(Closed) When did you start wedding planning?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We started planning 2 years out.

WE live in a small town with limited vendors, i wanted to guarantee that i would get who i wanted.

I think i timed it perfectly.

I wouldnt change a thing

Rarely

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Oh yay I love threads like these!

How early did you start planning?

We got engaged in May 2012 and we pretty much started planning a few weeks later.

What influenced you to plan early? Or not so early?

Both my fiancé and I are perfectionists and want our day to be just as we had imagined.

Do you feel like you needed more time? Could have went with less time?

We plan on having evertything settled by the end of April, which is really early considering our wedding is in September. We could have delayed the planning and it would have been fine.

Is there anything you would have changed if you had more time for planning?

No.

How often to you get comments about how early [or how late!] you started your planning from people IRL?

Vendors are often the most surprised at how organized we are and how much we’ve already done.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@jenilynevette:  

How early did you start planning? As soon as I got engaged pretty much, but I had less than a year to plan.

What influenced you to plan early? Or not so early?  We had to decide on the location and pick a date to reserve the venue since ASAP since we were planning on a destination wedding

Do you feel like you needed more time? Could have went with less time? I don’t think I needed to plan as early as I did. I probably would have picked a different venue had I done more research, but who knows.

Is there anything you would have changed if you had more time for planning?  More time probably wouldn’t have made a difference, but just wish there was more information available online about venues for weddings in Cayman with actually reviews from brides who have gotten married there

How often to you get comments about how early [or how late!] you started your planning from people IRL?  Never. I think I did everything pretty much when they expected me to?  I don’t know. I am pretty organized but I’m not crazy anal about things either

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We decided to get married late February, got married 6 months later.

Once we decided on a date that would work for everyone that we really wanted to be part of our celebration, it took about a day to plan the whole thing.  Once we made sure the church was available, our next stop was the venue, where we know the owner well, and asked,  “you do private parties, don’t you….is September 22 available?” And once we told him why, his response was “if it isn’t it will be in about 5 minutes”.  Done.

Picked out my dress online, went twice with friends and then my sister and ece to let them see it, so that took pretty much minutes.  Shoes etc. minutes. 

Didn’t even bother to order flowers and get a photographer until the month I got married.

Very easy, no stress, and it was a wonderful day.

 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

How early did you start planning? I started planning in July 2012 for my October 2013 wedding

What influenced you to plan early? Or not so early? I was super paranoid about things getting booked up. There were only a few venues that my FI and I really liked and I didn’t want them getting away (same thing with our other vendors). And I LOVE wedding planning so I was really excited to start 🙂

Do you feel like you needed more time? Could have went with less time? Sometimes I wish we wouldn’t have waited as long. I’m pretty much just hoping this year goes by fast because I’m ready to marry this man!

Is there anything you would have changed if you had more time for planning? Actually, sometimes I think having so much time has hurt me. I constantly see new/different things and question the choices I’ve already made. So far I haven’t changed anything and don’t plan to but it bugs me when I second guess myself. Haha

How often to you get comments about how early [or how late!] you started your planning from people IRL? I actually haven’t gotten that many comments like that. Mainly just a few from the vendors. My FI has mentioned that he wishes we wouldn’t have waited so long (like I mentioned above)

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

How early did you start planning? A couple months before we got engaged, I knew he bought the ring. Our engagement is like 26 months. Very casual planning though – just scoping things out. 

What influenced you to plan early? Or not so early? I plan everything in life early. 

Do you feel like you needed more time? Could have went with less time? I change my mind a bunch so it’s probably good I had enough time to finalize and get something I really love.

Is there anything you would have changed if you had more time for planning? Maybe the venue. Ours is awesome but I found some other beautiful ones as well. 

How often to you get comments about how early [or how late!] you started your planning from people IRL? Early on, some vendors wouldn’t even respond or told me I was too early. Otherwise people would just be surprised at how much I had done. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

How early did you start planning?

We got engaged on January 1 of last year, decided we didn’t want a very long engagement, and started booking things in mid to late January since venues and vendors book early in this city. 

What influenced you to plan early? Or not so early?

I wanted to make sure we were happy with our venue and photographer (nothing would be sadder than falling in love with either one of those and finding out it was booked the rest of the year), so we got a jump-start on those. We kept a pretty steady pace in wedding planning – we booked about a vendor a week for the first couple months, but I didn’t feel a rush to get everything done super far in advance.

Do you feel like you needed more time? Could have went with less time?


10 months was probably the perfect amount of time for us to be engaged, although if you had asked me the week of the wedding, I would’ve loved one more week or two to wrap up DIY projects. I think we could’ve comfortably planned everything in 5-6 months. It did take about 5 months for my dress to come in once I ordered it, and when we booked our photogs we picked the very last weekend they were available for the whole year – so I’m glad we had the extra time to spare,

Is there anything you would have changed if you had more time for planning?


