Post # 1
I am in waiting, but my SO talks about marriage A LOT. He really has our future together at the top of his priority list. Now, that he has purchased the house he says its time for him to marry his wife. Wow, I am so ready! Since he talks about it so much especially lately I’m wondering if I should be saving some money every month evn though he hasn’t proposed yet?
Did anyone else save money before the proposal? About how much?
Well, thanks ladies,
Post # 3
We did not start saving until after the proposal. However, we knew we’d have a longer engagement so it wasn’t too much of an issue. An extra month or two wouldn’t have mattered much.
What about just bringing it up to him? Just ask if he thinks it’s a good idea to start putting money aside for the wedding.
Post # 4
About a year out, once we knew we were definitely gettting married. after the proposal
Post # 5
I started saving in February when I got my job. He proposed on Christmas Eve.
Post # 6
I saved for my wedding for years before we were engaged – this was because my parents and I had the discussion of “paying for the wedding” years earlier & I knew my parents could only contribute a percentage.
So I put a little money aside for years, knowing one day I would spend that on my wedding.
So this saving wasn’t so much for my husband and I (we were together, but neither one of us was ready to get married any time soon) it was more an understanding of knowing that a portion of my savings would go toward my future wedding.
Post # 7
It definitely wouldn’t hurt to start saving now for your wedding. We didn’t start saving until after he had proposed.
Post # 8
I did. I mean, it was kind of a general personal savings plan, but I set aside $$ whenever I could just to get a head start. Then after the proposal I let it slide horribly and am now on a super savings crunch…so learn from me, and save, no matter what! The worst that can happen is you’ll have some extra money set aside.
Post # 9
@MsJeep23: You right it would be nice to go ahead and save… extra money won’t hurt anybody!
Post # 10
i started after we got engaged. We got engaged April of 2010 and I started saving in July and have been ever since! It was more because I graduated college in May and didn’t really have money to save. But since I started my job in July I started saving from the get go
Post # 11
I had a savings going for years, and after college (between grad money, and just a lot of saving from work) I created a nice cushion, you know, my “emergency fund.” Well, I realized we would be funding a good portion of the wedding, so that became my Wedding Fund. I still wanted to save some for emergencies, but I have used some for wedding purchases, as well. I actually have been really good about paying off my credit card as I go and haven’t had to dip into that fund too much. The savings really started about 3 years ago (after we had been dating over a year) and we are getting married this fall.
Post # 12
Hm I guess were not really saving for the wedding just buying as we go… but I’ll set aside some money from my tax return to use on the honeymoon XD
Post # 13
I’ve been saving since I graduated college!
The money wasn’t necesarily for a wedding, but I dreamed about a wedding every time I look at my savings account. I started dreaming about FI and I’s wedding after we’d been dating for a month- I just knew he’d be The One!
Post # 14
Aw everyone has wonderful answers… I reckon it wouldn’t hurt anything to go about saving now.
Post # 15
We were engaged this past november and started saving a month later. We went into the bank to discuss a bi-weekly payment that would come out of our accounts each week to be put into a separate “wedding savings account”. We’ve also put a couple of larger sums in there, most recently from our tax returns. We make sure that if one us puts something in, the other person matches it.
Post # 16
We started saving and budgeting as soon as we were engaged.