE without my makeup on, haha. I wouldn't even let my face get wet while we were swimming! I think I was just very self-conscious back then about my skin.
Now, many years later and with my current partner, I can't even remember what the big deal was back then. FI sees me without any makeup all the time and doesn't seem to care or notice whether I'm wearing it or not. :)
I don't leave the house without at least a little bit of makeup. I have a ton of freckles and blonde eyelashes so at the bare minimum, I slap on some tinted moisturizer and blackest black mascara. However, it was pretty early on that FI saw me without anything on my face. Not long after we started living together, we shared a horrendous 24 hour stomach virus while living in a house with only one bathroom. It was awful! We both still shudder at even the mention of it. After that, no makeup and sweats were a breeze.
I agree with PP though.... Time to just wash your face and roll with it. I'm suyou've loved you regardless and won't say a thing. Besidesit would you rather him see your natural face or notice that dingy spot in your pillow from your make up?
Hmm..Well a lot of times when im camming with him I dont have make up on. And the first day we met, I wasnt really a makeup-holic. I went through a stage of full face make up to no mak up at all-- and thts when I met him. I didnt have much make up on - and it was completly natural. Im kind of nervous too for the day where he sees me face to face with absolutely not a zilch of make up but Ima suck it up and do it. Ima live with him FOREVER lol.. what else am I gonna do?
my advice : JUST GEt IT OVER WITH. youll feel so much better when he finally does see you that it wont be something you worry about it no more! he loves you for you married you for you! not cuz you have make up on.. and if your worried that he wont find you as pretty--- hun, to him your the most beautiful girl in the world... Even if your hair is all knotty and ur wearing sweatpants and u hav chocolate all over your face, Hes going to be crazy about you nonetheless!
Wow, you put make up on before you go to bed? What's the point of washing your face in the shower at night time then? FI saw me without make up, looking like a rag about a month and a half after we started dating. I had to have emergency surgery to get my toncils out and the week after, I was told I looked like death. I only wanted FI around me, so he saw me at my worse pretty early on.
I wasn't wearing any when he first met me, because I had just got home from a long day of work/school and hadn't done any touch up all day. I didn't know he was gonna be at my house since he was a new friend of my ex and my ex never told me when he was gonna have friends over.
Wow that seems like a lot of work! Early on in our relationship we spent a week at our cottage , needless to say - make up free . Dont worry I am sure he will still love you ;)
hahahaha...seeing as we were good friends in college, and I was a dance major, he saw me without makeup A LOT. There was no point in putting on makeup for class only to sweat it off!
I rarely wear make up, so FI has seen me without it almost from day one. That's one of the things that he likes about me, that I'm confident enough to not have to put it on all of the time, just when I feel like it.
I think after two weeks. I got drunk and slept in the guest room, and getting up in the morning it was either wash the racoon eyes away or deal with the insane looking makeup. So I washed haha!
We ended up moving in together after 8 months and then it was every day. For me... daily I wear foundation, bronzer and blush and that's it! For dates I add in eyemakeup and lip gloss, so really there isn't much difference between no makeup me and everyday me.
Haivng him see you without makeup shouldn't be a big deal! Be confident about who you are. He married you for your heart and soul too... not just your looks :)
My FI saw me without make up after our first week of dating. He came over early in the morning, while I was still getting ready & I didnt care. He always compliments me on my skin and how nice it is.
We first met through work (military) and I am not allowed to wear make up at work. Well, I could wear foundation and a little mascara, I suppose, but I don't really bother with makeup unless I'm doing the whole thing. I am pretty sure the first time we crossed paths (because we had the same trade then) I was on his ship for the day and we didn't talk at all.
But more to the point, I hardly ever wear makeup now because of my job. I'm sure once I start my new career and before that school in September I will go back to wearing it though, because I do like it.
It definitely isn't good for your skin to go to bed with make up on. I don't even think most men really notice much when it comes to make up. My fiance still gets confused over what eye shadow and mascara really are!
My FI saw me without makeup shortly after we met.... he prefers me without makeup, but I still put some on before we go out. When he proposed I wasn't wearing any, was in sweats and hadn't showered yet, lol. I bet he'll love you even more without makeup!
DH saw me without makeup before we ever started dating. We initially met while I was at cheerleading practice one day and he was introducing himself as our new trainer - so while I cheered I didn't wear much makeup at practice and was generally sweaty, he still thought I was pretty.
It was a few months before I let him see me with no make up because we went on a vacation and I wasn't going to wake up early to put make up on haha. Hw says he doesn't see a difference and I am beautiful without it but I always feel better with at least a coverup to even my skin and hide any red spots.
I rarely wear make-up, so he probably saw me without it before he saw me with it.
I'm always amazed when someone says their SO, especially if they are married, hasn't seen them without makeup on! I just don't even see how it's possible! You've never showered together, and/or he has never seen you just out of the shower? Your makeup doesn't rub off while you sleep, or give you racoon eyes in the morning?
I very rarely wear makeup, but I did make an effort to put on some for my first few dates with my current SO — tinted moisturizer, blush, mascara. All bets were off after about the third or so date when I showered at his apartment, though, and now I rarely wear it unless we're going out somewhere nice or I haven't seen him an a while and just feel like getting dolled up for him. He tells me I look beautiful with and without makeup on, but he absolutely hates a face heavily done-up. To be honest, by the time we usually get to see each other after work and other errands and activities, I'm freshly showered with a bare face, wet hair in a messy bun, and in my sweats.
I think it's nice to want to look good for your DH, but I promise he will think you look gorgeous either way and it will definitely get to be a hassle for you to keep up that routine! I agree with what a PP said — shower, throw on yoga pants and a t-shirt, and just walk out and face him. I bet you get a great compliment!
I wear very little makeup to begin with (light mascara and lip balm), but he saw me without makeup before we even started dating... we were on the same college cross country team and working out for hours a day does not go well with makeup. I'm lucky though, in that my FI hates when I wear any visible makeup.
I agree with some people. Are you afraid (deep down) that he wont like the way you look?? He shouldnt. and Im sure he doesnt. He will think your beautiful without your makeup.
It seems like a lot of unnecessary effort. I know that in previous relationships, I have gotten up and brushed my teeth and made sure I didnt look too hideous. But generally. I dont really care.
FI saw me with nomake up on probably in the 2nd week that we met. I was actually sick as a dog with the flu and he brought me medicine and took care of me. I DEFFFF didnt have make up on then, and I Surely wasnt even my normal "no makeup" self. haha.
Youll be fine. Just have trust. :)
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