Probably not, other than the fact that a lot of the handmade decorations I labored over with my in-laws ended up getting left at my house the weekend of the wedding – I wish I had had a little more time to organize all of the wedding stuff into boxes, with specific instructions on what needed to be set up where at the venue. I was a little sad all of these details got left out. But I wouldn’t have changed much else… Ultimately, the BEST parts of our wedding were the company (so many people we love in one place!), the food (BBQ, mashed potatoes, and ice cream!), and the party (we kept the booze flowing and played music to our audience, and everyone danced for the whole reception…it was amazing). We got a lot of compliments on all of the little details and DIY projects, but I know the atmosphere (most of our guests had never been to a low-key outdoor wedding before) and the mood we created were the main drivers of fun, if that makes sense haha.

How often to you get comments about how early [or how late!] you started your planning from people IRL?


I never got comments about that – I guess a 10-12 month engagement is fairly typical, at least in this area. The only comment I got was from my FIL, who was surprised we wanted to come up with a guest list and budget so soon after getting engaged. But I don’t remember anyone else commenting on our wedding planning timeline.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

How early did you start planning?

We were engaged in November of 2013 and started planning two months later with about 16 months to get everything done.

What influenced you to plan early? Or not so early?

I am the type of person who likes to get things done early to avoid last minute stress. I wanted to kind of rush with planning so FI and I could do what we wanted without everyone adding in their extra “advice”.

Do you feel like you needed more time? Could have went with less time?

I am not sure… lol but I liked reading other’s answers.

Is there anything you would have changed if you had more time for planning?

Not yet. But I am sure that I will have enough time to change my mind if need be. I have enough free time right now that I took my sweet time finding a venue which was the most important to my FI and I.

How often to you get comments about how early [or how late!] you started your planning from people IRL?

Everyone tells me I am rushing. BUT… we looked for e-rings for a good 6 months before we found “the one” so maybe if we had found a ring in the beginning I dont think people would say much. Most family knows how I am with planning. I have Christmas shopping usually done and wrapped by October. I start planning parties months and months in advanced… it’s just what works for me. =)

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I will play:

We started planning the day we fot engaged (V day last year). On the way home from our date we finalized our date LOL. 

I wanted to be extremely organized and planned for a couple reasons. 1) It made budgeting so much easier (we made monthly payments to the venue and had it paid off in Nov) 2) I am a teacher… enough said 3) I was off all summer (well sorta I worked a part time job just for extra wedding fund money and my best friend and I got paid to plan stuff all day lol 4) I was a bridesmaid in my other best friends wedding last year and it was so UN planned and chaotic and stresstful in the months leading up to her big day and even the day of and I vowed to myself and our best friend my wedding planning would be so mucb smoother (and it has bee. 

I did get the occasional “Wow ur planning early” from a few people. The comments that bugged me the most came from the unorganized bride friend whose wedding we were in last April. She constantly tells me hoq organized and planned I am and how she wasnt. Its kinda annoying  But at least she notices it right?

I wouldnt change a thing about planning. 13 months was the perfect engagement length for US. Not for everyome. Some need longer. My best friend and her FI were engaged 9-29-12 and are planning their wedding for 5-18-13 so a little over a 7 month engagement. It works for then because they are having a small wedding so less to plan/worry about. She says I stress her out becauze I asked for her bridal shower guest list. Her shower is 4-27 and the invites would be getting mailed out tue week of my wedding so I wanted to get them done early lol. Shes not a plan aheader like I am. 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

How early did you start planning? We got engaged February 2012, but we’d been discussing marriage seriously for about nine months prior. I started looking into/pseudo planning around then, to get an idea of a budget, started a Pinterest board, etc. We really started planning in April-ish of last year, with a wedding date August 2013.

What influenced you to plan early? Or not so early? I like getting stuff DONE and out of the way. I kept hearing how stressful wedding planning is, and how the last week before the wedding is super stressful, so I thought I’d get a jump on things. It was actually really nice because I designed our invitations but didn’t feel like they were quite right, ignored them for a while, and then came back to them and the wording I wanted just flowed out. Our theme/colors were pretty easy to pull out once I went through my Pinterest board and deleted all of the outliers, as I call them. I had a pretty cohesive look after that.

Do you feel like you needed more time? Could have went with less time? Honestly, we could have planned this in a few months if we’d had the money.

Is there anything you would have changed if you had more time for planning? Nope.

How often to you get comments about how early [or how late!] you started your planning from people IRL? Not that often for anything negative. I did right at the beginning about how I’ll “change [my] mind,” but that has yet to happen, almost a year later. Things just keep falling into place, but I’m really good at this kind of thing. The vast majority of these kinds of comments have been positive, commending us on starting early and getting things done when we can so that we’re not scrambling last-minute, especially because of all of the DIY stuff. I did have some comments wanting to know why our engagement was so long, but that was mostly from older folks.

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