- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
How early did you start planning?
We got engaged on January 1 of last year, decided we didn’t want a very long engagement, and started booking things in mid to late January since venues and vendors book early in this city.
What influenced you to plan early? Or not so early?
I wanted to make sure we were happy with our venue and photographer (nothing would be sadder than falling in love with either one of those and finding out it was booked the rest of the year), so we got a jump-start on those. We kept a pretty steady pace in wedding planning – we booked about a vendor a week for the first couple months, but I didn’t feel a rush to get everything done super far in advance.
Do you feel like you needed more time? Could have went with less time?
10 months was probably the perfect amount of time for us to be engaged, although if you had asked me the week of the wedding, I would’ve loved one more week or two to wrap up DIY projects. I think we could’ve comfortably planned everything in 5-6 months. It did take about 5 months for my dress to come in once I ordered it, and when we booked our photogs we picked the very last weekend they were available for the whole year – so I’m glad we had the extra time to spare,
Is there anything you would have changed if you had more time for planning?
Probably not, other than the fact that a lot of the handmade decorations I labored over with my in-laws ended up getting left at my house the weekend of the wedding – I wish I had had a little more time to organize all of the wedding stuff into boxes, with specific instructions on what needed to be set up where at the venue. I was a little sad all of these details got left out. But I wouldn’t have changed much else… Ultimately, the BEST parts of our wedding were the company (so many people we love in one place!), the food (BBQ, mashed potatoes, and ice cream!), and the party (we kept the booze flowing and played music to our audience, and everyone danced for the whole reception…it was amazing). We got a lot of compliments on all of the little details and DIY projects, but I know the atmosphere (most of our guests had never been to a low-key outdoor wedding before) and the mood we created were the main drivers of fun, if that makes sense haha.
How often to you get comments about how early [or how late!] you started your planning from people IRL?
I never got comments about that – I guess a 10-12 month engagement is fairly typical, at least in this area. The only comment I got was from my FIL, who was surprised we wanted to come up with a guest list and budget so soon after getting engaged. But I don’t remember anyone else commenting on our wedding planning timeline.