Post # 1
I have been asked probably around 8 times today when the wedding is, what are our colors, do we want it outside or at his church, and I had this deer in headlights look and sort of shrugged. None of those things have even crossed my mind yet (to be fair I’ve been engaged 1 day now). So when did you all start actually planning your wedding? I don’t even think I’ve fully settled into being engaged yet, someone called him my fiance today and I was just like “oh yeh” thinking that sounded strange although I rarely ever referred to him as my bf, we’ve always just been us as best friends, when we started dating I never called him my bf to people, he was still just regular ole’ Joe to me. I guess we had just become a staple by then as it was assumed we would always be a pair…. I’m rambling. Sorry. When are you supposed to start planning, I was just hoping to be just us but engaged for a while, lol.
Post # 3
You start planning when you are ready, not on everyone else’s schedule. Keep in mind, that certain vendors (venue, caterer, photographer, etc) require you to book them a year or more in advance to secure your date, especially if they are popular. If you are extremely laid back and don’t care about details or having certain vendors, then you can put together a wedding last-minute but that isn’t for the faint of heart or disorganized/distracted couple.
Post # 4
@Bram: I think it really depends on how soon you and your Fiance want to have the wedding. If it is within a short time frame, you are going to have to start planning a lot more quickly than if it is a year or 2 away. Regardless, take some time and just enjoy being engaged!
Personally, my Fiance proposed in the middle of March, and we are getting married October 6th of this year. Because of our short time line, I know I have so much planning to do, therefore my time to simply enjoy being engaged is limited! When people ask me questions I still feel like a deer in the headlights…especially when I am asked about small details and I am still trying to manage big picture/ major items. Planning a wedding can become far to overwhelming if you try and listen to everyone, do what makes you feel right and hopefully the planning process will be a positive one for you!
Post # 5
Also dont feel like you have to respond to each question that people ask about your wedding. Not everyone is interested in sharing details and people tend to give unsoliicted advice when it comes to weddings, and their advice doesn’t matter since it is your wedding, not theirs.
Post # 6
@Bram: Ha! I totally know how this feels! I have been engaged for just over 5 months and I still can’t call him my fiance without having a giggle! Take your time and enjoy it, plan when you are ready to and check out this website http://browse.realsimple.com/holidays-entertaining/weddings/index.html
It has a handy little planning timeline and checklist. They also sell it in magazine form and you can find it in most stores that sell magazines. It was really helpful and takes you through everything from deciding and laying out your budget, location, flowers to vows and the type of feel you’re going for…it’s so helpful and really helped settle my planning jitters!
Hope this helps!