Post # 1
Darling Husband and I were married a week ago today. We didn’t live together until after we got married, so this living together business is all brand new to us. It’s going very well and we’re both very happy.
However, I am a girly girl and love my makeup, and while we were dating I always made sure I had makeup on when he came over. I confess I even slept with makeup on while we were dating. Before bedtime we were usually having drinks or watching TV, and when we would go to bed I didn’t want to interrupt the romance of the moment by going to wash my face, LOL.
He used to tell me that he loved seeing me with no makeup on, but the truth is, he has never seen me with no makeup on, LOL. In the morning after showering I would do a very light, natural, “nude” style of makeup that was extremely subtle.
Anyway now that we are under one roof together I have slowly started easing up. Last night after my shower I put on the lightest of makeup, just a smidge of foundation on one cheek to cover a sun spot, a teeny bit of light lipstick, a hint of blush and a teeny amount of light brown eyeshadow. Plus my pretty new lingerie set. We watched a movie and when we went to bed I didn’t take off my makeup again.
I know this is not good for my skin!! I’ve heard that if you don’t wash off your makeup it makes your pores get larger.
I know the day is coming when he is going to see my naked face and I’m still trying to avoid it. I know I am being silly on some level but it’s insecurity on my part. Are there any other makeup loving bees who have been there and done that? Any advice or thoughts? Thanks!
Post # 3
Erm… The morning after our first date! We showered together a lot early in our relationship so he always saw me without makeup.
Really, I think you need to start letting him see you without makeup. I know that I look much prettier with my makeup, but he can barely see a difference!
Post # 4
Advice: Don’t put makeup on after you shower. Don’t say anything about it to him, just go with the flow! I am sure he will think you are GORGEOUS without it! 🙂
My husband seen me without make up very early on in our relationship, like a few weeks or maybe a couple of months. We was teens (15 & 17) when we started dating. So when he came over from the first of our relationship I always did my make up. But after a few weeks or so I stopped doing it when he just came over to visit if we wasn’t going out.
Post # 5
I don’t even remember, because it wasn’t an important issue. I’m assuming he saw me at work many times without makeup before asking me out. I was serving/bartending and I would sweat a lot (outside place in the summer, makeup would have melted right off), so I went many nights to work maybe just wearing chapstick.
Post # 6
I met my Fiance online but the very first picture I sent him was no makeup. I kinda figured if he wasn’t gonna like me 100% natural he wasn’t worth my time. I like doing my makeup for me. I have no qualms what so ever about him seeing me without makeup.
Post # 7
Can I ask what you’re afraid would happen if he saw you without makeup on? I mean, I make an effort to look good for my husband, but there are times he’s seen me looking like something that got caught in a drain, especially after being up all night with an infant or when I’m cooking up a storm.
Even your “low key” routine sounds like a LOT. Foundation, blush, eye shadow, lipstick, lingerie, and you’re just gong to bed? That sounds nice and all, but it’s going to be a pain in the ass trying to maintain that for a lifetime.
My advice? Go get some yoga pants and a tee shirt. Scrub your face clean, slap on some moisturizer and call it a night. Go to bed. Put your hair up in a messy bun. Face your fear and see what happens. You don’t have to turn into a slob, you just have to understand that he’s your husband, he will love you either way.
Post # 8
I don’t know. Probably right away. I wasn’t ashamed of it.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
This came up a couple weeks ago and I’m kind of baffled. I’m a girly-girl, too, but my makeup fades over the course of the day. I sometimes reapply to go out, but never just to see Mr. Mink.
Can you figure out why you’re afraid of him seeing the natural you? Are you afraid that he somehow won’t like you? Do you think you aren’t attractive without product on your face?
I think you need to do some things to boost your confidence. Your routine is not just about being a girly-girl.
Post # 10
wow I can’t believe you’re married and your Darling Husband has never seen you without makeup. That must be so challenging! Darling Husband saw me without make up on the day we met! We met in high school and I never wore make up in high school. He has definitely seen me at my worst. Darling Husband also likes the natural look a lot better. Nowadays I wear make up more often but Darling Husband always sees me without make up. I flaunt it!
Post # 11
Fiance and I were best friends before we started dating, so he saw me quite often with no makeup. We met in college, with lots of early classes, so needless to say I wasnt always dolled up… Thankfully that made the transition to living together easier, because we both knew what we were getting in to!!! Haha
Post # 12
The night Fiance and I reconnected he saw me without makeup.
We were orignially just meeting for coffee, and then I was spending the weekend with my bestie. He invited me to go to the desert and ride for four days. Needless to say, I didnt even shower from Thursday until Sunday night.
Although, I will say, I used to HATE skyping him without makeup, since the picture quality sucks so bad on my webcam to begin with. But eh, I am over it now.
Post # 13
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I don’t live together yet, but he has seen me without makeup a lot. Sometimes when I don’t feel good and he stops by, I don’t bother putting on my face. He can’t really tell, or doesn’t really care anyway. He always tells me I’m pretty either way. I’m absolutely sure it won’t bother your husband at all that you didn’t put makeup on. He will think you are beautiful no matter what! He married you! Plus, you are at home and you should be able to be comfortable in your own house.
Post # 14
Wow. Darling Husband saw me without makeup on our first date bc I don’t wear any and very proud of it! What are you so scared of? Darling Husband and alot of guys I know, actually can’t stand makeup especially when girls wear a ton of it. Just saying!
Post # 15
@Andr0meda: I put on makeup everyday to leave the house, but I never wear makeup at home other than lip chap/balm.